Date recap - ideas for a second date

marmel75

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I used to have good success with quick bite and a movie date for date number 2. They almost always paid for the movie after i picked up dinner(usually at a relatively inexpensive quick service type place...$25 max).

Then I would let my hand start wandering once the movie started...on their knee...up their thigh...rub their pvssy through their jeans eventually...

I ALWAYS made sure whatever I chose in the beginning it gave me opportunities to escalate...if you are not doing this you are making things a lot harder on yourself...
 

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Then I would let my hand start wandering once the movie started...on their knee...up their thigh...rub their pvssy through their jeans eventually...

I ALWAYS made sure whatever I chose in the beginning it gave me opportunities to escalate...if you are not doing this you are making things a lot harder on yourself...
With this one, we did all above during the first date when we were in the back at the second bar. She was also reaching out every other day up until the blowout. Completely strange situation. Still a bit dumbfounded.
 

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As ironic as this sounds, check this. I've not been on Facebook for at least 2 years. There is nothing on my profile but a pic. This one lady is traveling and wants to chat with me while she's international. We've already been naked and such, so I guess no problem. She asked me for my FB messenger, so I had to reset the password and logged in and messaged her.

Apparently I had a message from this woman above apologizing for when she acted so poorly and sh!tty as stated above. I never received the message notification because I didn't have the app installed. However, I never even gave her my FB. Since we were texting, I am not sure why she went through FB. The FB message literally says I apologize for my behavior last night. I didn't know you can search for a person on FB without knowing their full name. Perhaps she searched by cell number?

Ideas on what to do. It's been 3 weeks, do I reach out again? I just do not know why she would reach out via FB, when she has my cell number. I do not think I've ever messaged on FB, as I am not on social at all.
 

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Yeah FB makes friends suggestions based on the phone numbers you have stored on your phone (this happened because she had FB Messenger and your ph no in her contacts).

As for reaching out...she sounds (if I recall from previously reading this thread) like someone who will be a handful and any little thing could tick her off. But, you can always go out, have fun and when it gets to be crazy, break it off.
 

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Yeah FB makes friends suggestions based on the phone numbers you have stored on your phone (this happened because she had FB Messenger and your ph no in her contacts).

As for reaching out...she sounds (if I recall from previously reading this thread) like someone who will be a handful and any little thing could tick her off. But, you can always go out, have fun and when it gets to be crazy, break it off.
Yea, she's the one who called me arrogant and ****s for saying she was lucky she was going to a comedy show with me to make her feel better and happy. Prob is, she was a good kisser, nice boobs, nice ass, so there was a connection. Not sure if 3 weeks is too late to respond to give her a second chance. Again, not sure why she'd send me a messenger text when we've never communicated through messenger before. All before has been either through the dating app, text or phone.
 

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Yea, she's the one who called me arrogant and ****s for saying she was lucky she was going to a comedy show with me to make her feel better and happy. Prob is, she was a good kisser, nice boobs, nice ass, so there was a connection. Not sure if 3 weeks is too late to respond to give her a second chance. Again, not sure why she'd send me a messenger text when we've never communicated through messenger before. All before has been either through the dating app, text or phone.
Don’t get sucked into her frame. Your instincts are right in questioning why she’s reaching out on FB. It is strange. Like you said why reach out on FB if she has your number.

Frankly, she’s only worth a lay at this point maybe FWB but that’s really pushing it. Put minimal effort in and get more women in the rotation and put this one toward the end of line.
 

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Yea, she's the one who called me arrogant and ****s for saying she was lucky she was going to a comedy show with me to make her feel better and happy. Prob is, she was a good kisser, nice boobs, nice ass, so there was a connection. Not sure if 3 weeks is too late to respond to give her a second chance. Again, not sure why she'd send me a messenger text when we've never communicated through messenger before. All before has been either through the dating app, text or phone.
Nah, it's never too late unless the woman tells you to not contact her. Depending on what she said I would take a screenshot of her msg and send that to her (via txt, not FB) along with a txt. I don't know, something like "Hey [name], I rarely use FB so I just saw this msg when I logged in. I just wanted to let you know that I appreciated it. It's too bad we started off on the wrong foot due to a silly misunderstanding but it happens. Hope you're doing well! :)"

Then see what and if she responds back.
 
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Bro, the woman reached out to you and said she's sorry. I do not know many women that do this nowadays. Take advantage of it and reach out. Say what Henry Hill suggested and meet up. Now, no activities, just meet for drinks and go from there. This is a do over. You'll probably get some play out of it. Then, if you want, the date after, do a Netflix and chill date AT HER PLACE preferably. Though, she obviously values you higher than her (that's why she swallowed her pride and reached out), so she wants to see your place. Let's just hope she swallows something else ;'p.

If/when she replies, make a date for Friday and meet for drinks. DO NOT bring up that miscommunication. Just say, no problem it all good, things happen. So, how was your week. Positive and happy thoughts and feelings make her juices flow. She probably reached out via FaceBook either because she was so pissed she deleted your text originally and didn't know how to contact you. So she found you on Facebook. Women rule the Facebook on how to find people.

RESET BUTTON AT WORK. SO NOW, GET IT DONE!
 

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Not sure if 3 weeks is too late to respond to give her a second chance. Again, not sure why she'd send me a messenger text when we've never communicated through messenger before. All before has been either through the dating app, text or phone.
Man, stop overthinking about every little beep, just follow your guts feeling. Text her if you like her. If she's still interested she will reply accordingly, if not, move on. pretty simple.
 

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Man, stop overthinking about every little beep, just follow your guts feeling. Text her if you like her. If she's still interested she will reply accordingly, if not, move on. pretty simple.
Diver Dan is right. Take a shot, if it misses, don't take it personally. In this case, since she reached out, you're just returning the favor.
 
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