thelittleprince
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OK so I got my latest article from a woman's dating advisory service I follow.
I'll quote the text below, I'm curious to know what are your thoughts?
Motivate a Man to Give
Instinctively, the core of manhood is to be a provider. Men obsess about their careers, being wealthy, and being admired because of these instincts. It’s all about power and social authority. You see it every day: once a man gets married and has a child, he becomes motivated to provide more for his family but then after a while that need dwindles a little.
Men need to feel that a woman can rely on them. A woman can help him feel like that by expressing her appreciation and confidence in him. Appreciation satisfies a man's sense of meaning and purpose.
To motivate a man to give, he must feel good when he is giving. However, it's smart to be financially independent because he needs to feel like he is giving freely rather than through obligation. If he feels exploited, the healthy power he once felt gets distorted, and he will become authoritative and controlling.
You can still stroke a man’s ego while remaining independent. Even if you are both aware that you can do anything he can do, from time to time make him feel as though he is in control and needed. When you stroke his ego in a subtle way, he won’t try to get power in a dominant way. Let him provide for you by following these tips:
Meanwhile, guess who is getting her way?
XXX
I'll quote the text below, I'm curious to know what are your thoughts?
Motivate a Man to Give
Instinctively, the core of manhood is to be a provider. Men obsess about their careers, being wealthy, and being admired because of these instincts. It’s all about power and social authority. You see it every day: once a man gets married and has a child, he becomes motivated to provide more for his family but then after a while that need dwindles a little.
Men need to feel that a woman can rely on them. A woman can help him feel like that by expressing her appreciation and confidence in him. Appreciation satisfies a man's sense of meaning and purpose.
To motivate a man to give, he must feel good when he is giving. However, it's smart to be financially independent because he needs to feel like he is giving freely rather than through obligation. If he feels exploited, the healthy power he once felt gets distorted, and he will become authoritative and controlling.
You can still stroke a man’s ego while remaining independent. Even if you are both aware that you can do anything he can do, from time to time make him feel as though he is in control and needed. When you stroke his ego in a subtle way, he won’t try to get power in a dominant way. Let him provide for you by following these tips:
- Thank him with a kiss for making or paying for dinner, a present, or a date.
- Praise him for a promotion or successful project.
- Tell him things like "I appreciate how hard you work to provide for us" and "I believe you are destined to be great and successful."
- Ask for his help with anything technical or related to the home, like hammering a nail for a painting or helping you with a computer installation.
- When he’s kind or generous, let him know he’s the "The Man".
Meanwhile, guess who is getting her way?
XXX