What you're essentially asking is "Do I need to compromise my own personality, emulating girls around me to appeal to them?"
IMO the answer to this is a resounding no. If you're changing how you act, your personality and what you do merely to appeal to a demographic of women, you're going to come across at best as weak and at worst as a snake-in-the-grass poser.
First of all, doing drugs and drinking excessively are weaknesses. Not saying you can't do either of those if you want, but be aware it's not exactly taking you down the road of being a healthier or more improved man. When I see a guy snorting coke and see his girlfriend getting p*ssed at his drug habit, I see that for what it is: a product of his weak will and low self-esteem. It lowers my opinion of the man, and is also a weakness another man can exploit over time if he wants to impress that guy's GF.
Do what you want to do and be yourself, but if you want to impress women (party girls or not), the most effective thing is to improve yourself as a man, not do a Tony Montana impression with the nearest big pile of coke.
