She'll get married soon and I got invited.

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My ex who is also my best friend is getting married two weeks from now and I got an invitation from her. I’m having second thoughts on going since our break up did not turn out well. We broke up five months ago but I’m still stuck in the rock bottom of pain. She is getting married with the man who works at a foreign restaurant in our city and whom she cheated me on with. I know I should be happy for them and I’m trying to be. Should I come? If I should, what would I say? I don’t think saying “Congratulations, I’m happy for the both of you” will do good for me. I’m just lying to myself if I come and say that.
 

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How are you still best friends with her after she cheated on you? It doesn't make sense to me.

Regardless, in my opinion don't show up and don't even congratulate, you don't have to play that game. Forget what's "expected".
 

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My ex who is also my best friend is getting married two weeks from now and I got an invitation from her. I’m having second thoughts on going since our break up did not turn out well. We broke up five months ago but I’m still stuck in the rock bottom of pain. She is getting married with the man who works at a foreign restaurant in our city and whom she cheated me on with. I know I should be happy for them and I’m trying to be. Should I come? If I should, what would I say? I don’t think saying “Congratulations, I’m happy for the both of you” will do good for me. I’m just lying to myself if I come and say that.
Too short of a period of time. I guess if you show up with a fine female go for it.
 

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My ex who is also my best friend is getting married two weeks from now and I got an invitation from her. I’m having second thoughts on going since our break up did not turn out well. We broke up five months ago but I’m still stuck in the rock bottom of pain. She is getting married with the man who works at a foreign restaurant in our city and whom she cheated me on with. I know I should be happy for them and I’m trying to be. Should I come? If I should, what would I say? I don’t think saying “Congratulations, I’m happy for the both of you” will do good for me. I’m just lying to myself if I come and say that.
She cucked you with some dude and now you’re considering going to their wedding? Full stop. Think about that for a while.

Sack up, reclaim your balls and start reading and learning about red pill theory. A good place to start is with therationalmale.com. Read the early stuff first.

-Augustus-
 

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stay home, no contact
 

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Common practice for some women to send the Ex’s a wedding invite. It’s your notification that she’s now taken for good without personally having to tell you, and you’re not expected to attend…

Same story here though, new member first post with the word ‘foreign’ in the post… Likely a bot.
 
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Common practice for some women to send the Ex’s a wedding invite. It’s your notification that she’s now taken for good without personally having to tell you, and you’re not expected to attend…

Same story here though, new member first post with the word ‘foreign’ in the post… Likely a bot.
serious I would laugh with something like that thinking what a damn bullet I dodge, that is not pissing on her ex its pissing on her soon to be cuc.. I mean husband
 
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I’m apeachless really. This is not even in the realm of understanding women or life.
First. You don’t understand Hypergamy. She was sleeping with him long before you broke up. This is so blatant that I’m having trouble understanding your question. If a woman marries a man after five months, he’s Brad Pitt with millions.

I personally DO NOT believe a woman and a man can be the same type of friends that you and your buddies experience. She doesn’t even think that way. There’s no possible way she could understand. I could say a lot of things here but it won’t help you.

You have so much to unlearn that I will not be negative about this. You have a huge journey to make. I don’t mean time wise. I mean the magnitude of the impact you are going to have when you switch realities. When you do...that old life and that girl will mean nothing. Dust. She deserves the men she gets. In three years she will be sucking new d!cks. Three years is when the boredom overtakes them.
 

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Find a hot date to take with...if you can't, don't go. More importantly what are you doing being friends with your ex unless she's a FWB...and best friends? dude...no.
 

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No wonder she left you.

She needed a strong man with principles/backbone whom she could feel safe with.

I guess she found and married him.

It's time to move on and grow some balls.
 

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Lol she cheated on you with this guy and, a MERE 5 months later, she is marrying homeboy....lol, it won't last.

Best to find a hawt date, go, drink all their booze and suck up their good wedding food. Toast the fvck out of the happy couple. Cheers to longevity....b/c it ain't gonna be long.....

You dodged a bullet with this one
 

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Hello guys! We have a misunderstanding here. What I meant was that, SHE USED TO BE MY BEST FRIEND since grade school. Sorry for the typo, my bad. Anyway, thank you for you advises and forgive me for being so stupid to even consider the idea of going to that event. I just thought that's the best thing to do to prove that I am alright now.
She had been doing a thing behind my back for quite a long time now, so marriage after a five-month period didn't shock me at all. Thanks for the concerns guys. It's appreciated!
 
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Don’t worry. When she’s bored and cranky she will look you up for emotional support. You will be a tampon. That’s the purpose of the invitation. Or if you mature enough she will make you her side c@ck. She knows exactly what she’s doing.
 

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Wait, what? She f*cked some other guy when she was in a relationship with you, which is bad enough...but now you're "best friends" and she's inviting you to watch her marrying the guy she screwed your relationship over with?

She's not only cheated on you, she's now rubbing in how she chose this guy over you. That's the utmost level of disrespect she could possibly show to you.

You should be full of disdain and anger for her, not "friendship". Same for her new guy. She cheated on you ffs! Tell her you're not interested and never talk to her again, if you value your own dignity at all.

You're being played for a spineless fool and she's laughing at you for going along with it.
 

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Hello guys! We have a misunderstanding here. What I meant was that, SHE USED TO BE MY BEST FRIEND since grade school. Sorry for the typo, my bad. Anyway, thank you for you advises and forgive me for being so stupid to even consider the idea of going to that event. I just thought that's the best thing to do to prove that I am alright now.
She had been doing a thing behind my back for quite a long time now, so marriage after a five-month period didn't shock me at all. Thanks for the concerns guys. It's appreciated!
Dude. You can go if you have a fine girlfriend whose into you that's going with. Otherwise don't.
 

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How are you still best friends with her after she cheated on you? It doesn't make sense to me.

Regardless, in my opinion don't show up and don't even congratulate, you don't have to play that game. Forget what's "expected".
amen and seconded, can't wait to hear the insane amount of mental gymnastics that you'll need to go through to rationalize this.
 

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The most awesome revenge in the world would be to bed her somehow at the wedding and then send pictures to the new husband (read fool). Put the pictures under the seats of all the guests
 
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The most awesome revenge in the world would be to bed her somehow at the wedding and then send pictures to the new husband (read fool). Put the pictures under the seats of all the guests
I was thinking this same thing. Oh the sweetness of it. Lol
I wouldn’t send pictures though. I would let it ride.
 
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