Gf thinks there’s no problem with hooking up

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Lurker here . I’m in a 2 month relationship with my gf and some things are bothering me . She thinks that there’s no issue with women having excessive sex and hooking up is ok to do as long as you are safe . She’s admitted to hooking up before and has 10+ sexual partners in her life .

Idk how should I feel but I feel weird and a little disgusted about this . Is it that I’m just insecure ? Perpetuating a double standard in that (we men can sleep around as much as we want but women shouldn’t)? Or am I justified in feeling a way about this ? In general the relationship is good besides the fact that she loves to smoke weed as often as she can . But idt that’s a deal breaker for me.

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She is a hoe.. Red flag alert here Bruv!

Two months and she is already your GF?

I would demote this one to fuk buddy, otherwise be prepared to be constantly watching your ass.. Why settle down for such a LIABILITY
 

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I’ve read threads on here where many of you say her past shouldn’t matter so as long as she’s treating you right . Just trying to be objective as possible .
She’s been my gf for a duration of two months now but we talked for about 3 months before we became exclusive
 

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It all depends on what any particular man wants. This chick would be perfect for me. I really don't care if women I'm dating are seeing other dudes because I don't date exclusively. But if you are looking for the maybe 1 out of 3 chicks that are capable of rationally controlling her hypergamy in the interest of keep a relationship going, she ain't one of them.
 

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lol, any woman with some minimum of sex appeal to some subcategory of male taste will have 10+ partners either by their late teens or early twenties depending on how outgoing she is. If she actually wants to get it, she can fvck 20 guys in a single year. That's what my ex plate told me she did after we broke it off and she was 18 or 19. You need to get it out of your head that women "don't have sex as much as men", it's just a delusion men believe to pacify their egos. Accept that they have far more access to sex and with hotter partners than vice versa for you, because that's reality.
 

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lol, any woman with some minimum of sex appeal to some subcategory of male taste will have 10+ partners either by their late teens or early twenties depending on how outgoing she is. If she actually wants to get it, she can fvck 20 guys in a single year. That's what my ex plate told me she did after we broke it off and she was 18 or 19. You need to get it out of your head that women "don't have sex as much as men", it's just a delusion men believe to pacify their egos. Accept that they have far more access to sex and with hotter partners than vice versa for you, because that's reality.
Women fvck who they want and men fvck who they can. Women marry who they can and men marry who they want.

So yes a woman can be considered for sex by a man leagues above her but she's just a ho to him.
 

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So she is a wh0re and it bothers you. Go find more chicks and use her for sex until you monkey branch to a new one or two.

Problem solved.
 

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It's a bitter pill to swallow, realising that the girl you have invested 3 months into, could be a raging hoe!

We could be wrong.. But the tell tale signs are there!

Do you want to take that chance?

In her opinion, taking random Diks here and there, is perfectly okay.

The fact that your posting on here about her proves clearly that it bothers you.

How are you going to feel a year down the line, when you are heavily invested.

Would you risk putting shares in a very risky investment? Nope because you know the chances are high you will make a loss!

So why invest in something that is such a LIABILITY? Your best option is to demote her or dump and find a quality woman!
 

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Lurker here . I’m in a 2 month relationship with my gf and some things are bothering me . She thinks that there’s no issue with women having excessive sex and hooking up is ok to do as long as you are safe . She’s admitted to hooking up before and has 10+ sexual partners in her life .

Idk how should I feel but I feel weird and a little disgusted about this . Is it that I’m just insecure ? Perpetuating a double standard in that (we men can sleep around as much as we want but women shouldn’t)? Or am I justified in feeling a way about this ? In general the relationship is good besides the fact that she loves to smoke weed as often as she can . But idt that’s a deal breaker for me.

Thoughts ?
Why are you in a relationship with her when she basically told you what is going to happen?

This is not a woman that is relationship material. You'll have to learn the hard way, its often the best teacher.

Downgrade this ho immediately if you already haven't.
 
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She will cheat on you eventually
The fact she's flat out telling him, it might already be happening. I must say I'm impressed that she's at least being honest, because most will do it without the guy finding out until years down the road.

As others have said, she's a good FWB material (don't tell her that though), just don't get attached/invested (again do not say or have talks or she'll boot you).
 
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Perfectly normal to feel weird and disgusted but realize that you can’t save her. She is permanently damaged. A casualty of feminism and the current social climate. Bang her without getting attached, which in and of itself is also unnatural, and drop her the moment you start catching feelings. Also 2 months in isn’t a relationship. You’re her plate essentially and you’re already getting caught up in thinking she may be quality. She’s not.
 

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Perfectly normal to feel weird and disgusted but realize that you can’t save her. She is permanently damaged. A casualty of feminism and the current social climate. Bang her without getting attached, which in and of itself is also unnatural, and drop her the moment you start catching feelings. Also 2 months in isn’t a relationship. You’re her plate essentially and you’re already getting caught up in thinking she may be quality. She’s not.
What if she's really good about how she dress and her appearance, generating attraction in the top 3%? :)
 
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Well, at least she honestly warned you of what lies ahead for you if you continue to interact with her. You think it’s an exclusive relationship, she doesn’t. Listen to her and find a better woman. This one is a time waster, she’s only out for herself…
 
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She smokes Weed every day too?

I don't think that it is something you should overlook too.

OP this chick is clearly ripe for Marriage
 

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Protect your heart and start looking for (and talking to) new plate opportunities while you plan your exit strategy. This one will go down in flames if you remain exclusive while she has sub-communicated that she will not.
 

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After reading the replies which I appreciate I think I miscommunicated . She believes in monogamy and doesn’t believe in cheating not does she believe in polygamy ,but she does believe woman can be free to sleep around as much as they like when single. She says humans beings are sexual beings and monogamy isn’t even natural but it can be natural if you make it . She very much into science .

My biggest concern is whether this very open mindset can be Indicative of any future problems that might arise .
 

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Smoking weed everyday is a sign that she probably has issues with addiction. She probably says that weed isn't bad for you right?

Anything in excessive amounts is bad for you, even too much oxygen can kill you.

Females sleep around. I would be more concerned of her actual actions towards you or you know, that addiction tendency.
 

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"Such is the way of an adulterous woman; she eateth, and wipeth her mouth, and saith, I have done no wickedness." - an old dead dude
 

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but she does believe woman can be free to sleep around as much as they like when single.

She says humans beings are sexual beings and monogamy isn’t even natural
1 yesterdays news since time began
2 twisted concept as evidenced by marriages still happening

Free to fvck when single, but doesn’t believe in nataural monogamy. Likely destined to cheat in an exclusive or monogamous situation.…
People settle in at the right time and mate together, that’s whats natural…
 
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After reading the replies which I appreciate I think I miscommunicated . She believes in monogamy and doesn’t believe in cheating not does she believe in polygamy ,but she does believe woman can be free to sleep around as much as they like when single. She says humans beings are sexual beings and monogamy isn’t even natural but it can be natural if you make it . She very much into science .

My biggest concern is whether this very open mindset can be Indicative of any future problems that might arise .

If I was in your position.. Seriously dude, If the chick I was dating, 3 months in, suggested to me, that it is perfectly fine for woman to go around taking diks, one night stands, hook ups etc..

I WOULD BACK AWAY!

The WRONG woman can literally destroy your life man, if you get deeply involved.

It's your decision.. Its only 3 months.. I would be CAUTIOUS of this chick.

Lets not overlook the fact, that she is a POT head... Again not a GOOD quality in a female for a healthy relationship.

I would never in a million years settle down with a chick who is addicted to weed.

Set your STANDARDS higher, in order to have a healthy relationship and a peaceful life.
 

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This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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