If you have low standards, you'll never have a problem with women

[MatureDJ]

Every time you fuuck a fat chick, a little piece inside of you dies.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

1) my coworkers won't think I'm a weird anymore, cause I'll have a wife. 2) I'll get more social opportunities with other married couples. 3) I might benefit financially if her family has money, thus claiming an inheritance (a lot of the fat chicks that message me have top level jobs and come from wealthy families)).

All these reasons are invalid. Who cares what your co-workers think? You have to stop trying to be a different person than you are because of what other people think about you. Your co-workers approval will not bring you happiness. Also, I will let you in on a little secret: Misery loves company. Ever have an alcoholic offer you a drink and you turn it down? They don't like it when you do that do they? Any married person who gives you sh*t for not being married is really expressing jealousy and regret. A happily married person would never give you sh*t. As for social opportunities - no way. I have MORE social opportunities now that I am divorced than I did when I was married. I have spent a time growing my social circle, but I have HAD more time to do that while single since I'm not having to devote whatever percentage of time my wife demands of me, I don't have to avoid people my wife doesn't like, and I am free to hang out with single people and married people both. Lastly, if you are looking for money in exchange for a girlfriend, you are setting yourself up for a really bad time. It would be like taking a really sh*tty job in exchange for more money. If you've never done that, you won't know what I mean but trust me, it isn't worth it. The only reason to get with a girl long term is because you are both attracted to each other, enjoy each other's company, respect each other, and can continue living your own lives, but doing it together.

I am pretty unhappy being single, and I have messed with stuck up b8tches for too long. I realized that maybe dating a woman who is not that attractive will be refreshing because she won't try to bankrupt me by getting me to buy her stuff and she will be high interest. Again, these girls are messaging me first online.

You will be just as unhappy in a relationship as you are single, if not more. That won't change until you learn to be happy single, and learn that no woman is going to "make you happy." If you are having consistent issues with women trying to get you to buy her things, then you are either dating the wrong women, or you are responding to them improperly. You never buy a woman anything during early dating (I've made that mistake). In the later phases, you can buy her things, but she should be returning the favor with equality, if not through things bought with money, then through acts of service or whatever else she can provide. She isn't going to do that if you are responding to her demands by caving and buying her stuff without expecting her to do the same for you. Demand women serve you, just as you serve them. Example: If you invite her over to dinner to your place, don't tell her not to bring anything and if she asks how she can help, don't tell her you have it all under control. Tell her to bring some wine then put her to work chopping some vegetables. Any woman who refuses to do any of that is a hard next.

I'm coming to terms with the fact that my life currently sucks and I want to do something about it. I don't want to keep chasing after uninterested hoes to take advantage of me.

If your life sucks, it's not because of women. It's within. Keep dating, but stop investing so much into these women (especially early on), and more importantly, spend time focusing on yourself and figuring out why you are unhappy. See a therapist if you think it will help. Read some self-help books. Grow your friend circle and get REALLY busy with your social life. Find some bar-trivia nights, group sports, join a club or two. I've found that the bigger my social circle gets and the more opportunities I have to go hang out with groups of people and have fun, the less I care or thirst for women/dating/sex, and guess what? I have more abundance with women now than I ever have before because apparently they can smell the aloofness on me and know that I can take it or leave it. The experiences with women in social circles gave me increased confidence as well, just through increased exposure/experience. I went from chasing women and getting occasionally lucky every month or two, to having multiple friends with benefits who are all chasing me and trying to tie me down. I enjoy their company, attention, and sex while I continue casually looking for someone I'm interested in long-term. You can do the same. Women should be the icing on your cake, not the cake itself.

 

[skinnyguy]

All these reasons are invalid. Who cares what your co-workers think? You have to stop trying to be a different person than you are because of what other people think about you. Your co-workers approval will not bring you happiness. Also, I will let you in on a little secret: Misery loves company. Ever have an alcoholic offer you a drink and you turn it down? They don't like it when you do that do they? Any married person who gives you sh*t for not being married is really expressing jealousy and regret. A happily married person would never give you sh*t. As for social opportunities - no way. I have MORE social opportunities now that I am divorced than I did when I was married. I have spent a time growing my social circle, but I have HAD more time to do that while single since I'm not having to devote whatever percentage of time my wife demands of me, I don't have to avoid people my wife doesn't like, and I am free to hang out with single people and married people both. Lastly, if you are looking for money in exchange for a girlfriend, you are setting yourself up for a really bad time. It would be like taking a really sh*tty job in exchange for more money. If you've never done that, you won't know what I mean but trust me, it isn't worth it. The only reason to get with a girl long term is because you are both attracted to each other, enjoy each other's company, respect each other, and can continue living your own lives, but doing it together.




You will be just as unhappy in a relationship as you are single, if not more. That won't change until you learn to be happy single, and learn that no woman is going to "make you happy." If you are having consistent issues with women trying to get you to buy her things, then you are either dating the wrong women, or you are responding to them improperly. You never buy a woman anything during early dating (I've made that mistake). In the later phases, you can buy her things, but she should be returning the favor with equality, if not through things bought with money, then through acts of service or whatever else she can provide. She isn't going to do that if you are responding to her demands by caving and buying her stuff without expecting her to do the same for you. Demand women serve you, just as you serve them. Example: If you invite her over to dinner to your place, don't tell her not to bring anything and if she asks how she can help, don't tell her you have it all under control. Tell her to bring some wine then put her to work chopping some vegetables. Any woman who refuses to do any of that is a hard next.



If your life sucks, it's not because of women. It's within. Keep dating, but stop investing so much into these women (especially early on), and more importantly, spend time focusing on yourself and figuring out why you are unhappy. See a therapist if you think it will help. Read some self-help books. Grow your friend circle and get REALLY busy with your social life. Find some bar-trivia nights, group sports, join a club or two. I've found that the bigger my social circle gets and the more opportunities I have to go hang out with groups of people and have fun, the less I care or thirst for women/dating/sex, and guess what? I have more abundance with women now than I ever have before because apparently they can smell the aloofness on me and know that I can take it or leave it. The experiences with women in social circles gave me increased confidence as well, just through increased exposure/experience. I went from chasing women and getting occasionally lucky every month or two, to having multiple friends with benefits who are all chasing me and trying to tie me down. I enjoy their company, attention, and sex while I continue casually looking for someone I'm interested in long-term. You can do the same. Women should be the icing on your cake, not the cake itself.

Completely agree with social circle stuff. In my new city I will be gaming men not women. Trying to get a group of 6-8 guys who regularly hang out

 

[ALnotAI]

Ur low standards r the main root cause of ur problems.

Increase ur standards, hv a set of principles, list it out, then work on it, always aim high.

Don't worry abt women.

When ur standards r high and when u r effective, women will be the least of ur problems.

LOL, yet you also claim a 1 and 10 are both fvckable so they are the same.

Spaz is an obvious troll, spamming this forum nonstop 6 straight months, posting nonsensical gibberish 300x every month. You probably have a bunch of dupe accounts on this forum as well.

 

[Spaz]

LOL, yet you also claim a 1 and 10 are both fvckable so they are the same.

Spaz is an obvious troll, spamming this forum nonstop 6 straight months, posting nonsensical gibberish 300x every month. You probably have a bunch of dupe accounts on this forum as well.

Tsk tsk...now u r "chasing" me across threads. Ain't that manly.

Assuming once more then degrading into delusions.

Next you'll be just like the other fella who claims I'm NN too.

 

[Murk]

Nobody comes out the block on 45 posts insulting people across multiple threads, oh wait they do, and they're usually banned sharpish.

 

[bigdave17]

what a horrible thread


masturbating to a 8/10 >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>having sex with a 3/10


At least you keep your dignity and your penis is excited looking at pics of an actual attractive female