Do normal single women go through longer dry spells than single guys?

[HankHill]

Before you answer, try to answer it from your own experience not speculation. Of course, the question must also be qualified by limiting it to the non-skank types. Meaning, normal, mature, decent women. The reason I ask is because most women I know don't sleep around and so I'd imagine they go through fairly long dry spells before finding someone who they felt comfortable sleeping with. A couple of examples

1. I actually started thinking about this because this morning on the radio the sidekick of the show who's single, late 20s, 7/10 blonde. She made a comment about Cardie B (sp?) complaining that since she just had a baby she can't have sex for about 6 weeks. The sidekick 7/10 made a comment, "that's not even that long...come on Cardie. Try several months to feel what's it like at my level, haha"

2. My ex-ex-gf's closest friend had been single for about 4 mos at that point and I jokingly made a comment to my ex-ex saying 'she's probably ready for a 3some, you should ask her hahaha'. The ex-ex looked at me and said 'may be! because she was just complaining the other day that the vibrator's getting old'. Again she's a very attractive, slim, tall chick...she dumped her long term bf.

Basic logic says that even a 4/10 woman can get laid whenever she wants right? just wave a guy down and say 'let's go back to your/my place and have fun' chances are several guys will take her up on that offer...and I'm sure that happens with women who have reached their dry spell threshold or are the loose type.

 

[Murk]

Spin plates and date other women.

 

[resilient]

It seems these days many feel validated enough getting massive attention on social media, dating apps, and hit on by guys IRL running errands, bars, clubs, school, wherever to not sweat her "single status".

Who cares what they're doing though.

Keep your focus on self-improvement.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Before you answer, try to answer it from your own experience not speculation. Of course, the question must also be qualified by limiting it to the non-skank types. Meaning, normal, mature, decent women. The reason I ask is because most women I know don't sleep around and so I'd imagine they go through fairly long dry spells before finding someone who they felt comfortable sleeping with. A couple of examples

1. I actually started thinking about this because this morning on the radio the sidekick of the show who's single, late 20s, 7/10 blonde. She made a comment about Cardie B (sp?) complaining that since she just had a baby she can't have sex for about 6 weeks. The sidekick 7/10 made a comment, "that's not even that long...come on Cardie. Try several months to feel what's it like at my level, haha"

2. My ex-ex-gf's closest friend had been single for about 4 mos at that point and I jokingly made a comment to my ex-ex saying 'she's probably ready for a 3some, you should ask her hahaha'. The ex-ex looked at me and said 'may be! because she was just complaining the other day that the vibrator's getting old'. Again she's a very attractive, slim, tall chick...she dumped her long term bf.

Basic logic says that even a 4/10 woman can get laid whenever she wants right? just wave a guy down and say 'let's go back to your/my place and have fun' chances are several guys will take her up on that offer...and I'm sure that happens with women who have reached their dry spell threshold or are the loose type.

Yes but female libido isn't the same as men. Women complain about not finding Chad.

 

[Dingo]

No...

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Before you answer, try to answer it from your own experience not speculation. Of course, the question must also be qualified by limiting it to the non-skank types. Meaning, normal, mature, decent women. The reason I ask is because most women I know don't sleep around and so I'd imagine they go through fairly long dry spells before finding someone who they felt comfortable sleeping with. A couple of examples

1. I actually started thinking about this because this morning on the radio the sidekick of the show who's single, late 20s, 7/10 blonde. She made a comment about Cardie B (sp?) complaining that since she just had a baby she can't have sex for about 6 weeks. The sidekick 7/10 made a comment, "that's not even that long...come on Cardie. Try several months to feel what's it like at my level, haha"

2. My ex-ex-gf's closest friend had been single for about 4 mos at that point and I jokingly made a comment to my ex-ex saying 'she's probably ready for a 3some, you should ask her hahaha'. The ex-ex looked at me and said 'may be! because she was just complaining the other day that the vibrator's getting old'. Again she's a very attractive, slim, tall chick...she dumped her long term bf.

Basic logic says that even a 4/10 woman can get laid whenever she wants right? just wave a guy down and say 'let's go back to your/my place and have fun' chances are several guys will take her up on that offer...and I'm sure that happens with women who have reached their dry spell threshold or are the loose type.

Yep, most guys have this ideal type in mind when they think of women.... a woman in her prime that sleeps with guys whenever she wants to. But in reality, most women are far from that.

A colleague and friend was telling me he over-heard a bunch of our female colleagues, in their 30s with not the best 'SMV', complaining about men and how they are looking forward to the invention of sex robots [spot the masturbators!...one of these women actually prepositioned me a while back in the taxi on the way home from the bar... I couldn't go there... just felt weird].

Another woman I knew, also in her 30s, is always with a new guy.... and had slept with a couple of my mates. Once again, I politely declined... yuck!

These examples make me think it is even more difficult for women to control their libido... especially once they've become used to regular sex. I think that is where men differ, despite all the propaganda to the opposite - we have the capacity for more self-control, for a more disciplined and rational outlook on life.

 

[HankHill]

I do realize this is not the popular opinion of most on SS. I was hoping for more first hand experiences than just opinions though. I'm simply curious that if most women can so easily have sex without lifting a finger, do they actually take advantage of it? Or do they take care of their last min sexual desires using a vibrator (every woman I've ever been with had one, if not two or more) which btw is a huge industry - likely for a reason?

Based on my personal observations I think they have longer dry spells unless i.e. she has a FWB on the regular or she goes to the club/bar with that intention and runs into a Chad-like. But again this will be different for different types of women.

 

[resilient]

Hank, they can hop on tinder, bumble... whatever hookup app and have a guy over asap without s!ut shaming. She doesn’t have to doll up and hit the bar/club. Again, I wouldn’t worry about they do.

Plus, ask other DJs, some past flings or ex’s will text an old fwb if he keeps it on the down low without catching feels.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I do realize this is not the popular opinion of most on SS. I was hoping for more first hand experiences than just opinions though. I'm simply curious that if most women can so easily have sex without lifting a finger, do they actually take advantage of it? Or do they take care of their last min sexual desires using a vibrator (every woman I've ever been with had one, if not two or more) which btw is a huge industry - likely for a reason?

Based on my personal observations I think they have longer dry spells unless i.e. she has a FWB on the regular or she goes to the club/bar with that intention and runs into a Chad-like. But again this will be different for different types of women.

Feminism touted "self" pleasure to remove reliance upon a man. So they will have dildo's and they will masterbate. They usually don't need a ton of sex, but the feminist like knowing they don't "need" a man.

 

[R.U.G.]

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Blue penises? Who are they fvcking, Martians?

 

[logicallefty]

I have talked to women who have said that it’s easy to get ‘average d!ck’ but it’s extremely difficult to get ‘good d!ck’. So they don’t even bother with trying because pleasing themselves is better then the average. I have felt that way about some women I boned to where I do a better job on myself than they do for me. So I can relate.

 

[kzar_kzar]

Yep, most guys have this ideal type in mind when they think of women.... a woman in her prime that sleeps with guys whenever she wants to. But in reality, most women are far from that.

A colleague and friend was telling me he over-heard a bunch of our female colleagues, in their 30s with not the best 'SMV', complaining about men and how they are looking forward to the invention of sex robots [spot the masturbators!...one of these women actually prepositioned me a while back in the taxi on the way home from the bar... I couldn't go there... just felt weird].

Another woman I knew, also in her 30s, is always with a new guy.... and had slept with a couple of my mates. Once again, I politely declined... yuck!

These examples make me think it is even more difficult for women to control their libido... especially once they've become used to regular sex. I think that is where men differ, despite all the propaganda to the opposite - we have the capacity for more self-control, for a more disciplined and rational outlook on life.

Yes exactly, I know a girl who is also in her 30s (divorced once, slept with ppl i came across with before) and **** many dudes, but than come a crazy Italian dude with anger issues ( she got a black eye) and well they are happily married now...

 

[IKO69]

Some only guy for guys that fit a certain profile.

It would be true for these types - Make no mistake then get laid by multiple guys at just about any time however.

 

[sosousage]

you joking? next week and they jumping on someone else

 

[Mike32ct]

Feminism touted "self" pleasure to remove reliance upon a man. So they will have dildo's and they will masterbate. They usually don't need a ton of sex, but the feminist like knowing they don't "need" a man.

But you’ll never hear women attempting NoFap to improve their drive to find a partner like some men do.

As far as actual female dry spells, I honestly don’t have any inside info on that. While I’ve overheard a lot of stuff from women over the years, I don’t have enough information on that one.

 

[RangerMIke]

A man's dry spell is typically involuntary. A woman's 'dry spell' is self imposed because she feels like the dudes available to her are not good enough to fvck her.

When a chick says "I can't find a man.", what she is really saying is "My inflated opinion of myself means I can't find a man WORTHY of my pvssy."

 

[mrgoodstuff]

But you’ll never hear women attempting NoFap to improve their drive to find a partner like some men do.

As far as actual female dry spells, I honestly don’t have any inside info on that. While I’ve overheard a lot of stuff from women over the years, I don’t have enough information on that one.

Some of em have desensitized their **** using a vibrating dildo too often. They'd quit using it for a couple weeks.

Also some do incel. It be a fat one think she deserving to a Chad. She be stuck wanting forever instead of adjusting her desire.

 

[HankHill]

A man's dry spell is typically involuntary. A woman's 'dry spell' is self imposed because she feels like the dudes available to her are not good enough to fvck her.

When a chick says "I can't find a man.", what she is really saying is "My inflated opinion of myself means I can't find a man WORTHY of my pvssy."

I agree with that 90% and I think that's what I was trying to say i.e. even though women can have sex easily they typically won't. I say 90% because it's not so much they think a man is not "worthy" I think it's because she's not attracted to the easily available men. The reason I say this is because even as a man I've gone on dates where within a few secs of meeting the woman I knew I'm not going to sleep with her. I know this behavior is typically associated with women but we do it too. My date last night falls in this category, she looked nice in the pics but then when I met her I barely recognized her because she's now 20+lbs heavier and sort of a dull personality. Talk about a turn off. Sex is fun when you have some lust and you're not grossed out by the other person (hygiene, flab, ordor etc).

EDIT: On the other hand...I'm not in my 20s anymore so call it standards or selectivity or whatever but I pass up a lot of 'easy' type of women because I don't want to sleep with crack wh0res etc.

 

[RangerMIke]

I agree with that 90% and I think that's what I was trying to say i.e. even though women can have sex easily they typically won't. I say 90% because it's not so much they think a man is not "worthy" I think it's because she's not attracted to the easily available men.

I agree to a point, but the truth is that any man that is attracted to a woman, IS AVAILABLE to her, unless he has some morale proclivities that prevent him from taking action (loyalty to another chick as an example). Why she may not act on that availability is a function of what she thinks her SMV is and where she evaluates YOUR SMV, based on what she wants. If she thinks she's a SMV-7 (when she is really a 5, all chicks think more of themselves then reality.), and she evaluates you as a SMV-8, she will be attracted to you.

The problem comes in because men are typically pretty good judges of our own self-worth, and our evaluative criteria for women, is MUCH simpler (is she attractive enough to turn me on) than the average chick (who typically have a somewhat convoluted process involving LMS, weighted based on her own needs at the emotional moment). But anyway a man looks at this same chick and says, "She's a 5... I'm a 5... I have a shot!" Well, no... you would have to be at least a 6 to have a shot from a rational perspective, because all women want to date up.... but in emotional subjective reality, she THINKS she is a 7, so YOU have to be an 8.

It's not fair or right, but it is reality. She would rather have her cats, bottle of wine, and vibrator, then to sleep with a man that she 'thinks' is beneath her. There really is nothing you can do about this, only the only way to determine if she thinks you are good enough is to try and make a date... then she has to keep the date... then you make a move and see what happens. But I have to say there are some chicks that get really offended when they get hit on by guys that think is beneath them, this is why they can be real b!tches when you make a pass. You just have to not let that sh!t bother you because it really has nothing to do with you, it's her own inflated self-worth. Don't get mad or let it knock you off center, just move onto the next one.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I'm simply curious that if most women can so easily have sex without lifting a finger, do they actually take advantage of it? Or do they take care of their last min sexual desires using a vibrator (every woman I've ever been with had one, if not two or more) which btw is a huge industry - likely for a reason?

Men have a difficult time understanding how women can have sex whenever they want, which would be any man's dream, but fail to do so. The reasons are usually that women have concerns about the aftermath. Maybe the guy won't call again, and she will feel pumped and dumped. Have you ever honestly had that concern? I know I haven't. I've also never worried about people gossiping about me, and it damaging my reputation that I have sex. Men don't ostracize other men just because they get laid, but women do that to each other. When a girl doesn't have any friends, it is often a sign that she is a slvt. Compare that to men, and it is the opposite - no friends often correlates with no sex. Have you ever thought to yourself - "I don't want to hang around with that guy, because he has so much sex that it makes me look like a wh0re just by being his friend?" You haven't, because men don't think that way. Scorn from other women is probably the biggest inhibitor to womens' sex lives.