co-worker wanting me to hang out

[051AV]

I've learned my lesson never become friends with female co-workers, I've been working with this woman a couple years she's gotten a little more friendly now she wants me to hang out with her. One she has a man already two I don't hang with females that I work with it always seems to turn ugly. How does a guy tell a woman he's not interested in hanging out.

 

[Atom Smasher]

It’s a “Catch 22” because women take rejection very, very badly.

I would string her along with “My time is not my own lately”, like you have way too much on your plate and you can barely find time to break away.

Eventually she will get the hint. Women communicate covertly, and a soft, covert rejection over time will be much more easily accepted than a direct one.

 

[051AV]

It’s a “Catch 22” because women take rejection very, very badly.

I would string her along with “My time is not my own lately”, like you have way too much on your plate and you can barely find time to break away.

Eventually she will get the hint. Women communicate covertly, and a soft, covert rejection over time will be much more easily accepted than a direct one.

I've been down this road before its turned ugly, the woman I'm working with I guess she's taken a shine to me after the couple years, she's attractive enough, would I go out with her? no. The big problem she's persistent I will probably be nagged if I don't say yes lol, she's got a LT BF why is she so after me to hang out.

 

[Billtx49]

she's got a LT BF why is she so after me to hang out.

Unless you hold a superior work position to her, I smell a branch swing or stray piece attempt in progress…
Regardless of that though, she’s probably not loyal to the BF at this point.

 

[051AV]

Unless you hold a superior work position to her, I smell a branch swing or stray piece attempt in progress…
Regardless of that though, she’s probably not loyal to the BF at this point.

Nope she's higher on the food chain than me, she likes standing close to me showing me things on her I pad when ever she can. Swing all she wants I'm not going to be apart of it.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I've learned my lesson never become friends with female co-workers, I've been working with this woman a couple years she's gotten a little more friendly now she wants me to hang out with her. One she has a man already two I don't hang with females that I work with it always seems to turn ugly. How does a guy tell a woman he's not interested in hanging out.

You just keep blowing her off.

If you got game, light it up. Just archive nudes, sexting, vids etc.

If your game is wackkkkkk, do not bother.

A alternative route; women got friends, who have more friends, a sister, etc.

Ya digg?

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I've been down this road before its turned ugly, the woman I'm working with I guess she's taken a shine to me after the couple years, she's attractive enough, would I go out with her? no. The big problem she's persistent I will probably be nagged if I don't say yes lol, she's got a LT BF why is she so after me to hang out.

Suggest she intro you to her hawttttt friends.

 

[051AV]

Suggest she intro you to her hawttttt friends.

She's 40 plus her friends are the same age.

 

[051AV]

You just keep blowing her off.

If you got game, light it up. Just archive nudes, sexting, vids etc.

If your game is wackkkkkk, do not bother.

A alternative route; women got friends, who have more friends, a sister, etc.

Ya digg?

I won't be tapping her, I will just keep making some excuses I'm gonna have to watch not to hurt her feelings, she's seem to taken a shine to me as I said she was pretty distant when I first come onto the scene couple years back.

 

[marmel75]

I won't be tapping her, I will just keep making some excuses I'm gonna have to watch not to hurt her feelings, she's seem to taken a shine to me as I said she was pretty distant when I first come onto the scene couple years back.

Yup, that's how it happens a lot of times...she starts having more and more interactions with you and at some point a switch flips where she starts fantasizing about you and then when she sees you at work it feeds her fantasies, etc...

so it basically becomes one giant feedback loop almost to the point of obsession where she can't stop thinking about you. She sees you at work, then she fantasizes about you when she gets home which makes her want to see you at work again the next day so she can fantasize about you at home again, etc etc...

 

[R.U.G.]

Don't sh!t where you eat. You're just asking for trouble.

 

[marmel75]

Don't sh!t where you eat. You're just asking for trouble.

I dont think OP is wanting to, I think its more of how does he play it off without consequences to him in the workplace since she is above him...

 

[R.U.G.]

I dont think OP is wanting to, I think its more of how does he play it off without consequences to him in the workplace since she is above him...

Fair enough. If she wants to hang out, do it with a group of co-workers. I.E. Me, Bob, Jared and a few others are going to the bar, you and your workmates are welcomed to join us. Then, spend as little time talking to her as possible.

 

[051AV]

Fair enough. If she wants to hang out, do it with a group of co-workers. I.E. Me, Bob, Jared and a few others are going to the bar, you and your workmates are welcomed to join us. Then, spend as little time talking to her as possible.

Its just me and her and her BF so far, been down the road of don't sh*t where you eat, I went through pure hell, ended up in a huge battle with management and HR.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

She's 40 plus her friends are the same age.

Ewwww

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I won't be tapping her, I will just keep making some excuses I'm gonna have to watch not to hurt her feelings, she's seem to taken a shine to me as I said she was pretty distant when I first come onto the scene couple years back.

Just say you're in a lesbian relationship with your gf. When she asks about the scenario, tell her your gender pronoun is pixie kin or worm people but, you're resonating with the female gender today despite having a functional hard ****.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Its just me and her and her BF so far, been down the road of don't sh*t where you eat, I went through pure hell, ended up in a huge battle with management and HR.

School boy error.

This is where you begin wearing a pink bow hairband and saying you are a trans gender female. Pick a racial minority and claim racism and transphobia.

Demand a trans bathroom as well.

 

[R.U.G.]

Ewwww

If she has a good body, no reason not to smash. You're 27. When you're in your 40's, you'll see the light.

 

[jaymbrs]

I've learned my lesson never become friends with female co-workers, I've been working with this woman a couple years she's gotten a little more friendly now she wants me to hang out with her. One she has a man already two I don't hang with females that I work with it always seems to turn ugly. How does a guy tell a woman he's not interested in hanging out.

I know exactly where you're coming from. Had 1 who was married get me to hang out with her after work for drinks. Nothing ever happened but after awhile a rumor circulated around the office that her and I were sleeping together and her husband caught wind of that. Our work relationship deteriorated afterwards.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

If she has a good body, no reason not to smash. You're 27. When you're in your 40's, you'll see the light.

I'm 30 son. 27 is not 23. Not saying I won't hit it. I am saying, new girls are turning 18 everyday.