Gut is telling me GF of 9 months is cheating, but I have no proof. help?

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Been with this chick for a while, started off amazing blah blah. used to have amazing sex everyday for the first 6 months or so, but then something changed. she started out saying that her back was hurting all the time, so she could never ride me but would still let me hit it missionary, etc

then it got worse over time, she hasn't rode me in months and only lays there like a fish.. but it's also gotten to the point where she doesn't give me head anymore because "she has a strong sense of smell" now and the smell "makes her sick" even after I freshly shower, when before I could go days without showering and whip out my sweaty gear at any time and she would go to town on it.

that's not the only reason I have a feeling she's cheating tho that's just one part of the equation.

she used to be super sweet and submissive, but now every single day all she does is ***** and neg and start fights after I get home from work. then when I stand up for myself and either straight up ignore it or tell her kindly to **** off, she tries to turn the tables and says stuff like "you're so cold now" "you don't like anymore" "you're gonna leave me soon aren't you?"

that's not all tho, the other day I was hanging out with my gf and a friend at her apartment where i'm currently staying, and when I dropped my friend off and came back there was a black car i've never seen before honk at me and yell out my name as I was walking back to the apartment... when I turned around the car sped off so I couldn't see who was inside of it.

not only that but when I went inside my girl had this weird look in her face and my gut was going crazy, there was also fast food on the table that wasn't there when I left but my gf doesn't drive and that food place was like 8miles away... so there's no way she got it herself..but I was too much of a ***** to ask her about either of these things cause I was in such hard core denial but now I'm starting to wake up.

she also negs me constantly and will like lay her head on my chest acting sweet for a second they say something like "eww your scent is ****ing gross" then sit up and act like nothing just happened. wtf? I get told from other ppl all the time how good I smell so I know she's just saying that to be a *****.

the other day I was going thru my emails but hers was logged in since she uses my phone sometimes and I saw an email that was a registration for some chat room website.

last night was what had me really thinking tho. she out of nowhere accused ME of cheating saying like "we've been having problems and I know people cheat during times like this" "have you been cheating on me? i've been loyal!!"

My gut is telling me that I really should just ghost her already but without proof I feel like that would be a **** move.
 

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I could go days without showering and whip out my sweaty gear at any time and she would go to town on it....

lay her head on my chest acting sweet for a second they say something like "eww your scent is ****ing gross" then sit up and act like nothing just happened. wtf?
Ok fvck the fact your chick is taking pole from tyrone... how about you take care of your hygiene bro. 1-2 showers per day should be standard.
 

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It doesn't matter if she's cheating or not, this woman is manipulative and something is up since women never start making fights out of the blue for no reason. Making fights means she risks losing you. Do you think a woman would make fights and risk losing a man she considers high value for her? Watch out.
 

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She's cheating or trying to cheat but it makes no difference, you have to dump her for the bad behavior alone
No need to dump her, just downgrade her to sex use. Simple as that, but I don't know if he has the ability to do that.
 

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I'd be too ashamed to fvck a girl without being clean, even ex gfs.

I used to think it's weird girls always comment on how clean my d!ck is... now I see why.

Hygiene and grooming is your top priority as a human being, am I alone here?
 

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We have pheromones, also known as natural body scent that get triggered as a response to a social event taking place right there, meaning if you favour someone as a friend or sexually, your body produces pheromones. They are also a secondary sexual characteristic in both men and women. If she tells you "ew, you ****ing stink" there are two options: you are either dirty and sweaty as fack or she just doesn;t like how you naturally smell.

If the first, take a shower. If the later, this thing will end soon.
 

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How old are you?
22, she's 18

She's cheating or trying to cheat but it makes no difference, you have to dump her for the bad behavior alone

Also, she reeks of abandonment/daddy issues which means she will always Cheat.
i'll just wait until she starts another fight then turn the tables and dump her ass, thanks. btw you're spot on about the abandonment daddy issues, she's told me she has those from day 1. and the other day I tried to walk out on her and she freaked out and caused a scene and literally cut herself in front of me and said if I leave her she'll kill herself....
 

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last night was what had me really thinking tho. she out of nowhere accused ME of cheating saying like "we've been having problems and I know people cheat during times like this" "have you been cheating on me? i've been loyal!!"
Projecting harder than a 1950's movie theater.
 

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22, she's 18



i'll just wait until she starts another fight then turn the tables and dump her ass, thanks. btw you're spot on about the abandonment daddy issues, she's told me she has those from day 1. and the other day I tried to walk out on her and she freaked out and caused a scene and literally cut herself in front of me and said if I leave her she'll kill herself....
LOL see now that would have been an important thing to mention in your first post. She cut herself and threatened suicide in front of you during a fight? Jeez, no wonder you have a gut feeling lmao. Seriously though, DON'T wait for another fight, she's already proven that she's not all there, run the f*ck away and don't ever look back.
 

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She;s 18 man, what do you expect LOL
 

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Always do what your insides tell you to do,you were given a gut for a reason.
 

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Like it was said earlier, cheating or not her disrespectful behavior is unacceptable. I'd have a conversation framed around what you can both work on for each other and let her know the way she treats you has to stop or the relationship won't work. Sounds like you should start looking for other girls. Do you two live together? If so you should take a break and live separately.
 

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We have pheromones, also known as natural body scent that get triggered as a response to a social event taking place right there, meaning if you favour someone as a friend or sexually, your body produces pheromones. They are also a secondary sexual characteristic in both men and women. If she tells you "ew, you ****ing stink" there are two options: you are either dirty and sweaty as fack or she just doesn;t like how you naturally smell.

If the first, take a shower. If the later, this thing will end soon.
She could've gotten used to someone else's scent . That's why his is now foul.

Notice how everything about him now annoys her?
 
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No need to dump her, just downgrade her to sex use. Simple as that, but I don't know if he has the ability to do that.
How can he do this when he is not getting sex to begin with? How does this suggestion make any sense with what OP just wrote?
 
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