Got cheated on. Will walk away forever. Do I expose her or do it silently?

[Billtx49]

Thanks guys, my gut instinct tells me just disappearing is the way to go...but I was still thinking of sending something along the lines of this if she messages me:

Cheating Girl: "DreamAgain where are youuuu, what's going on? *kisses*"
Me: "Hey, just working."
Cheating Girl: "Want to come over tonight, watch a movie or something?"
Me: "Might be better you call someone else, maybe (insert name of guy she cheated with). I heard you guys get along well."

And then just go immediate NC after this?

Don’t do that. Use your willpower. That type of comment will look pathetic, weak, vindictive, and signal your pain. It’s not how you want to be remembered by anyone.

I know you want to try to even the score with one last dig, but it’s actually better not to.

 

[TheGambino]

Disapear, don't you ever contact her again. It's the BEST thing you can do, period.

 

[RangerMIke]

@TheGambino is right. Nothing you say will get to her, calling her out does nothing.... she already believes it's your fault since typically women never take responsibility for anything. If she isn't happy, she believes you are responsible for that. Calling her out just reinforces her notions. You have to let this go... the best way and shortest recovery time you will have is if you avoid contact... If she calls don't answer... if she texts you delete the text without reading. If you want to get inside her head, then just pretend she doesn't exist anymore. Go find other chicks and forget about her. The best revenge is to live well... so go be the best person you can.

But remember this lesson: Any chick will cheat on you under the right set of circumstances. Whenever you are in a relationship with a woman, always expect this may happen... it is not that your chick was a disloyal b!tch... she was just acting like a normal woman. The exception is finding one that will always work to keep you and put effort to make sh!t work. Your job as a man is the screen and find one that has the ability resist her nature because she doesn't want to screw things up with you.

 

[DreamAgain]

@TheGambino is right. Nothing you say will get to her, calling her out does nothing.... she already believes it's your fault since typically women never take responsibility for anything. If she isn't happy, she believes you are responsible for that. Calling her out just reinforces her notions. You have to let this go... the best way and shortest recovery time you will have is if you avoid contact... If she calls don't answer... if she texts you delete the text without reading. If you want to get inside her head, then just pretend she doesn't exist anymore. Go find other chicks and forget about her. The best revenge is to live well... so go be the best person you can.

But remember this lesson: Any chick will cheat on you under the right set of circumstances. Whenever you are in a relationship with a woman, always expect this may happen... it is not that your chick was a disloyal b!tch... she was just acting like a normal woman. The exception is finding one that will always work to keep you and put effort to make sh!t work. Your job as a man is the screen and find one that has the ability resist her nature because she doesn't want to screw things up with you.

I’ll do this, it’s just that I’m so disgusted that this temporary “justice” would seemingly bring me some relief. But I know deep down that it’s a beta move, because it shows her that she hurt me deep and she “won”, so to speak.

 

[RangerMIke]

I’ll do this, it’s just that I’m so disgusted that this temporary “justice” would seemingly bring me some relief. But I know deep down that it’s a beta move, because it shows her that she hurt me deep and she “won”, so to speak.

Yep... this is why chicks don't really care if you are mad at them or if you are happy with them, because if you are happy or mad, it's the same fvcking thing to chicks. It means you care... you care enough to be mad, so you care. You are capable of being emotionally manipulated. Your chick fvcks another dude, eh, who cares... go find another one. The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. I know this isn't what you feel right now, but it is what you have to show her. Trust me... it will drive her nuts.

 

[DreamAgain]

Yep... this is why chicks don't really care if you are mad at them or if you are happy with them, because if you are happy or mad, it's the same fvcking thing to chicks. It means you care... you care enough to be mad, so you care. You are capable of being emotionally manipulated. Your chick fvcks another dude, eh, who cares... go find another one. The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. I know this isn't what you feel right now, but it is what you have to show her. Trust me... it will drive her nuts.

Dude I just got a message from here saying she came back from the salon, did a full wax, and asked if I wanted to watch a movie tonight .

I may just be able to use her as a plate for s3x, but I have feelings for this b1tch, and I feel if I do this she'll just continue to trap me.

Should I just ignore? She is damn hot as hell and may do some crazy sh1t to lure me back in.

 

[Billtx49]

Dude I just got a message from here saying she came back from the salon, did a full wax, and asked if I wanted to watch a movie tonight .

I may just be able to use her as a plate for s3x, but I have feelings for this b1tch, and I feel if I do this she'll just continue to trap me.

Should I just ignore? She is damn hot as hell and may do some crazy sh1t to lure me back in.

She’s BPD and she’s cheated. Ignore her…
Your life will be easier and less painful without her.

 

[RangerMIke]

Dude I just got a message from here saying she came back from the salon, did a full wax, and asked if I wanted to watch a movie tonight .

I may just be able to use her as a plate for s3x but I got feelings for this b1tch, and I feel if I do this she'll just continue to trap me.

Should I just ignore? She is damn hot as hell and may do some crazy sh1t to lure me back in.

It all depends on what you want. If you don't care if she's banging other dudes... that's fine. I know all the women I date fvck other guys... one even gets with other chicks... I don't care what they do when they aren't with me. If you can get to that place your stress level goes to zero with chicks... because you just don't care.

 

[DreamAgain]

I think I should ignore, this lure of s3x is nothing more than a ploy to keep my mind trapped.

Screw this sh1t, thanks guys.

 

[DreamAgain]

Your proposal was not even Justice I mean don't you see how passive aggressive in a weak it seems. At least be aggressive or something.

You have to actually block her. It's an addiction and you have to go cold turkey. She's cheated on you so many times and you made excuses.

That's the problem with these damn hot women. I understand the theory that you spin plates to keep this from happening. If all your plates are about equal rating, then this works...but s3xing a 6.5 is much different than an 8.5, as we all know.

Nevertheless I know this woman is poisonous, but the fact she is a s3xy little demon is the problem.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Dude I just got a message from here saying she came back from the salon, did a full wax, and asked if I wanted to watch a movie tonight .

I may just be able to use her as a plate for s3x, but I have feelings for this b1tch, and I feel if I do this she'll just continue to trap me.

Should I just ignore? She is damn hot as hell and may do some crazy sh1t to lure me back in.

And you don't trust yourself not to see this crazy shyt?

You don't trust yourself to respect yourself?

 

[DreamAgain]

And you don't trust yourself not to see this crazy shyt?

You don't trust yourself to respect yourself?

You're right, I should and will just drop her

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You're right, I should and will just drop her

You can fvck her if you trust yourself not to SUBMIT to her crazy games. Just say "no" when it's appropriate.

As a test if STRENGTH see if you can do this . Alot of the guys that dyck these hoez down don't do anything for them, don't even lose a wink of sleep behind them.

 

[Bible_Belt]

She's probably fantasizing about you catching her, tying her up, a light beating and a lot of verbal degradation, and all sorts of other twisted stuff. I'm not telling you to do that, just food for thought, but it may be her sex fetishes that are behind her cheating behavior.

 

[Atom Smasher]

OP, my advice is DO NOT try to keep her as a FB. Read the BPD thread. Anyone who is advising you to consider keeping her on for sex has never dealt with a true BPD before.

BPDs are monsters. But they're no ordinary monsters. They posses the key to your inner core. They have direct access into your soul and spirit, and they are subconsciously and systematically engaged in destroying you from within.

Just look how hooked you are on her. She's going to keep trying to reel you back in with her feminine charms and you are going to submit to this dynamic until you start to realize that she is sucking the very life force out of you.

Now is the time to take charge and break the pattern of destruction. Go back and read the BPD thread. BPDs are similar to high blood pressure - both are silent killers. One kills the body and the other kills the spirit.

How any man can take sloppy seconds from a woman who is being screwed by another man is beyond my ability to comprehend. That guy she just screwed is carrying HIS essence with her. I can't think of anything more repulsive.

The guys who advise NC are correct. There is no way to convince a woman that she has done wrong. All you can do is induce regret. This is not immediately gratifying because you want to sound off to her, but 100% of women will take that to mean, "Oh, I was right about him. He can't control his anger."

100% of women are literally insane. 2% of these have some semblance of sanity, but are not completely sane. 100% of BPDs are deadly to a man's spirit.

If you get back with her you are going to prolong a lot of agony. It's best to take matters in hand and cut this cancer out completely. It hurts, but only for a very little while. The odd thing about BPD relationships is that the man tends to get over it much faster than with a real "love" relationship. The realization of dodging a bullet and the hindsight of looking back at the sick dynamic that was going on tends to arrive quickly.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

On the other hand, I feel like, from a justice standpoint, I need to expose her to let her know how much of a piece of sh1t she is

BS. You want to hurt her because she hurt you. There is nothing to gain from that. Females are ninjas are flipping blame around.

Any attempt by men to "punish" women is rooted in a childish need to "be right" and be recognized for "being a victim."

She cheated, she's disqualified, find somebody else. Cut her out of your life, cut her out of your brain.

You're not in kindergarten. She's not going to say sorry.

 

[Roober]

First of all, sorry to hear about your loss. Incredibly unfortunate.

I will agree with others here, go complete no contact. If she manages to contact you, be indifferent.

Remember, a mans most valuable gift is his time.

Shaming her takes your time
Calling her to call her a ***** takes your time
Thinking about her actions takes your time

Even though its negative, it still requires your attention, something she very likely wants. This has a very definitive comparison to children, who will act out if it gives them attention, even if the attention is negative.

You are better served to use that time on yourself. Start a journal here and update it whenever you feel the need to reach out to her.

 

[skinnyguy]

Go NC and make a vow never to have oneitis ever again

 

[IKO69]

There is nothing to gain from having any sort of "relationship"....are you crazy bro? I wouldn't be able to stand nor would I want to see her face lest I'd spit in it. That's just about the most disrespectful thing a woman can do to you and you want to wonder about how to keep things "nice". Assuming she is not your wife and/or you have a family, what is there to think about?

 

[IKO69]

There is nothing to gain from having any sort of "relationship"....are you crazy bro? I wouldn't be able to stand nor would I want to see her face lest I'd spit in it. That's just about the most disrespectful thing a woman can do to you and you want to wonder about how to keep things "nice". Assuming she is not your wife and/or you have a family, what is there to think about? I think some of you guys are too kind hearted for your own good.

That's the problem with these damn hot women. I understand the theory that you spin plates to keep this from happening. If all your plates are about equal rating, then this works...but s3xing a 6.5 is much different than an 8.5, as we all know.

Nevertheless I know this woman is poisonous, but the fact she is a s3xy little demon is the problem.

Poor excuse. That is weak man ****. What is the difference between a "6" or an "8.5", whatever that means? The only difference is how you think other people perceive her. If you really like the "6" what difference does it ****ing make if she's not "super hot"? Isn't the point to be happy or are you going to live for the approval of other people your whole life? It seems that is why people want "10's" in the first place...their happy just to put their balls on the chopping block when there is obvious no compatibility whatsoever just for an "ego boost", so they can look good...then it's hell on earth and doesn't work out they whine and cry.