A Bit Confused..?

MrJack

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Ok so my guess is that this girl is an attention whvre or something but I’d like your guy’s opinion on it. I honestly can’t tell if I messed up somewhere? My other guess is that there’s a Chadwick Thunderc0ck that’s just a little bit "better" than me that she’s riding for now until she gets thrown to the curb. She’s a solid 8.5, tan skin, thick booty, hot face, small b00bs but i'm an azz guy anyways ;)

It’d probably be best to show you our texts from about a week and a half ago, spanning roughly 3 days in a row (limited texts though, not some all day type shyt) and then a tad bit of shytty Snapchat communication we have had since then so you can best gauge this from your perspective. By the way this is the same girl I made a post about last month where I “out-amog’d” my amog buddy. Yup... still haven’t smashed... but not for lack of trying and seemingly doing all the right things? I’m talking to 2 other girls at the moment, they are a 7.5 and an 8. The 8, we are in early stages of communication, the 7.5 is coming to the crib this Saturday so no oneitis over here... just curious af and still learning...

Quick Recap: The most we have done thus far is makeout heavily, some HJ and fingering in my parents hot tub. Couldn't seal the deal that night due to the group we were with that night sleeping in literally all the spots available, and anywhere else was just not an option without us being right next to my parents room and them hearing us. (My old bedroom is just carpet now since I moved out and took my bed). It was already known she was expected home at some point that night, (she's 22) and she ended up driving home after the logistics blew up in my face... smh.

Ight see below

Texts from week & 1/2ish ago

4:29pm Me: Hey bubble butt
5:21pm Her: Hellooooo!!!
6:59pm Me: Come out with me Saturday night in X-town!
7:00pm Me: Btw I saw all those pics we took the other day haha
7:01pm Her: What send them to me!! Saturday I'm going boating :) lol otherwise I would
7:21pm Me: (name of friend) has them. And that's cool have fun!
9:12pm Her: Yes I'm pretty excited!! What are you doing in X-town??

Next Day

8:21am Me: Getting drunk. Parents gone so might take it there afterwards

(Real quick, she still lives in the burbs by my parents house and I live 45min - 1hr away in the city. X-town refers to the burbs)

10:16am Her: Haha shocker :lol: heyyy that would be cool!!! I'd for sure go to your parents house if you end up there!!

3:33pm Me: Ikr :lol: I'll end up there though, I was just informed I will need to take the dog out at some point that night

(No lie that was actually true lol)

3:34pm Me: When are your boating festivities over?
6:48pm Her: Lol okay sweet!!! :) then we can plan on seeing each other! I'm not sure yet it's up in the air lol whenever we get back!

7:09pm Me: Sounds good hit me up
10:49pm Her: Looking forward to it!! :) maybe we can finally spend some alone time togetherrrr
12:21am Me: I am very much looking forward to it :)

(Too eager? I'm semi-cringing now looking at that)

Next Day (Didn't bother to follow up from the day before, figured she would text me, she did..anddd)

9:16pm Her: Hey
9:25pm Me: What's up. Ready to chill with JUST me for once!
10:18pm Her: Hey what's up we're coming back now!!
10:18pm Her: Yas I am!!
10:23pm Her: Yes!!


(lol drunk bimbo, should've known it was off at this point)

10:54pm Me: Good! I'm on my way back now as well, come over when you're ready!

(Time passes... getting somewhat late...)

11:51pm Her: Oh okay!! Good I'm sorry I am too lit to drive :(
11:55pm Me: So you aren't coming
11:59pm Her: I don't think so

(I was just going to leave it at that and soft next her until she made an effort to meetup again)

12:33am Her: I'm sorry!

(Ok but STILL no counter offer?)

12:54am Me: I'm sure you'll think of a way to make it up to me
2:14am Her: I'll have to!!! :)

Since then she has sent me a single Snapchat pic of herself with no caption, which I looked at and ignored. No point in acknowledging that or complimenting her after she just wasted my time days beforehand. Then days later she messaged me on Snapchat commenting on one of my "Story" posts that everyone can see, saying "its a great day for that". (My story post was of this beach club I was at with a few buddies and it was a just a pic of the beach and water with an In-App caption of the name of the club, I didn't type it).

I entertained it with a lazy "Yea you should see my volleyball skills"

She said "Can't wait!"

I said "Oh you're coming next time?!"

She said "Hell yeah"

And thats the end of that. It has been 3 days of no contact from either of us since then.

Sooo wtf guys lol. What happened? I know words mean nothing and that you only "listen" to her actions but I mean shyt, she seemed so interested before. Was she just being a drunk bimbo attention seeking whvre? Did Chadwick come along? Is she BPD? Is she waiting for me to invite her out again? Was I the one that fvcked up somehow in my interactions with her?

Btw we are throwing a birthday party for my roommate this Saturday and he made a Facebook group yesterday and invited her. (She is best friends with his sister). I looked at the page today and she is listed under the "Can't Go" section. So good thing I didn't decide to text her and invite her because she would've declined without counter-offering because she has never truly counter-offered. Yet she wants to "spend some alone time togetherrr." I'm confused on this one lol.

Feel free to critique anything you would've done differently and let me know your thoughts on what you think she is thinking. (As if we would ever really know anyways :rolleyes:)
 

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That’s what I was thinking too... did you see anything that I might’ve done wrong or anything I can improve on for the future or was my game solid enough to have worked with a woman of higher quality than her?
 

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No idea about a chad in the picture, but she seems way too flaky for my taste. I know girls that will respond with similar enthusiasm, but they’ll actually, y’know - show up.

Of course there’s girls that will lie to the moon and back (pressing even their own extensive future plans with you, but never following through on it).

I get the feeling she falls more into that second category. I can’t comment on how you could have done better or different - but I’d say you can’t change a girl on this kind of fundamental level. She’s a flaker (bull****ter in my view), and I don’t think there’s much you can do there.

You could invite here out once more, expecting the flake, or you could let her try and set something up. Chances are she will not do the second. But the first option will confirm for you that she is basically not a viable girl. If she actually does follow through - great! If not, then it’s a strike too many for her.

Honestly, I seriously dislike this type of girl. And I agree with the ‘next’.
 

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No idea about a chad in the picture, but she seems way too flaky for my taste. I know girls that will respond with similar enthusiasm, but they’ll actually, y’know - show up.

Of course there’s girls that will lie to the moon and back (pressing even their own extensive future plans with you, but never following through on it).

I get the feeling she falls more into that second category. I can’t comment on how you could have done better or different - but I’d say you can’t change a girl on this kind of fundamental level. She’s a flaker (bull****ter in my view), and I don’t think there’s much you can do there.

You could invite here out once more, expecting the flake, or you could let her try and set something up. Chances are she will not do the second. But the first option will confirm for you that she is basically not a viable girl. If she actually does follow through - great! If not, then it’s a strike too many for her.

Honestly, I seriously dislike this type of girl. And I agree with the ‘next’.
Yea it’s a d@mn shame. That booootyyy thooo Lol. Woulda been so nice.

Oh well I suppose there’s always still a chance in the future I could bang her since she IS best friends with my roommates sister so I’m assuming at some point I’m going to see her again..

It just won’t be because I reached out.
 

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That’s what I was thinking too... did you see anything that I might’ve done wrong or anything I can improve on for the future or was my game solid enough to have worked with a woman of higher quality than her?
Your game was solid, imo. She's just a flake that wants to have you around. Don't waste your time.
 

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Waste of time Bruv.

Don't waste your precious time, entertaining this flakey attention hoe!

You give these kinda chicks a massive ego boost, when you chase and thirst after them.

She is making things difficult? Simple solution.. Move the fuk on to the NEXT one.

Ignore this one completely moving forward.. Unless she gives CLEAR signs of wanting to meet up and SMASH.
 

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Waste of time Bruv.

Don't waste your precious time, entertaining this flakey attention hoe!

You give these kinda chicks a massive ego boost, when you chase and thirst after them.

She is making things difficult? Simple solution.. Move the fuk on to the NEXT one.

Ignore this one completely moving forward.. Unless she gives CLEAR signs of wanting to meet up and SMASH.
Well received. Had a hunch this was the direction to go but you all have confirmed it. Thanks
 

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@greatsnake @soulforge @RedScorpion

Welp, looks like I’ll be seeing her sooner than I thought. I was just informed last night by my roommate that his sister and the “flaker” are coming over tomorrow night to go to this big food n drink festival type thing in the city... lol.

I’m not even sure I’ll be going since I’m just hearing about this now. Also not sure who else, if anyone, would be coming. I guess I’ll ask my roommate about it a little more today after work.

If I end up going, what’s the play here? I’m guessing just act how I’ve always acted around her and just continue to be flirty, funny, and touchy while we are out drinking and eating a bunch of shyt?

No idea if the plan is to head back to my place afterwards. But should I bring up the topic of doing that towards the end of our festivities, get her alone in my room and go for the smash?

Only thing I can think of but would like your guys’ opinion.

Thanks.
 

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All of that bs was for attention. And you see that AMOG for the females just fluffs their ego up, the winner doesn't get laid necessarily. And shell also continue to expect these monkey shines.
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Go out and enjoy your day out, just dont give her the attention. It’s not the end of the world, but you do know what you want.

I second this.. Enjoy your day.. If she makes it easy, then aim to BANG.

If she makes things difficult... Treat her like she is nothing special and focus on just enjoying your day
 

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@greatsnake @soulforge @RedScorpion

Welp, looks like I’ll be seeing her sooner than I thought. I was just informed last night by my roommate that his sister and the “flaker” are coming over tomorrow night to go to this big food n drink festival type thing in the city... lol.

I’m not even sure I’ll be going since I’m just hearing about this now. Also not sure who else, if anyone, would be coming. I guess I’ll ask my roommate about it a little more today after work.

If I end up going, what’s the play here? I’m guessing just act how I’ve always acted around her and just continue to be flirty, funny, and touchy while we are out drinking and eating a bunch of shyt?

No idea if the plan is to head back to my place afterwards. But should I bring up the topic of doing that towards the end of our festivities, get her alone in my room and go for the smash?

Only thing I can think of but would like your guys’ opinion.

Thanks.
I’d say that’s as decent as a plan as any. Just go with the intention and mindset that you’re not planning on going for the kill, have to get laid, etc. Just try to enjoy the time there, enjoy being with them, expect that nothing will happen at the end. Of course, if you see the opportunity to flirt/escalate/lay her, then definitely. But better to be relaxed and expect nothing. Act like nothings wrong, like you’ve always been before.
 

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@greatsnake @soulforge @RedScorpion

Welp, looks like I’ll be seeing her sooner than I thought. I was just informed last night by my roommate that his sister and the “flaker” are coming over tomorrow night to go to this big food n drink festival type thing in the city... lol.

I’m not even sure I’ll be going since I’m just hearing about this now. Also not sure who else, if anyone, would be coming. I guess I’ll ask my roommate about it a little more today after work.

If I end up going, what’s the play here? I’m guessing just act how I’ve always acted around her and just continue to be flirty, funny, and touchy while we are out drinking and eating a bunch of shyt?

No idea if the plan is to head back to my place afterwards. But should I bring up the topic of doing that towards the end of our festivities, get her alone in my room and go for the smash?

Only thing I can think of but would like your guys’ opinion.

Thanks.
I would be NICE but I would in no way, shape of form go out of my way to show her any type of attention that you wouldnt give any other woman that will be there.

No flirting, funny or touching. I would respond with a smile if she said something to me. Thats about all she would get.

That will either make her break and she will be wanting to fvck you or she will see that she isnt going to get her validation from you and she will move on.

Either way, you win.
 

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Appreciate it fellas. Will do exactly those things!
 

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I would be NICE but I would in no way, shape of form go out of my way to show her any type of attention that you wouldnt give any other woman that will be there.

No flirting, funny or touching. I would respond with a smile if she said something to me. Thats about all she would get.

That will either make her break and she will be wanting to fvck you or she will see that she isnt going to get her validation from you and she will move on.

Either way, you win.
Well I would be flirty/funny/touchy with every woman that will be coming along or any woman we meet or chill with there. That won’t change.

But won’t that come across as rude if she says something to me/asks me a question (whatever the fvck the statement or question may be) and I just smile in return with no comment?

I feel like that might be kind of awkward especially if it’s just the 4 of us going.

Am I wrong?
 

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Don’t think much about it dude . Move with your instinct. You don’t seem like a newbie to me .

If she wants to get fcked by you she’s gonna make it obvious to you . You’re no strangers. She might throw a shyt test at you when you meet her again . There might be no reason for it but women have their own reasons to believe it.
 

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Don’t think much about it dude . Move with your instinct. You don’t seem like a newbie to me .

If she wants to get fcked by you she’s gonna make it obvious to you . You’re no strangers. She might throw a shyt test at you when you meet her again . There might be no reason for it but women have their own reasons to believe it.
Yea I am not a newbie but I’m not advanced either. At more of an intermediate level I’d say.

But yea you’re right, at this point I just need to be going with the flow of things as they are happening. I used to be in my head really bad all the time when I was a newbie and I think this is just a lingering effect that has become less and less over time but still not quite eliminated.

Appreciate the feedback.
 
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