The questions within the questions on a first date...

[marmel75]

Sometimes guys screw themselves out of lays because women wont just come out and say whats on their mind most times. They hope they can give subtle hints and guys will pick up on them. Unfortunately most guys don't.

For instance...you've been chilling with a woman for a while, good vibe, good convo and made some moves...maybe some kissing or makeouts, etc...

Then she asks you "So what do you have planned after this?" The unsuspecting guy just says "Oh, nothing just going home and relaxing" or whatever he might say and then if it hasn't been discussed yet she might follow up with something like "So whats your current living situation?".

Basically what she is finding out is do you have anything to do after the date and do you live by yourself. She is basically green lighting you to invite her over to her place and letting you know she is down for it.

A lot of guys have this fly right over their head and the woman basically ends up getting frustrated because she wants to fvck and the guy is clueless to it and thinks he "killed it on the date" and is shocked when she tells them she didn't feel the "chemistry".

It means she gave you a green light to fvck and she assumed you were either too dense or too afraid to act on it. Dont be this guy. I was this guy for a long time. Trust me. Just say "Lets get out of here and we can go hang out at my place". Or any version of this. She is going to go, trust me.

If you hear anything like either of those 2 questions at the end of the night, the bang is yours to lose. If you miss the opportunity it might not come again.

The question she is asking is not the question she is asking.

 

[AJ84]

Sometimes guys screw themselves out of lays because women wont just come out and say whats on their mind most times. They hope they can give subtle hints and guys will pick up on them. Unfortunately most guys don't.

For instance...you've been chilling with a woman for a while, good vibe, good convo and made some moves...maybe some kissing or makeouts, etc...

Then she asks you "So what do you have planned after this?" The unsuspecting guy just says "Oh, nothing just going home and relaxing" or whatever he might say and then if it hasn't been discussed yet she might follow up with something like "So whats your current living situation?".

Basically what she is finding out is do you have anything to do after the date and do you live by yourself. She is basically green lighting you to invite her over to her place and letting you know she is down for it.

A lot of guys have this fly right over their head and the woman basically ends up getting frustrated because she wants to fvck and the guy is clueless to it and thinks he "killed it on the date" and is shocked when she tells them she didn't feel the "chemistry".

It means she gave you a green light to fvck and she assumed you were either too dense or too afraid to act on it. Dont be this guy. I was this guy for a long time. Trust me. Just say "Lets get out of here and we can go hang out at my place". Or any version of this. She is going to go, trust me.

If you hear anything like either of those 2 questions at the end of the night, the bang is yours to lose. If you miss the opportunity it might not come again.

The question she is asking is not the question she is asking.

100% accurate.

Also, if you went for coffee or a meal and afterwards she says, "oh it's still early", or something to that effect that's your cue to suggest drinks or something and see where the night goes. Don't leave that remark hanging lol.

 

[Glassguy]

Women are covert. They want a man that will pay attention to what they are saying and lead them. Sadly, most guys arent paying attention to the small cues whether they be verbal or physical. Or they are scared to act upon them if they do notice them. Those are they guys not getting laid.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Good salesmen look for signs that say "no soliciting," and that's where they approach. That person went through the effort to put up that sign because they are an easy sell. It's the same with OLD profiles, the more a girl's profile says "No Hook Ups!" the easier she will tend to be. She's talking to herself more than anything. So sometimes those subtle cues are more than just subtle - they are the exact opposite of what she says. She's talking about how she would like things to be, not about how they actually are.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

More and black and white from our resident know it all DJ. I’ve done this before myself. You DO have to read the subtle cues, but many times they are asking these things because of some other reason, or maybe even small talk. Not because they want to **** you. It depends on the dynamics between you and that person. If you just up and tell her to head over to your place, a lot of times they’ll make an excuse not to go because they don’t want to have sex with you (maybe not yet anyway), and instead you can cut off future interactions with her entirely. Know your game. Maybe she just wants to find out more about you like what type of person you are or whatever. Everything is a grey area with this stuff, so you gotta know what you’re doing. It’s not a ‘one size fits all’ type of solution like you make it out to be.

 

[RickTheToad]

Two ladies already on the dating app asked me if I live by myself or not. I thought that was a bit unusual at my age. What man lives with their parents at 36?

 

[marmel75]

Two ladies already on the dating app asked me if I live by myself or not. I thought that was a bit unusual at my age. What man lives with their parents at 36?

Ones that are divorced or unemployed

 

[marmel75]

More and black and white from our resident know it all DJ. I’ve done this before myself. You DO have to read the subtle cues, but many times they are asking these things because of some other reason, or maybe even small talk. Not because they want to **** you. It depends on the dynamics between you and that person. If you just up and tell her to head over to your place, a lot of times they’ll make an excuse not to go because they don’t want to have sex with you (maybe not yet anyway), and instead you can cut off future interactions with her entirely. Know your game. Maybe she just wants to find out more about you like what type of person you are or whatever. Everything is a grey area with this stuff, so you gotta know what you’re doing. It’s not a ‘one size fits all’ type of solution like you make it out to be.

Which is exactly why I said:

"For instance...you've been chilling with a woman for a while, good vibe, good convo and made some moves...maybe some kissing or makeouts, etc..."

 

[BeExcellent]

The question she is asking is not the question she is asking.

Precisely.

Go back to the DJ Bible. Read posts from Pook about "Woman ese".

 

[RickTheToad]

Ones that are divorced or unemployed

Oh. I guess it's more common than I thought. Must hit hard if a divorce hit someone so hard that they had to move back in with their parents in your mid 30s or beyond. Wow. As for unemployed, no excuse for that.