Big age difference couples

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I've talked about this before, a couple in the neighbourhood I live have 14 year age difference between each other and two kids that are not even 16 yet and he's pushing 60 years old.

What made me make this thread she had a friend of hers visit never seen this woman before she's got to be around 45 years old, her husband is 60 something and they have couple kids that are 15 at the most maybe younger. It makes me think WTF was this guy thinking to have children so late in his life? The age difference between him and his wife is an easy 16 years, he looks like a pompous fvck he was fighting with his wife when I seen them I would have slugged the fvck.

What do you think goes through these guys heads? there is so much age difference their woman is still sexually active they are nearing 60 probably get it up once a month. They have children that are still in school these guys should be thinking about retiring and enjoying life.

When I look at women I don't want a difference of age no more than 10 years I'm 41 now no way would I get involve with a woman in her late 20s.
 

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It's my observations that couples with huge age differences has the tendency to stick together for the long haul.

It's also my belief that they do so because the man has a higher or equivalent EQ vs his wife.

Women tend to respect men more so when they hv an higher EQ.

In relationships, break up happens more so when a husband/boyfriend displays continously low EQ.

There's a formula towards calculating EQ, to be used as merely a benchmark; for example your age 41 X 1/2 + 7 = 27.5

Then the woman whom you are more likely to be compatible are those age 27.5 and below, EQ wise.
 

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It's my observations that couples with huge age differences has the tendency to stick together for the long haul.

It's also my belief that they do so because the man has a higher or equivalent EQ vs his wife.

Women tend to respect men more so when they hv an higher EQ.

In relationships, break up happens more so when a husband/boyfriend displays continously low EQ.

There's a formula towards calculating EQ, to be used as merely a benchmark; for example your age 41 X 1/2 + 7 = 27.5

Then the woman whom you are more likely to be compatible are those age 27.5 and below, EQ wise.
I think that algoritiom you’ve described is for dating nothing below half age plus 7. Finding the lowest you can date whilst being socially acceptable.

It doesn’t have much to do with EQ. I have a very high EQ and I would be a compatible match with many ages.
 

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U r right and then at the same time wrong.

The algorithm, is traditionally used as you said, but twist it around can also be used as a benchmark to guesstimate a likelihood of male and female EQ compatibility, be reminded this is merely a hypothesis.

Example; a male and a female of the same age group, let's say both 12 y.o., both genders will display a remarkable difference with maturity. Whilst the boy for all intents and purposes mentally still not far removed from when he is 10 years old.

But the 12 year old girl, has vastly progress from a 10 year old.

When a woman has a higher EQ then her lover, she will over time gradually disrespect him, in her eyes, her lover is still a boy and not yet a man.
 

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Personally i only like girls at least 5 years younger than me. Well save the odd exception.
 

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I could see that. However, while it is true girls mature quicker than boys during the teenage and formative years, this statement doesn’t stay true, otherwise women would continually Become wiser in the ways of emotional intelligence at an alarming rate.

I can certainly be considered to have a higher eq than many older women. Even when I was 20 years old. However, unbiasly I could be an exception on a general bell curve.

Most men are not in touch with their emotions.
 

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I could see that. However, while it is true girls mature quicker than boys during the teenage and formative years, this statement doesn’t stay true, otherwise women would continually Become wiser in the ways of emotional intelligence at an alarming rate.

I can certainly be considered to have a higher eq than many older women. Even when I was 20 years old. However, unbiasly I could be an exception on a general bell curve.

Most men are not in touch with their emotions.
Well, when I mean EQ, it's gender specific EQ. Meaning masculine EQ vs feminine EQ.

And when I'm talking difference in levels of EQ it's means in terms of strength.

Don't be confused and compare your EQ in the same breath as a feminine EQ. That would be a mistake.

The higher a males EQ, the more masculine, manly traits he possesses. That's the male EQ.
 

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I could see that. However, while it is true girls mature quicker than boys during the teenage and formative years, this statement doesn’t stay true, otherwise women would continually Become wiser in the ways of emotional intelligence at an alarming rate.

I can certainly be considered to have a higher eq than many older women. Even when I was 20 years old. However, unbiasly I could be an exception on a general bell curve.

Most men are not in touch with their emotions.
So you are also in touch with their emotions? So you are able to use that to your advantage?
 

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I've talked about this before, a couple in the neighbourhood I live have 14 year age difference between each other and two kids that are not even 16 yet and he's pushing 60 years old.

What made me make this thread she had a friend of hers visit never seen this woman before she's got to be around 45 years old, her husband is 60 something and they have couple kids that are 15 at the most maybe younger. It makes me think WTF was this guy thinking to have children so late in his life? The age difference between him and his wife is an easy 16 years, he looks like a pompous fvck he was fighting with his wife when I seen them I would have slugged the fvck.

What do you think goes through these guys heads? there is so much age difference their woman is still sexually active they are nearing 60 probably get it up once a month. They have children that are still in school these guys should be thinking about retiring and enjoying life.

When I look at women I don't want a difference of age no more than 10 years I'm 41 now no way would I get involve with a woman in her late 20s.
How do you know that he's not pompous cause he's tapping it every night? My moms and dad are 65 and they still fvck everyday. IF you keep using it you don't lose it? Why you white knighting when she chose him?
 

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Women grow alot faster in ''maturity/mental capacity'' due to biological reasons (kids, genetic, survival, multitasking capacities)... than male...

It's established that a 12 years old boy and a 12 years old girl... the mental maturity of the boy is 12 years old, while the woman is 15 years old in boy age.

Female since teenage years always prefered more ''mature'' ''older''''established'' man. Especially since ''older man'' are above their social landscape man/teenage boy

An older man usually is more high on Social Value, Provider Mode, Maturity and confidence.

I would say the fact that Women date at same-age or younger man are a typical NorthAmerican (American) situation.

In Africa-Middle-East-Asia-Europe (especially eastern european)... a 10 years old difference (10 years older man) is a commun occurrence and even expected.

In ''ancient culture and middle-age'' girls would be married at 12 years old to a 18 years old man.


Alot of girls with ''dad issues'' want also older man.

A older man is usually ''higher in dominance hierarchy''.

A older man has a easier time with a younger woman need/want/expectations. In certain context he's more ''established'' so he ain't career running as much and he has more time for HER. He's more mature to face psychological challenges / emotional providing

Remember the HighScore Theory or why some posters advocate ''going for young chicks''

The issue an older man might face are:
1. He will lower in sexual energy eventually
2. He might have less energy to be ''a parent''
3. He might be a more ''absent'' person due to his habits and single man lifestyle already firmly established (that depends on the guy of course)

However: He will likely provide all the ''emotionals/financial/mind'' that a women seek in a LTR and if he keeps in shape... he will satisfy the young lady needs

Selection Process in Mating is not random, it's about increasing your chances of spreading your genes. Female will go for Male with higher chances (the guy at the top).. Male are the Relationship master, Female the sex master.

Aristotle the Greek: ''A man is ready to be married at 35 years old, He should go for a 18 years old woman''
 
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Your right 10-15 years age Gap is completely normal in middle East and north Africa .

Eastern Europe and some Latin countries too .

So if you want a age Gap find someone from one of those .
 
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Well I’m not even going to consider dating a women any older than 24 from now on; in terms of a LTR.
 

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Well I’m not even going to consider dating a women any older than 24 from now on; in terms of a LTR.
Get one from a nation where that age Gap is normal. You'll get treated better and she'll be more great ful .
 

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I've talked about this before, a couple in the neighbourhood I live have 14 year age difference between each other and two kids that are not even 16 yet and he's pushing 60 years old.

What made me make this thread she had a friend of hers visit never seen this woman before she's got to be around 45 years old, her husband is 60 something and they have couple kids that are 15 at the most maybe younger. It makes me think WTF was this guy thinking to have children so late in his life? The age difference between him and his wife is an easy 16 years, he looks like a pompous fvck he was fighting with his wife when I seen them I would have slugged the fvck.

What do you think goes through these guys heads? there is so much age difference their woman is still sexually active they are nearing 60 probably get it up once a month. They have children that are still in school these guys should be thinking about retiring and enjoying life.

When I look at women I don't want a difference of age no more than 10 years I'm 41 now no way would I get involve with a woman in her late 20s.
Judgmental much?

Why do you care if a woman is with a man who is older than she is? How does that concern or affect you?

Also, you are misinformed about the ability that a 60 year old man has with regard to performance.

-Augustus-
 

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I’m 36 but I look 26. So I go for girls in their early 20’s, many of whom like me. Women in their 30’s don’t like me and I don’t like them either.
 

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I only date women 10-25 years younger. I'm in the US. I think the whole age gap thing as being taboo has minimized with time as it's more acceptable now. If you are older, you do need to be in excellent shape, have some $, good career, and property. In other words, be established. I've done a good job on all four fronts. My last 9-year LTR was with a woman 12 years younger. I regularly date a lot younger than that. I'm not looking for a LTR or marriage so it all works. Some young women I meet are extraordinarily mature for their age. I do try to vet them well. Intimacy is a part of maybe 20-30% I date.

I would also agree in that age difference couples do stick it out better and try harder. I think there's a stronger bond and more intense chemistry because the age gap can be a major hurdle for a relationship, so to overlook it, the relationship is probably quite stronger than average on the other fronts.

Plus, with a divorce rate of ~60% in the US, spiking at 3 and 8 years of marriage and increasing with each subsequent marriage, a person marrying someone "close" to their own age solves and proves nothing, really.
 

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I think you guys missed the point about what I was originally talking about. Going after a younger woman is one thing, 90% of the time she wants kids maybe the guy does too but most of the time its her.

The couple that lives in the neighbourhood, I met them years ago they didn't have kids they knew each other for less than a year he was around 43 she was 29 I was 26 at that time. I got the feeling her clock was ticking she was looking for a man, he's a successful business man, she was a couple years into her career. She was a real flirt she thought her sh*t didn't stink she's a daddies girl couldn't do enough for him, she's got some deep rooted body image issues. Fast forward to present day she's become bit of a b*tch he's aged a lot, raising a family, dealing with her. He's got his hands full that's for sure, he's run ragged, walks like the tin man like he's crippled up with arthritis. At almost 60 years old he should be enjoying his life looking forward to retirement. By the time he see's his kids graduation he will be too worn out to enjoy his life, hell if his kids want to go to college or university he will have to work till he's 80

Think of your future before you go screwing it up, he was thinking with the wrong head back in 2001 when he met this woman, she was probably banging his brains out a 42 year old guy tapping a 28 year old woman. She had a smoking body on her, her nipples were perma hard, pushed through her bra, she wasn't blessed with a pretty face thou, as she's aged it hasn't gotten any better. She knew what she wanted and she got it, family, guy that knows how to make money, she's living the upper crust life style she expects, what's he left with? Kids reach 18 years old he's 65 plus she's still young enough to latch on another man closer to her age, and he's left a gibbeled up old man from stress.

When I seen her friend the other day with a guy that is even older than her with their school aged children is was holy fvck, guy definitely in his 60s with a woman that's 45 years old I just shook my head and thought WTF.
 
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