Women notice when you actually enjoy talking to them beyond just trying to get laid

ChristopherColumbus

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I love sex, I can masturbate 18 times a day


but I want 1 woman - an extremely high quality one - that I will be 100% loyal to
This could be your problem. Your challenge, should you choose to accept it, is to avoid pleasuring yourself for a month. If you find you can not do it, then bigdave has a big problem.
 

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Those obstacles are all in your head. Im guessing the obstacles are other people near her. You need to stop caring what other people think and just approach. Most people are so wrapped up in there own lives that they won't even remember you the next day. Go up to them and talk to them. Ask them out for a drink or coffee. Dont worry about rejection.

not only just that obstacle but in my head, they don't want to be approached


I can't seem to convince myself that those kind of women even want to meet someone
 

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not only just that obstacle but in my head, they don't want to be approached


I can't seem to convince myself that those kind of women even want to meet someone
You need to work on your inner game and learn to not give a fVck. There is plenty of books, articles, and videos on youtube that you can watch.

https://www.howtobeast.com/how-to-stop-giving-a-****/
This is a good article right here. Read number 3 and try out the breathing technique. It really helped me.
 

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Yeah sure they do. But it doesn't mean she'll want you sexually for it.

A lot of guys become very needy and nervous when talking to women. And that messes up your chances.
 

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not only just that obstacle but in my head, they don't want to be approached


I can't seem to convince myself that those kind of women even want to meet someone
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Yeah sure they do. But it doesn't mean she'll want you sexually for it.

A lot of guys become very needy and nervous when talking to women. And that messes up your chances.
How nervous would he be if he had one or two he could fvck on demand?
 

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This is true. Here I am in my 40s now talking on a regular basis with 2 just-turned-20 and mid-20s girl. Both together, one at a time, and then at other times with a tall fat gay guy in our company. So the 20 yr old is the most impressionable and consults me on Everything, more and more now. She's a turd. Dudes wanna bang her, but just as a blow-up doll as I see it. She's mean (her "ex" is about to kill himself and of course, she pulls in the "I'm going to have to get a restraining order" line today - she's the Only pvssy he's gotten for 3 years since they were in highschool, now he's going crazy cause she's just dumped him just like that). They say, "Leave the drama for your momma.." but this b!tch is Always in drama mode even when you point it out to her and I will lie to her just to get a rise out of her then she catches me in the lie and I say, "I thought you always like drama? So I was trying to spread you some more.."

So she as well as the other one, for months now but increasingly so see me "not wanting them" like that, yet I always talk with them about everything and they must think I'm a sh!thead but that's fine, they see me as in a position of hierarchy so that's negated (kinda pimp-like I guess). So I disregard everything they are as women and backhand/forwardhand slap slap away them in whatever they say, squeeze their cheeks, just disregard them in all ways all the time and feign caring about them or agreeing with them just insincere insincere insincere. They must think, "how can someone be so Dead to me.." I just let them know on all accounts that I don't want them or that there's not a chance in Hell that I'd pursue them and they're 5s 6s tops. I've fvcked so much better and therefore, no, I do not care to ever have to fvck either of them. That's my position either they get that position or they don't - it may seep through, but if it doesn't I don't give a fvck. So the mid-20s today tells me she got a second job at Charolette Ruse in the mall and seems disappointed having to have to get off at 10 PM tonight. I think she broke up with her boyfriend (an Oil field worker - hard fvcking long hours) too. They had just moved. I could not listen to her yap yap yap her voice runs at 100 miles per hour sometimes but she's smart, neurotic and Italian from up North - good body fit, but decent face and I'm sure she can fvck well. These b!tches must think I'm just total blackness in spirit and mind, but here I am good-looking but growing older every day. A lot of times I play deaf to them. I have to get them to say it again. She'll say, "Didn't you hear me say 'hi'" and once in the room I'll say, "Oh I though you said 'bye' that you were leaving early (so I said bye)" and "I know you love me, I love you too" when that was further from what she said. I couldn't fvckin hear so I just stated what I thought I heard Hark! Who goes there?

I tell them very off-the-wall interpretations and things they've never heard of and that makes them want to pose all manner of questions to me just to see what crazy thing I'll say kind of like an oracle they keep coming to (for advice or future-telling information black-ball telling). They're like, you never know what you're gonna get with this guy, but I am heavily employed so and way above them (sort of an authority) so they think just because that (I'm not homeless or crazy) there must be worth to my thoughts or what I have to say, but really there is no worth and I just spit out whatever surface thoughts are on my mind creative thoughts that are coming from various sources in my years living/books read. I will give them my real thoughts though, and much deep rooted and unwavering. Like the gay guy will show me a picture of a half-naked dude's back getting out of a pool and I'm braced for it and I'll ugh pull my head away from the picture in disgust and I've already told the girls that I don't like him either talking about gays or gay life or shoving some picture or video or whatever pithy gay thing off the internet, snapchat or twitter. Just keep that sh!t to yourself, man. The girls know I'm straight as fvck and don't stand for the gay life at all, so they are on my side even though I'm sure they were once more open to the gay life, they've changed their opinions at least in front of me. They want to conform to me even though I am rigid. They gay guy I speak to as if he were a child too (cause after all he's 23). He also comes on to customers (you know big burly surfer hunk guys) which I wish he wouldn't do. I tell him that it doesn't surprise me that he did an about face and walked out after he said that. I Know the guy. I don't like the customer, but the gay employee didn't know that I knew him barely. How am I going to talk to him now after that? He's made me look like I'm apart of that when I am clearly not, but I could care less really. I don't care a fvck, fvck everyone.
 

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Would you guys not agree with this?

Women have a six sense for a guy who is just talking to them to get laid. They want to be around someone who really likes them and enjoys talking to them beyond any agenda. I'm trying to change this in my head and really talk to women because I love being around them, instead of worrying about outcome/trying to make them want to date me.
I'd say that if the girl is like a 5-7, you need to convince her that your attraction is to her specifically and mostly her/just her/there's something special about her. and then she'll be totally okay with the fact that you are clearly just trying to get her pants off because she's not used to guys taking a special interest in her

if the girl is like an 8-10 who knows it, then you need to play it cool and not be like the 12 other thirsty losers she had to beat off her with a stick earlier today

a girl who gets rejected or ignored or passed over all the time will not be wooed/impressed by you not wanting to smash (in the same way that your reaction to being friendzoned is probably not going to be the same as someone who never ever gets friendzoned like leonardo dicaprio)

the reason I bring this up, is that the standard of girl who would get passed over in a club would still be pretty high. high 7's would get ignored in a room full of 9's, and thusly the strategy of pretending you're not trying to get laid wouldn't work as well.
 
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