I feel like you’re talking to yourself here.
I'm not talking about myself here at all. If you read what many men around SS say it echoes the disillusionment that I hear from men within my social circle. That is what I quoted from
@fastlife in my first response. This is something men who have attained sexual abundance are experiencing - the disillusionment etc. and the emptiness. In fact, here's a link:
https://www.thetrumpet.com/7750-the-emotional-corrosion-of-casual-sex
But you can also feel a difference in behavior now vs a decade ago. I was a kid and I still see a noticeable difference.
Just keep in mind that you are also ten years older and therefore your perspective is changing/developing/evolving over time (and it will continue to do so throughout your life). Some of the men in their 20s and 30s will tell you how their perceptions have adjusted as they have gained life experience. Sometimes understanding comes more out of our own experience evolution than a real changing of the landscape.
Do you have such high SMV where you can do little work and simply send a few messages? There's no way a regular guy can send a few messages on social media and get her out for drinks. She's getting bombarded by a ton of attention and messages from beta orbiters who tell her how amazing she is.
It's not so much about SMV (although SMV does matter) as it is about evaluating the woman's interest level. A regular guy can ABSOLUTELY send a few messages and get her out on a date
IF HER INTEREST LEVEL IS HIGH ENOUGH. Now we can argue about whether her high interest must be intrinsic or if there are ways to elevate her interest level vis a vis "game"...but if she has high enough interest she will meet you for a date, and therefore demonstrate by her action and investment that she is receptive to you. So this is a means of screening in favor of high interest women, which is the group you should be choosing from to start with.
There are women who will show any given man high interest.
Now. If you don't like the strata of women who are showing you high interest...that is where self improvement and elevating your SMV comes into play. Victoria's Secret models are not going to date skinny fat gamers who live in mom's basement playing video games all day with no job and no prospects. So men must look honestly in the mirror to see who the high interest women they can pull actually are...and improve from there.
