girl that I know I made a mistake with by getting to clingy and needy ghosted me. I've absolutely have accepted it and we will never be a thing but why is she on my mind? I'm getting dates left and right but I still think about her nonstop. I'm a pvssy I've moved on which I know she will never answer me. but I'm so pressed I'm literally thinking about her nonstop even hoping there is a chance which I no 100% there isnt. like dudes I've never felt like this and its annoying. why do I feel like this. what the hell is wrong with me?
You have become emotionally attached... it is a chemical process that is caused when testosterone mixes with endorphins. It is biological and completely normal... men have evolved over the eons to bond with chicks we care about because otherwise the human race would have died off because women and children, on their own would be just meals for monsters.
In addition, from a rational perspective, it is the competitive nature of human males not to let go of something that we believe we could have had, but don't because of mistakes we make. We can forget quickly when we lose because we were just beaten by someone better, but if we lose because we misplayed a ball... that haunts us. I believe its for the same reason that we learn not to touch hot stoves... the pain reminds us not to repeat mistakes.
So what to do about it:
(1) Stop thinking about her. Every time your mind wanders in this direction, snap it back and focus on something else. I know it's not easy... but it is a lot easier if you keep yourself busy with other things.
(2) See other chicks... this is part of keeping yourself busy... and do this with what you learned when you think you failed. The best way to forget about a chick is date other chicks.
(3) Understand that if she really liked you, she would have overlooked your so called 'mistakes'. Own the fact that you were not compatible and that the timing was bad and wasn't going to work anyway. I know men that fret over chicks they lost FOR YEARS. A friend of mine lost a girl he dated in college... she transferred to a university in California... after we got out of college he asked for an assignment at Fort Irwin... just he could be close to her... even though it was a bad career move for a junior officer. Then he chased this chick, even though she was dating someone else. It was pathetic she eventually did something that that FINALLY ticked him off... don't know or remember what that was, but he still sunk into a depression for another year or so. So he wasted 6 years of his prime thinking about a chick he never really had a shot with. Don;t be this guy.
