Sometimes it’s better to see it from an outside perspective thus I am asking for your advice.
I met this girl online quite a while ago (a couple of years back) never really thought of it as anything else. Then I started to like her so did she.
She lives thousands of miles away and the only way to really see her is taking an airplane.
I have also fallen in love with this girl and she says she does also (she said it first).
For the first time I visited her it all went well I enjoyed it and so did she. So we formed a relationship, I obviously knew that the distance would be a problem but I would try look past that.
I guess with the distance I knew I would feel bored sometimes and sex over the phone isn’t really exciting anymore more than anything I miss physical contact with her.
Here comes the issues Dons:
I asked her how did she see the future- she answered honestly I guess. She said that she sees me with a family but she’s not in it.
So she doesn’t see us being together in the future.
I also said I am going to visit her again very soon because I’m going to be moving to another country temporarily (couple of months) and it’s going to be hard to see her.
She has been planning to visit someone for a while now and she made a promise that she would visit that friend first - she made around about 3/4 years ago.
She has decided to visit this year apparently, she has two weeks of holidays left with her job.
When I said about visiting her she doesn’t want to take a week off to spend it together (Bare in mind juans I also work and I also have limited holidays) because she wants to take two weeks to sort of travel and see friends.
Now at the start before I went to visit her for he first time, she would try to refuse a relationship as she still had ‘unfinished’ business about love with another guy.
The other guy told her that he loved her, she didn’t love him, he left the country and it turns out she did love him. He kind of forgotten about her but she still kept trying to message him from time to time. Well after we got together she says she no longer felt anything for the guy and that she only thought about me.
She is a virgin and when I visited she wanted to take it slow so we haven’t had sex. I’m willing to wait but I’m an active kind of guy (we’re in different countries).
She mentioned this to me because it just so happens that the guy called her via phone to ask her how she was etc.
It turns out her friend that she wants to visit in another country is this guys cousin.
Alright don juans after all you’ve seen I have to let you know how I feel currently and you guys need to tell me if I’m wrong or not.
She doesn’t see us together in the future, am I wasting my time? Should I move on?
I don’t feel like it’s 50/50
I love her but I feel the spark is gone at least from my side because of all this
Is this a cut away or am I over reacting?
Don Juans if you need to know anything more because I have probably just written what’s on my mind and not the actual long story let me know I’ll edit the post or comment.
I met this girl online quite a while ago (a couple of years back) never really thought of it as anything else. Then I started to like her so did she.
She lives thousands of miles away and the only way to really see her is taking an airplane.
I have also fallen in love with this girl and she says she does also (she said it first).
For the first time I visited her it all went well I enjoyed it and so did she. So we formed a relationship, I obviously knew that the distance would be a problem but I would try look past that.
I guess with the distance I knew I would feel bored sometimes and sex over the phone isn’t really exciting anymore more than anything I miss physical contact with her.
Here comes the issues Dons:
I asked her how did she see the future- she answered honestly I guess. She said that she sees me with a family but she’s not in it.
So she doesn’t see us being together in the future.
I also said I am going to visit her again very soon because I’m going to be moving to another country temporarily (couple of months) and it’s going to be hard to see her.
She has been planning to visit someone for a while now and she made a promise that she would visit that friend first - she made around about 3/4 years ago.
She has decided to visit this year apparently, she has two weeks of holidays left with her job.
When I said about visiting her she doesn’t want to take a week off to spend it together (Bare in mind juans I also work and I also have limited holidays) because she wants to take two weeks to sort of travel and see friends.
Now at the start before I went to visit her for he first time, she would try to refuse a relationship as she still had ‘unfinished’ business about love with another guy.
The other guy told her that he loved her, she didn’t love him, he left the country and it turns out she did love him. He kind of forgotten about her but she still kept trying to message him from time to time. Well after we got together she says she no longer felt anything for the guy and that she only thought about me.
She is a virgin and when I visited she wanted to take it slow so we haven’t had sex. I’m willing to wait but I’m an active kind of guy (we’re in different countries).
She mentioned this to me because it just so happens that the guy called her via phone to ask her how she was etc.
It turns out her friend that she wants to visit in another country is this guys cousin.
Alright don juans after all you’ve seen I have to let you know how I feel currently and you guys need to tell me if I’m wrong or not.
She doesn’t see us together in the future, am I wasting my time? Should I move on?
I don’t feel like it’s 50/50
I love her but I feel the spark is gone at least from my side because of all this
Is this a cut away or am I over reacting?
Don Juans if you need to know anything more because I have probably just written what’s on my mind and not the actual long story let me know I’ll edit the post or comment.
