The confidence thing

[Murk]

I'm making this thread because I've just secured a job with a 20% pay rise which offsets the fvcking about in my late teens and early twenties and puts me in line with where I should be (imo).

I met a guy in a bar on Monday where I was with my date about the time (seeing her for the third time tonight and hoping for sex or next). We got chatting, drinking, realised we were in a similar industry and hit it off. He asked my price then, I named it, he said lets catch up during the week. I met him again today, had some drinks, met his partner, we all got on well and they offered me a job to start ASAP.

This only came about because I'm an outgoing, confident, talk to anyone kind of guy. That's where my success with women comes from, and my success in business.

Confidence is something that will help you in every walk of life, family, friends, random situations where you need help. You need to make the confident person you want to be with women, the person you actually are, and actually live it.

I think bigdave suffers the opposite, he needs to take life, work, business and women all in the same instance. Be who you envisage yourself to be and apply it 24/7. don't pick and choose when to turn it on.

That's my positive thought for the day, something I've always championed, genuine. confidence.

 

[skinnyguy]

Being outgoing gets you more dates.

I have two dates tomorrow (yeah on a TUESDAY). One is HB 8 blonde white girl and one is HB 9 Latina. Both have great bodies.the blonde is a little taller than I’m used to (5’10) but she’s so high interest that I couldn’t turn this opportunity down. She clearly is single and wanting a boyfriend soon.

Because I felt confident they would accept my date offer, I asked them. I used to think “will she say yes?” But now I just go for it. The Latina is bringing her bikini cause she wants to go in the hot tub with me after we have drinks.

 

[Murk]

Dates yes, but life in general.

 

[fanatic22]

Christopher Columbus was the son of a low class merchant and had below average navigating experience. He passed around a rumor that he was related to royalty, and used his status to arrange meetings with kings and queens in search of funding for his expeditions. He was extremely confident in his delivery and no one ever doubted his royal roots. Then, he asked for the moon, even demanding 10% of all income from what he found overseas in perpetuity to his family. (Queen Isabella verbally agreed but then quietly rejected that demand in the contract’s fine print.)

Long story short, if you act like a king people treat you like one.

 

[greatsnake]

Good to hear!
This attitude should be on at all times.

 

[Red Legg]

With confidence you can do ANYTHING .Has anyone ever seen the movie "catch me if you can " it's based on a true story about Frank Abignale who I believe is the greatest con - man of all time.

 

[Reykhel]

This is such a contrast to your other thread were you talk about getting black out drunk because you feel guilty about your mother dying of cancer and feeling helpless about it and the fact that you can't stand to be alone.

Are you still craving escaping into bottles of vodka and getting blackout drunk and losing things?

Or have you solved this problem and found amazing confidence in a teetotal life and mindset?

The mention of @bigdave17 is interesting and seems like a "tell"

 

[ohrein]

Confidence, competence and social calibration. I've seen people with just the confidence part and it can go horribly wrong. But you're spot on. Developing healthy confidence (I recommend fake it 'til you make it) will drastically improve your whole life. It's something worth working on daily.

 

[ohrein]

This is such a contrast to your other thread were you talk about getting black out drunk because you feel guilty about your mother dying of cancer and feeling helpless about it and the fact that you can't stand to be alone.

Are you still craving escaping into bottles of vodka and getting blackout drunk and losing things?

Or have you solved this problem and found amazing confidence in a teetotal life and mindset?

The mention of @bigdave17 is interesting and seems like a "tell"

Grief has nothing to do with confidence and bringing that up in this thread speaks more about you than it does about him. I see no need for you to try and drag someone down over this thread, let alone with his mother's death.

 

[Reykhel]

Grief has nothing to do with confidence and bringing that up in this thread speaks more about you than it does about him. I see no need for you to try and drag someone down over this thread, let alone with his mother's death.

Either you read that wrong or you are disingenuously twisting words.

I'm seeing dissonance between the two threads......one about alcoholism with blackouts (and blaming someone's death for the reason you are drinking....ie not being responsible) and another about supreme confidence.

Something's a miss.

It seems strange to write a thread about drinking and going on blackouts and losing things....not being able to control your urges and thinking about losing yourself in a bottle of vodka because you are afraid of being alone.....
....to one week later writing a thread about supreme confidence.

you don't think it's reasonable to question that? I'm curious as to where the two extremes fit in

how is questioning the extreme nature of both threads "dragging him down", my little white knight friend.

You want to blow smoke up his azz go ahead, but something is off here. delusional thinking perhaps

Try control your emotions and don't be so impulsive you dishonest sack

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Neat story. Nice to see you name your price too.

My father is currently working in deliveries as a post retirement job. The company he works for has ridiculous employee turnover because it's a s**t job. Yet he's worked for them for 6 years now and is easily their most reliable employee.

Yet my Dad still refuses to EVER talk to them about a pay increase or anything like that. Because "Once you sign onto a job, you do it."

Honestly, I think he's like Ned Stark in real life. Honour before common sense to a fault. If you're worth more to a company, you f*cking tell them that you're worth more or you move on to another job, IMO. But instead my Dad just prides himself on doing a good job even though his employers are sticking a broomstick up his ass and probably laughing about it.

 

[ohrein]

Either you read that wrong or you are disingenuously twisting words.

Neither. Also, that's a false dilemma fallacy. You're now trying to restrain the meaning of my words to suit your agenda. You can spin a narrative, I'll give you that.

It seems strange to write a thread about drinking and going on blackouts and losing things....not being able to control your urges and thinking about losing yourself in a bottle of vodka because you are afraid of being alone.....
....to one week later writing a thread about supreme confidence.

Does it? I fail to see how grief is linked to confidence. Is it not reasonable for a healthy confident person to suffer horribly and resort to drinking at the death of a loved one? If he'd done the same thing over the rejection of a woman you'd have a valid point but you've yet to explain how the death of a mother is linked to confidence in yourself.

You want to blow smoke up his azz go ahead, but something is off here. delusional thinking perhaps

Try control your emotions and don't be so impulsive you dishonest sack

And you're back to spinning a narrative. There's no way I could have a valid point, I'm just sucking up to someone and emotional.

Grow up.

 

[Reykhel]

I fail to see how grief is linked to confidence

I'll enlighten you. I'm talking about alcoholism and you're focusing on the grief part................the grief was his excuse. do you
get that?

 

[Spaz]

So u r digging deeper again little poodle..

2 separate issues at play and you linked them together..

Tsk...Tsk.