Argumentive with gf

[roscoe davis]

I’ve been seeing this lady for 7 months and we’re both very busy with work and our schedules are a bit different. Since we started dating we’ve been together spending the night together every chance we had. I can get argumentive very easily when I’m stressed out and when we started dating she was very quick to get me involved in Issues she had at work. We’ve also been up in the air about contraceptives; and I keep bringing the topic up because she was late on her period and I was freeking out. Also she’s horrible with being punctual; and on a few occasions has made plans with me then when I finish work and am looking forward to seeing her, she’ll cancel the plan last second cuz she’s tired; even though she was off for the whole evening. I do look into things a lot and just don’t know what to do at this point cuz it seems like I’m always the bad guy.

 

[soulforge]

7 months in, and already your hitting a rock..

In this short space of time, you guys should not be arguing.

Your having sex with this chick, and no contraception in place? She gets pregnant Bruv, your in a world of fukin pain!!

She has cancelled dates with you multiple times, and you have just accepted this from her.

Dude 7 months in, this relationship already seems very fragile.

I would seriously re consider putting your dik inside her, without contraception..

You do not want this woman getting pregnant.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Seriously, who gives a flying ****?

Have that mentality and you’re golden.

 

[EyeBRollin]

I’ve been seeing this lady for 7 months and we’re both very busy with work and our schedules are a bit different. Since we started dating we’ve been together spending the night together every chance we had.

This was over from the first two sentences. You have to maintain space. You're way too available, and likely way too needy.

 

[ohrein]

Also she’s horrible with being punctual; and on a few occasions has made plans with me then when I finish work and am looking forward to seeing her, she’ll cancel the plan last second cuz she’s tired; even though she was off for the whole evening.

Low interest. 7 months in and the spark is that gone? Sounds like this relationship is almost in the toilet. You need to build attraction through distance and competition anxiety. I would start being busy more and hit the gym, go out with your guy friends, etc. Chances are it won't be enough at this point but I can tell you there are clear warning signs.

 

[lizardking82]

This was over from the first two sentences. You have to maintain space. You're way too available, and likely way too needy.

You can give as much time as you want if your time and attention scream quality. No guy here should worry about how much time he gives his lady and all that. If you're worrying about the amount of time you give her, you got too much time on your hands and too little things to do. I say you go on about your day and talk to her when you can and don't talk when you can't. No need to play games of being less available when all you're doing is sitting around doing nothing.

 

[dude99]

I’ve been seeing this lady for 7 months and we’re both very busy with work and our schedules are a bit different. Since we started dating we’ve been together spending the night together every chance we had. I can get argumentive very easily when I’m stressed out and when we started dating she was very quick to get me involved in Issues she had at work. We’ve also been up in the air about contraceptives; and I keep bringing the topic up because she was late on her period and I was freeking out. Also she’s horrible with being punctual; and on a few occasions has made plans with me then when I finish work and am looking forward to seeing her, she’ll cancel the plan last second cuz she’s tired; even though she was off for the whole evening. I do look into things a lot and just don’t know what to do at this point cuz it seems like I’m always the bad guy.

Her : " im cancelling tonight because im tired."

You : " no problem. Ive made plans with Jenny anyways. Next time."

Then dont answer your phone for 4 days and watch her behaviour change.

 

[NSX-R]

Her : " im cancelling tonight because im tired."

You : " no problem. Ive made plans with Jenny anyways. Next time."

Then dont answer your phone for 4 days and watch her behaviour change.

That’s just stupid. She's going ti blame him for that . He just have to go ghost for some time or at least reduce the times they see each other.


I believe op is too available and needy and she already sees or get fcked by somebody else . I have seen this many times.

 

[flowtheory]

If a woman I was seeing for 7 months bailed on me last minute due to tiredness several times, I’d be hitting that dusty trail right quick right quick

How old are you both?

 

[roscoe davis]

34

 

[roscoe davis]

That’s just stupid. She's going ti blame him for that . He just have to go ghost for some time or at least reduce the times they see each other.


I believe op is too available and needy and she already sees or get fcked by somebody else . I have seen this many times.

If she’s seeing or with someone else then why wouldn’t she just end it

 

[ohrein]

If she’s seeing or with someone else then why wouldn’t she just end it

A lot of women tend to find someone else before they end a relationship. At a minimum they have options, but often they test drive before signing the papers too.

 

[NSX-R]

If she’s seeing or with someone else then why wouldn’t she just end it

Women are not like men . She is going to find flaws in your relationship first and blame that you didn't cover her needs and then she's going to dump your ass. Morally you will be at fault and she will be excused. This is how women mostly excuse themselves.

If you go ghost which is what i would do , she's going to blame you also for that , that you supposedly have "distance yourself from her " and she's even going to blame You that you might cheat her .

In my book this relationship is over . Sorry buddy . I know how it feels.

 

[lizardking82]

Signs don't look good here. A woman that wants to see you will never cancel cause she's tired. Trust me, I have had women being into me and they never cancelled anything even the day they came from a one week work trip and were travelling the whole day, even when they were sick, even when they were on their period.

When there's a will, there's a way. Where there is an excuse, there is a lack of will. Do not push this further, leave her be. Do not text to her, do not talk to her anymore. In the mean time, focus on other girls and on your work/hobbies.

 

[flowtheory]

A lot of women tend to find someone else before they end a relationship. At a minimum they have options, but often they test drive before signing the papers too.

this really grinds my gears.

 

[roscoe davis]

It was actually two times where she canceled; and both times where just her coming over my home really late; on one of those two times she ended up meeting up with me anyways. If it’s over and she finds someone else I will do the same asap

 

[dude99]

That’s just stupid. She's going ti blame him for that . He just have to go ghost for some time or at least reduce the times they see each other.


I believe op is too available and needy and she already sees or get fcked by somebody else . I have seen this many times.

He is too available and she knows he has no options. Hence her behaviour.

 

[JohnChops]

Why are you arguing with a female in the first place , it shows low value on your part.

 

[ohrein]

this really grinds my gears.

Hypergamy doesn't care and neither should you. Being angry at reality is pointless. Gotta figure out a way to accept this stuff without bitterness or resentment. For me, it's living life for me. If women come and go, it can be sad, it can be a loss, but it's not crushing. It's just one of those things.

 

[flowtheory]

Hypergamy doesn't care and neither should you. Being angry at reality is pointless. Gotta figure out a way to accept this stuff without bitterness or resentment. For me, it's living life for me. If women come and go, it can be sad, it can be a loss, but it's not crushing. It's just one of those things.

True again.

It just sucks. My last relationship; this happened. So I’m still the process of transforming.
I think I’m in the slight stage of hating women right now. This is normal?