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Bar/Party Field Report: What could I have improved?

MoreThanSmooth

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Quick story from a few months ago that I never mentioned fellas, thought you might have some critique for me.

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Was hanging out at a student bar when this girl (I'll call her A) and her friend (B) came in. I'd spent time with both A and B at a dancing class months ago but hadn't seen them for ages.

Anyway I went up and said hi, we all had a drink together and then girl A comes and sits right next to me on a sofa when we all sit together.

She's an absolute stunner of a girl (IMO), long frizzy blonde hair and a gorgeous figure. Previously I'd seen her at a party wearing some white tights and heels and hggnnnghrhhh...she was hot. She's also ridiculously innocent, she's had one BF total.

She started leaning in when we're talking and I focus on making the whole group laugh.

Eventually she makes some corny joke and puts her hands on my thigh when I smiled at her. Then she started talking about how her work was hard and I casually put my arm around her in a seated hug, she didn't pull away.

So some music came on, I excuse us from the table and we spontaneously danced Waltz in the bar together. This is one reason I recommend learning to dance btw, it's surprisingly powerful.

She really enjoyed it, I was pretty drunk and so I just flat out kissed her on the top of the head when we stopped. At this point she immediately gave girl B a "look" and I thought "Oh s**t, went a bit far there." She hugs my arm and then has to leave for a work shift.

Girl B suddenly says that Girl A has found me super hot for like a year and much to my surprise texts A to "confirm" that we mutually like each other. All of a sudden I'm buzzing.

I was invited to a party at her house that night and Girl A again sat with me on the sofa. We played some card games, everyone got drunk, and eventually she started sneaking me extra cards and winking at me (wasn't for cash so it was just all fun).

At this point we all had pizza, she's wearing a skirt and I know this sounds dubious but I was sat on the floor, and she came and sat on the sofa right in front of me facing me at...an unusual height difference. Let's just say there was a lot of frilly underwear in my direction and I'm fairly sure it was on purpose.

Well, that's when it all went kind of downhill. I got her number but she became very quiet when I said goodbye to her and suddenly seemed tense when taking my digits.

After that she never texted, saw her a few more times and again she was very flirty (even offered to "strip search" me) but it didn't happen. The reason Girl B gave me was that she is "heartbroken" by her ex, apparently she hasn't dated or anything since.

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TLDR: Danced with a gorgeous chick I know as an acquaintance, went back to her's for a party, loads of flirting but didn't go anywhere.

Now I'm in this zone where this smoking hot chick apparently likes me more than any other guy, but not enough to date me... :\

I moved on, but it's still a shame I couldn't do better on the first evening. And if she clearly has high interest, is there any way I can get her over her ex?
 
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Do it just how you do any other plate. Invite her for drinks to catch up, escalate with Kino, and see where it goes. You should have at least kiss closed that first night.
 

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Women end up resenting men who get them going and don’t follow through. Yes, that includes you not actively doing anything to trigger this and just her imagination and perception of you.
This. Don't ever forget this.
 

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a lot of frilly underwear in my direction and I'm fairly sure it was on purpose.
Well, that's when it all went kind of downhill. I got her number but she became very quiet when I said goodbye
she shows you her panties, and you say "goodbye"

#facepalm
 

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she shows you her panties, and you say "goodbye"

#facepalm
Lol I know...

It was weird though, I was stood in her room for a bit but I could tell then that she’s lost interest. I only said bye once I realised it wasn’t happening.

I think she was totally up for for me staying over like 10 minutes before but then changed her mind based off the ex or whatever.

I saw her 2 times after that and it was the same deal: fun and flirty until I went for anything more, and then nothing.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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The panty show is one of the oldest trick in the book lol
 

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I'd have to agree with all of the above. No matter how subtle, or how direct her advances were, she will feel rejected when she puts herself out there and a guy doesn't take her up on her offer. lol, I've rejected them on purpose a few times, just because I had other girls that were better and its fun to watch them have a melt down! :p
 

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You didn't escalate on her so she withdrew. Guarantee you invite her out, be overtly sexual and you can close her. Look you know she likes you so have no fear, you're the only one holding this back, not her.
 

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You didn't escalate on her so she withdrew. Guarantee you invite her out, be overtly sexual and you can close her. Look you know she likes you so have no fear, you're the only one holding this back, not her.
I said I hoped to see her soon the night of the party and she said "Well, you know where I live.", whatever the heck that means.

I asked her for drinks anyway and I got the response of "My head's not in the right place, so I'm not looking for anything at the moment."

Wishing I'd asked her out last year, before her jerk ex apparently destroyed her soul. That's going in the mental notebook: "Don't delay the asking out"...

I'm guessing it's a lost cause for now. Shame though, she's the cutest girl I've flirted with for a while, looks a little bit like one of those ancient Greek goddesses...
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

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