New girl is kinda rich iam scared af

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Unfortunately everything you listed is true, I admit this all the time to my friends and they know its true, women who come from wealthy families are not easy to date and even if she loves me her family may not approve of me which is a big hit any mans ego if he's not good enough for the girl he loves because of something like status or money ...
Right now iam poor, not by choice cause iam a hard worker and worked for years before enrolling into Uni with good grades, and even during summers and vacations and now i am still working while studying, iam not lazy and i was brought up right and relied on myself almost ever since i was 17 cause my dad doesnt make enough money, mom doesnt work and sibligns are still underage, i work and help my parents while paying my own bills as well ... i chose a field a bit different than others, nursing ... its still mostly made up of women but more and more men are joining the nursing force (and some of them are pretty cool, attractive and great guys) i can make as much as 40$k - 50$k right after graduation and that amount is steadily increasing every year as more and more quality nurses are needed plus i have the potential to reach a really good position and the work possibilities are endless , the only down side i would say is the fact that despite being a good profession with good pay doctors are still kinda the ones in charge of treating the patients and in a sense they are kinda the bosses ... this girl has a brother who is an engineer, another one who is a doctor and her sister is married to a doctor, and if there is anything i know its that women love comparing whatever they have ( keep in mind despite doctors managing the treatment they still make roughly the same amount of $$ as nurses , unless of course that doctor is really good or has 15+ years of experience ).

when i said rich i meant she is more on the wealthy side not "rich" rich, her parents have a shoes store (as far as i know her dad doesnt have a degree or anything) and they make about 150k $ -200k $ a year, which is significantly more than me ( she works a regular job as at a clothes store and makes roughly 1400$ a month , minimum wage really ) .

she keeps telling me how she thinks about me sometimes and i cross her mind often.... reaching out to me now and then plus driving 30+ mins to meet me for a date, she could be lying alright but i will find out sooner or later, all i know for now is that she finds me physically appealing and seems to like me i guess .

however i believe my true problem is my status and financial situation which are not perfect and wont be for the next few years, i care a lot about providing for my family and strongly believe it is my duty to help my parents, idk what girls think about that, maybe they will like it and find it cool or they will tell me to f*Ck off cause iam poor , only time will tell .
Let me tell you some irony, there are many rich girls who have a complex about being rich. They think everyone hates them because of it, and they wish that they were not rich. It sounds ridiculous, but it's true.

Only from time to time when they are down for some rason and wanna blame it on something ... but then they remember that money pays for their vacation, car, college and everything else they have and stop feeling bad about it , just like a hot guy who girls dont fully trust to be in a relationship with , he will be like "why did i have to be this hot" it lasts a day then hes back to being happy about his looks .... its just the way it works i guess .
 

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I'll be honest iam poor, like broke af poor, dad lost his job, no home, barely make 800$ a month and most of it going to college fees .... met this girl who seems very interested , went on a date ( she drove over half an hour to meet me ), messaged me after , telling me she really had fun and wants to do it again soon but this time she wants to pick the place , i said its cool and when picks a place she can text or call me .... (girls flake so telling me she had fun and all that is close to meaningless to me only actions speak, words mean nothing) .

problem is she is the youngest out of her siblings (3 married siblings), shes kinda spoiled, has her own car( nissan ) , has a job and her parents have jewlery store and make a lot of $$$ , they have a BMW and a Mercedes , she told me she doesnt believe in spoiling kids and they should work hard to get what they want rather than depend on their parents ....

compared to her my situation is basically sh*t , no money, barely can use a car a couple times a week and limited in terms of where i can go and how much i can spend, i also have to help my parents pay rent, of course she doesnt know all this and iam sure when she doesn she will rethink her choice of liking me .... aside from that we click pretty well and have a very similiar personality, but unfortunately her class is higher than mine and i cant even begin to compete with her dad or sisters husband in terms of wealth or materialistic possesions ... the funny thing is that pretty girls are rarely poor .

i tell myself she likes me and money is a minor issue and when i get my degree i will be making money but iam not very optimistic
You should feel emboldened. She doesn't want you for financial gratification, so you are left with emotional and sexual gratification.
But trust me, Over time they will resent you for being a broke azz joker..
She will only resent a lack of ambition and inaction if her other needs are being met.
 

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She will be discouraged directly and indirectly from dating you behind the scenes.
Isn't this to be perceived as a blessing in disguise? In her judgement of his inadequacy, she reveals her own. The inability to think for herself.
 

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You're all retards. I'm smarter than all of you put together.
 

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Isn't this to be perceived as a blessing in disguise? In her judgement of his inadequacy, she reveals her own. The inability to think for herself.
Of course. But young people are famous for lacking the wisdom more life experience generally brings. Some of that inadequacy is borne of youth. There isn't an easy or quick fix for that.

So you could make the argument that a young woman actually is wise to seriously consider the wisdom of her elders and her parents, who may see things and seeds of issues she doesn't.

I wouldn't send my kids back for anything...but you know what? My father was correct at the end of the day. I ended up married to someone who did not match me in ambition or drive...and who was happy to be lazy at my expense until I ended the marriage. When that happened...magically...he went back to work and has since progressed personally.

And I'm only open to dating people at or above my level now, financially wise, ambition wise etc., because now I have the wisdom & experience to see the truth in my father's concern.

I would have been better served to listen to him. It's not as though I didn't have other great choices.

And I agree with @Amante Silvestre very strongly. Nursing is a great field, but shoot for being a CRNA or a CNO or CRA or something besides just a nurse after a while. That is very long hours for not a lot of money in the real world...you are employable anywhere as a nurse, but do more than that if you don't want to struggle at a higher level. 50K may seem like real money...and is a great initial goal, but it's not much money many places & certainly not if you are trying to raise a family at some point.
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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I chose a different field than many others myself: power engineering, which started many years ago with a $9/hr job in HVAC. I now run a power plant like Homer Simpson. ha. I recently became and was promoted to a first class power engineer averaging $150-200K/yr without a degree (much like your GF's parents, although I did attend Uni for a while). I am financially on par with the average salary of a pediatrician or your average lawyer. But even now, I consider my career path only half-way achieved. From here I can move into middle and upper level management positions to eventually draw a $300K+ salary on par with surgeons and top lawyers.

I knew back when I was making $9/hr EXCATLY where I wanted to be today and where I ultimately want to end up 10 years from today. I had and still have a very well laid out plan that was and is based on discussions with and listening to people who were/are already doing what I want to do. I thought big. I dreamed big. I was ambitious about it, I knew precisely what I had to do in order to materialize this plan and I continue pushing ever upward with that plan to this very day. I LOVE the fact that I work in a white collar environment, but can still put on a hard hat and go get greasy and dirty like a mechanic when the mood strikes me, which it often does. I LOVE the idea of being underestimated by every day people who see me when I get dirty and think I'm a $30K/yr. ditch digger. LOVE it.

My ex, who mothered my child, came from a Wall Street family that averaged $400K+/yr. At the time I had met her, I was making $10/hr and bicycling to work every day, but I always refused handouts and charity help. My current GF dated a man prior to me who also made about $400K/yr. working in finance. I can tell you that you can shine within these circles of people even if you are not there yet yourself, even if you might own blue jeans that are grease stained like mine.... I was immediately under-estimated by these people upon first impression, but when you have ambition, intelligence, maturity, discipline and a solid, well thought out long-term plan that is respectable to these people, their minds will change about you, regardless of what you are making right now; regardless of whatever negative stigma may come with those initial impressions. You have to steamroll over the many biases you will face along the way. And trust me, it's very fun to do so.

Nursing is a respectable career. It's decent money, yes. But you should think bigger than that. $40-50K/yr. is not terribly ambitious. That milestone should be only your first stepping stone to much bigger things and much greater ambitions. You need to elaborate on what "potential to reach a really good position and the work possibilities are endless" really means to you. Define it specifically. Know what you want. Learn from others and develop a strategy to achieve it, and then execute that strategy. If you have that, it will outshine the spider webs in your wallet.
How many hours a week do you work?
 

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I'm an Emergency Room Nurse that makes a base salary of 85k a year and hit 100k+ a year with picking up some OT and working a few holidays a year.

You must live in a state where cost of living is low, where teachers and cops average 35k-40k a year too.

The pathway for you to earn top $$ as an RN is to become a DNP which averages 100k-120k a year, or a CRNA which average 160k a year and can max out around 225k a year. And this includes states with an extremely low cost of living. So the money in nursing is there, you just have to work for it by the two examples I just gave...
 

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Of course. But young people are famous for lacking the wisdom more life experience generally brings. Some of that inadequacy is borne of youth. There isn't an easy or quick fix for that.
It's all a learning process, like you said and I wish I would had listened to my father more, but then I wouldn't have really known, without actually having to experience it. I'm glad it didn't take me long to wake up, though. I agree it it wise to listen to your elders that you can trust, but I think there needs to be a healthy dose of kicking them out of the nest, because ultimately the only person that will be held accountable for your decisions is you, but I can see both sides.
 

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More than you. You were homeless were it not for your girlfriend that you beat on you fkn loser. Go back to the streets. No one wants you lmao
Well, looky here. If it isn't SS's own expert on how to argue with women on an emotional level giving us a personal demonstration. You go girl!
 

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Currently, I alternate back and forth between 36 and 48 hour work weeks (12 hours shifts 3-4 days per week). I also have a paid, 7 day rest period once per month in which I typically pick up a day or two of overtime for 12-24 hours of 1.5 to 3 times of what would calculate out to my hourly pay, which is on top of the paid week off. So on those weeks I can basically work a 2 day week with 5 days off and still earn twice as much as I would on a 40 hour work week.

I did work a lot of 80+ hour weeks for about 3-4 years to get here, though. Everyone has to pay their dues somewhere along the way.
Thanks man. It seems like it’s the same amount of effort as a doctor but without all the schooling and money required to get there.
 

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Btw, don't you have better things to do, like writing entries in your Elliot Rodgers-esque memo or casing a highschool or some other soft target location?
Bud, you *actually* can’t get over me. Double posting to reply to the same comment. That’s pathetic.

You were that weird kid in high school who hated kids like me for having friends. Probably why you even made a reference to something so long ago. Loser.
 

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Bud, you *actually* can’t get over me. Double posting to reply to the same comment. That’s pathetic.

You were that weird kid in high school who hated kids like me for having friends. Probably why you even made a reference to something so long ago. Loser.
Based on your lack of retrocognitive ability, I think it's safe to say, don't quit your day job in lieu of that traveling carny gig. As a psychic anyways. I'm sure you would fit right in with the clown troupe though.
 

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Based on your lack of retrocognitive ability, I think it's safe to say, don't quit your day job in lieu of that traveling carny gig. As a psychic anyways. I'm sure you would fit right in with the clown troupe though.
Bruh. Seriously. Grow up. You’re like 40 years old and can’t get over the fact that you’re getting roasted by someone less than half your age. If there’s anyone who’s an Elliott Rodgers type here, it’s you. You just hold the biggest grudges for the longest time. Yes, I called you fat and said you don’t have good social skills. Those are facts. Not insults. It means you got something to work on. I just showed you how you can improve yourself. I’m 19 and have more life experience than you at 40. What are you doing??? Fix yourself.
 

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you’re getting roasted by someone
CTFU! Where is this going on at? I must have missed that thread.
You just hold the biggest grudges for the longest time.
No grudge here. I am finding it a little amusing busting your b@lls though.
said you don’t have good social skills.
You still mean comprehension, right? "You lack comprehension" is the phrase you're looking for.
Those are facts.
Though, they're not. Well, one of them maybe.
I just showed you how you can improve yourself
I know better, than to follow a blind man into traffic.
I’m 19 and have more life experience than you at 40.
If this were true, then you would already know, that I knew this...
I know better, than to follow a blind man into traffic.
 

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CTFU! Where is this going on at? I must have missed that thread.

No grudge here. I am finding it a little amusing busting your b@lls though.

You still mean comprehension, right? "You lack comprehension" is the phrase you're looking for.

Though, they're not. Well, one of them maybe.

I know better, than to follow a blind man into traffic.

If this were true, then you would already know, that I knew this...
I know better, than to follow a blind man into traffic.
Dissecting the post to try and prove wrong everything you think is wrong. This urge you feel to do that....childish. Gotta learn to let go. It’s obsessive.
 
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