Explain this one lol

[Glassguy]

1st date with a hot blonde oncology nurse last Saturday night. All goes well with drinks, convo, heavy kino and heavier making out as we left. She messaged me several times after she got home, initiated messages the next day and wanted to know when I was free to see her again. Set date for last night.

2nd date last night- met at a restaurant close to me, good convo, drinks and I suggested going to another spot for a final drink. She offers to drive so I get in her SUV and we start making out. One thing leads to another, I tell her to pull around the building to a less busy parking lot. When we get there I am fingering her within 2-3 minutes and then she is jerking me off and blowing me soon there after. She stops blowing me to whisper in my ear that "she wants me to fvck her". As soon as that happens, she gets a call from her mom that comes through her SUV bluetooth. She switches the call over to her cell and I can hear her mom talking about her daughter. (she is 28 and recently divorced....single mom). Apparently her kid is running a fever and she has to go. Before leaving she keeps blowing me and I literally nut in her mouth, she swallows and a few minutes later she drops me off at my truck. She told me that her daughter (7 yrs old) was trying to face time her several times during dinner and the daughter was with her ex husband. Apparently the ex husband had messaged her after she didnt answer the facetime attempts from the kid and said "where are you". She responded "I am 45 min away at dinner". At that point the ex calls her mom, says the kid is running a fever and takes the kid to my date's moms house. And thats when the mom called her while she was blowing me lol. So anyways, we go our separate ways, she messages me that she made the 45 minute trip back safely and says "since you got off you definitely owe me one". So I tell her "no problem I will make sure you get off several times when we hang out again".

Now is where it gets weird.......

She messages me "good morning" earlier today as follows:

Her: Good morning
Me (30 min later): Hey. I hope everything is fine from last night.
Her (2 hrs later): Sorry I took a nap. Yes everything is fine. It just seemed like when he (ex) found out I was out he didnt want to keep our daughter and took her to my moms.
Me: Ok. Well you can let me know later on when you can get free again. I am planning on doing some boating Saturday afternoon.
Her: I think you are great but I just dont think I am ready for a relationship. Its all so new to me. I'm sorry.
Me: No worries. I am definitely not looking for something serious right off the bat. If you decide you want to hang out again you know how to reach me. Thanks for the blow-job though Take care.

No response from her after that. Probably dodged a bullet if the ex still has control of what the fvck she does lol.

Very weird to say the least. Oh well. Another 1st date set up this Friday night with a different one who has already insinuated that if we drink to much I can go back to her place.....

 

[Spaz]

Nothing much can be explained. I've been in similar situations and has left me totally flabbergasted in the past, now I'm just immune to it and don't really care when their hamster brain goes on hyper drive.

Don't even bother analysing - they don't think as men do.

 

[sazc]

(as usual) there are a bunch of different explanations for this scenario

ASD could be one

She assumed you wanted a relationship and isn't emotionally ready to go there with anyone.

She wanted to have some fun, possible sexual and or smv/attractiveness validation, but didn't see dating you (for whatever reason) after date #2

She's still into her ex/not totally over her marriage.

I can't come up with anymore right off the bat, but my best guess would be that the sexual activity left her feeling emotionally vulnerable, and that vulnerable feeling (and the idea that she would let someone in and possibly get hurt) caused her to tell you she wasn't ready.

As you guys say, she single mom trash, right? You got your rocks off and had a good evening. Spin plates!

I'm a little shocked that Dad couldn't handle a freaking fever.... What?! Puhlease!

 

[Spaz]

Single mom's r not trash.

Just not a good investment vs other childless women. That's all.

 

[Glassguy]

(as usual) there are a bunch of different explanations for this scenario

ASD could be one

She assumed you wanted a relationship and isn't emotionally ready to go there with anyone.

She wanted to have some fun, possible sexual and or smv/attractiveness validation, but didn't see dating you (for whatever reason) after date #2

She's still into her ex/not totally over her marriage.

I can't come up with anymore right off the bat, but my best guess would be that the sexual activity left her feeling emotionally vulnerable, and that vulnerable feeling (and the idea that she would let someone in and possibly get hurt) caused her to tell you she wasn't ready.

As you guys say, she single mom trash, right? You got your rocks off and had a good evening. Spin plates!

I'm a little shocked that Dad couldn't handle a freaking fever.... What?! Puhlease!

I think "dad" got pissed when he figured out she was on a date on the night that he had their daughter. She had told me on the first date that I was the first date proposal that she had accepted since she got divorced a couple of months ago.

Oh well....she wont hear back from me lol. If she wants to hang out again she knows how to reach me.

 

[Glassguy]

Single mom's r not trash.

Just not a good investment vs other childless women. That's all.

Yeah I never understood the single mom hate. I know trashy women that are single and that are moms. It makes no difference to me if we are just grabbing drinks and hanging out if she has a kid or not.

In all actuality, most single moms that I have dated are more mature and less "Disney Fantasy" seekers because life has smacked them across the face and gave them a dose of reality. Better than some 20 some year old princess fairy tale seeker who doesnt have a kid!

 

[guru1000]

Glass, what a lot of guys miss is that many of these girls, especially on OLD, are in-between (or actually in) relationships despite what they claim.

The story seems like she has something still with her ex, and she was either spiting him or sampling the market. Nothing more, nothing less.

 

[sazc]

I think "dad" got pissed when he figured out she was on a date on the night that he had their daughter. She had told me on the first date that I was the first date proposal that she had accepted since she got divorced a couple of months ago.

Oh well....she wont hear back from me lol. If she wants to hang out again she knows how to reach me.

You may hear from her again, eventually. As usual, it never pays to wait on a call.

Just know that it wasn't you. It's most likely hey, feeling insecure about something.

Too many guys blame themselves for a womans behavior or lack of interest. As we are emotional creatures, we pay attention to how we feel. Unfortunately how we feel can be strongly tied to our baggage and self esteem BUT that has nothing to do with *you*

 

[Spaz]

You may hear from her again, eventually. As usual, it never pays to wait on a call.

Just know that it wasn't you. It's most likely hey, feeling insecure about something.

Too many guys blame themselves for a womans behavior or lack of interest. As we are emotional creatures, we pay attention to how we feel. Unfortunately how we feel can be strongly tied to our baggage and self esteem BUT that has nothing to do with *you*

^This. Honest explanation by sazc.

Which is exactly why a man must not analyse anything and just move on.

 

[Glassguy]

Glass, what a lot of guys miss is that many of these girls, especially on OLD, are in-between (or actually in) relationships despite what they claim.

The story seems like she has something still with her ex, and she was either spiting him or sampling the market. Nothing more, nothing less.

She wasnt from OLD. We hooked up through a mutual friend on FB. Started chatting on there and I set up the first date.

Who knows. Just a thing and plenty more plates to be had! lol

 

[guru1000]

Her: Good morning
Me (30 min later): Hey. I hope everything is fine from last night.
Her (2 hrs later): Sorry I took a nap. Yes everything is fine. It just seemed like when he (ex) found out I was out he didnt want to keep our daughter and took her to my moms.
Me: Ok. Well you can let me know later on when you can get free again. I am planning on doing some boating Saturday afternoon.
Her: I think you are great but I just dont think I am ready for a relationship. Its all so new to me. I'm sorry.
Me: No worries. I am definitely not looking for something serious right off the bat. If you decide you want to hang out again you know how to reach me. Thanks for the blow-job though Take care.
..

The reasoning is always there, even if only stated tongue-in-cheek, implicitly. Bolded for emphasis.

Part of the "game" my man. On to the hundreds of others.

 

[The Duke]

Most likely explanation is the dad got jealous when he figured out she was likely on a date. Mom would have answered the facetime requests otherwise. That's what tipped him off. So to escalate the situation because that's what little weak biatches in situations like this do, he takes the child to Grandma's house.

And the ex still has some power over her, look how he manipulated this situation from the sidelines.

 

[Glassguy]

Most likely explanation is the dad got jealous when he figured out she was likely on a date. Mom would have answered the facetime requests otherwise. That's what tipped him off. So to escalate the situation because that's what little weak biatches in situations like this do, he takes the child to Grandma's house.

And the ex still has some power over her, look how he manipulated this situation from the sidelines.

That is my thought. She was fine and upbeat about getting together again last night. I think the ex (only been divorced 2 months) probably made a big stink about it today.

She messaged me back a little bit ago saying that she really likes me but she needs to slow things down a bit. Says "we can still talk and text".

I basically tell her that I'm not interested in that if we arent going to see each other. She said that she thought we really clicked but she doesnt know what she wants. I didnt respond back.

If the ex still has emotional control then its dueces lol. I'm not into getting involved with that.

 

[Roober]

Sounds to me like she cheated on the guy, either before you or with you. Probably not even divorced yet.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Sounds to me like you're pretty much the cat that got the cream in this scenario.

She has a f*ckload of drama in her life by the sound of it + an ex she's still probably messing about with and yet you dodged all that garbage and got the cheeky b*j. Bravo sir.

Nice to see a thread that isn't "How can I rationalise my prostitute addiction? PS: Tell me I'm a manly man."

 

[CMNILS87]

She obviously left the ex, he found out about date, got jealous and he started rustling feathers between them. Probably some bull**** about not getting out and dating so fast since a baby. You dodged a bullet man, find a single chick.

I can’t wsit till I move to Minneapolis. Chicks on bumble blow me up, I swipe right so much it locked me out last time.

 

[soulforge]

(as usual) there are a bunch of different explanations for this scenario

ASD could be one

She assumed you wanted a relationship and isn't emotionally ready to go there with anyone.

She wanted to have some fun, possible sexual and or smv/attractiveness validation, but didn't see dating you (for whatever reason) after date #2

She's still into her ex/not totally over her marriage.

I can't come up with anymore right off the bat, but my best guess would be that the sexual activity left her feeling emotionally vulnerable, and that vulnerable feeling (and the idea that she would let someone in and possibly get hurt) caused her to tell you she wasn't ready.

As you guys say, she single mom trash, right? You got your rocks off and had a good evening. Spin plates!

I'm a little shocked that Dad couldn't handle a freaking fever.... What?! Puhlease!

Yes i'm sure she felt Oh so vulnerable, as Glassguy jizzed all over her face!

Poor girl

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

YuK, why be a walking dildo for some woman you know nothing about???

 

[ohrein]

Can't explain emotional irrationality. She's obviously tied up in a complicated life. It is what it is, unfortunately. The problem isn't that she doesn't want you, it's that she has all this other baggage that conflicts with it. She's trying to keep her kids life together while simultaneously dating. Massive conflict.

 

[Glassguy]

Yes i'm sure she felt Oh so vulnerable, as Glassguy jizzed all over her face!

Poor girl

Haha. I did get the better end of the deal at the end of the date, thats for sure!

Can't explain emotional irrationality. She's obviously tied up in a complicated life. It is what it is, unfortunately. The problem isn't that she doesn't want you, it's that she has all this other baggage that conflicts with it. She's trying to keep her kids life together while simultaneously dating. Massive conflict.

No you cant rationalize with this type of female behavior. I got a few more texts of "I dont want you to think that I dont like you because I do" in which I didnt even respond.
Its hard for me to feel attraction on a connective level but when I do, I can lose it very quickly when things like this happen.

3-4 years ago I would have been butt hurt over it and let it affect my frame. Not anymore. I have learned that if they like you, and you ignore them when something like this happens, they generally come back around. Ehh....If she does she does and if she doesnt thats ok too. She should have struck while my iron was hot (both figuratively and physically lol).

The new glassguy understands that he has more dates set up with other chicks already and there are plenty of women out there. Most are riding the fvcking crazy train these days, so I try to screen them so the crazy train doesnt stop at my station.