Does This Girl Deserve Exclusivity??

[guru1000]

41 yo, 2 kids, a "6". You know my response to this.

If you are not sure, you likely have your answer. You're not exclusive, so keep her around. If she pushes exclusivity tell her, "Love the way things are going. I'm open to it in the future. Let's see where it goes."

I never questioned a viable girl for LTR that I later desired an LTR with.

 

[soulforge]

41 yo, 2 kids, a "6". You know my response to this.

If you are not sure, you likely have your answer. You're not exclusive, so keep her around. If she pushes exclusivity tell her, "Love the way things are going. I'm open to it in the future. Let's see where it goes."

I never questioned a viable girl for LTR that I later desired an LTR with.

Yeh i'm going with this... No rush.. Things are going good right now, why rock the boat.. If she pushes too hard for exclusivity, will telll her to chill.

I'm keeping my options open... Most woman are on best behaviour at the early stages of the relationship, I will see how things stands, another 6 months down the line!

 

[Red Legg]

I have been seeing this girl now for 7 months on a weekend basis, and recently I have noticed her feelings developing even further for me.

She has asked me to spend more time with her, and hints of being exclusive to her in a PROPER relationship.

I want to give you some information about this chick, and how things have been between us so far.. I hope you guys can give me some guidance.

Firstly she is 41 years old, and I am 43 years old.

She has a grown son of 27 and another son who is 14.

Looks wise she is only a 6/10 which is not great, but she has a 9/10 body, and in very good shape, with great firm Titties lol.

She gives me all the sex I want, no questions asked!

In the last 7 months, we have not had one single argument.
She is ALWAYS respectful, and never making dumb rude comments.

She always offers to pay her way, if we go out for meals or out drinking etc.. She does not expect me to pay for everything.

She is very intentive in the sense, that I have a few bodybuilding related injuries, so she always gives me massages in the injured area, and asks me how i feel quite often.

She is NOT a bar girl, does not go out to bars and clubs getting drunk with her friends etc.. She dresses well without looking tarty or attention seeking.

She is NOT on lots of social media platforms, and does not spend her day glued to her mobile!

The only few things that are holding me back a little from a full on relationship with her is this..

01. Looks wise I am certain I can do better than her?
02. She does not have a great career, and does not earn much money.

I could easily find a richer and more attractive woman, however considering how woman are THESE DAYS she could turn out to be a complete monster.

I would essentially be trading in a girl who is of good moral values, for a girl who is good looking and could turn out to be a chitty person!

I would like to point out, even though this girl I am seeing is only a 6 in the face, i don't find her ugly or anything like that.. I just know I can do better looks wise.

Plus, she has a VERY nice body, and gives me great sex!

So guys from what I have described, is giving her exclusivity the right thing to do?

So far my assessment is, she is a nice woman, and it does not feel right to hurt her, but I feel like I should still spin plates and keep my options open.

From experience I have seen, how a QUALITY woman can go from treating you like a KING to not giving zero fuks about you over night, when a better prospect comes along, or her feelings CHANGE

You have learned nothing on SS.Never be exclusive with a woman unless she brings it up directly and you move in with her,anything less than that and it is not serious..Every woman cheats even an ugly hb 6 like the one you are with...she is sooo ugly I would ask her to be exclusive and then spin plates and crawfish her ass...you are a rank amatuer.

 

[_sideways_]

Damn red legg....you cold

 

[_sideways_]

But looks don't matter bro. Sounds like you're pretty much turned on by her as it is anyways.
If you lost your vision tomorrow, you would still be happy with her.
She's not making much cash now, but that is a reason to work on that and build.
Lastly, if you can get better then do so. If you feel less than stellar afterwards then you have your answer.

 

[ohrein]

It sounds like she adds value to your life, so let's start from there. If we assume you rejecting the LTR means she'll terminate the relationship, the real question is, does the value she adds to your life exceed the value you get from all your other options? She sounds like a quality chick, despite people screaming single mom. I actually met a single mom recently who's 8 years older than me that I would date. She's got solid principles, very feminine and is very kind. Not all of them are garbage.

Anyway, you said above you weren't going to rush it and I think that's a good move. But if you've found someone who improves your life and that has value beyond what most women can offer, it's worth considering. The fact you're asking that question means you know that on some level. Don't be stupid about it, but don't dismiss the idea either. And just don't rush into anything. 7 months is a good amount of time to know someone but not enough time to be considering much past just calling it "exclusive".

And as for "doing better". If it's "doing better" just based on looks alone, every guy can do better. But show me a hot chick and I'll show you a guy who's tired of fvcking her.

Keep us updated!

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

Are her kids from the same father?

Was she married? If so, how long was she married and what does she say is the reason they divorced?

Has she told you or implied what her N count is?

Are her parents still married? What is her relationship like with her dad and mom?

-Augustus-

@soulforge , you initially asked for input. The answers to these questions will help you in your decision.

-Augustus-