It’s serial monogamy for both men and women, and polygamy is for men (although not for women) but by the time the children are raised, the two have likely already bonded with each other enough to stay with each other for longer.
Polygamy is rare for women, but it actually does exist in remote areas around the world where there are less women then men or the culture is nomadic. The women will usually marry brothers. There's a YouTube clip of some woman who married five brothers or something. She looked a bit tired hahaha.
That’s polyamory. That is not natural. It only exists solely because it is needed for survival. I’m saying polygamy. I think polygamy is natural for men, but not for women. As in women aren’t okay knowing about it. But men are still wired to be able to be that way anyway.
That’s clearly the exception and not the norm. I am talking about the norm. I’ve seen worse from men in different ways.
I agree that something like a woman marrying multiple men is very rare. But if something is an exception, does that really make it "unnatural"?
It’s about probability really. As far as I know, this has never really existed in history except in Pompeii or with the Etruscans really, and it never continued after that either. So I believe that it does make it unnatural.
It's certainly very, very rare.
Tell me why monogamy isn't natural for females.
Men spread seed, there's no need for monogamy when you can ensure your genetics pass on so easily. For women, it's quality over quantity. The best chance of the survival of her offspring necessitates the best genetics she can get, during ovulation. The only time at which monogamy is natural for women is if they are with the best genetic match they can attract, otherwise, monogamy is not a sound biological imperative strategy. Now, most people might jump to purely physicality in that case but humans have evolved intelligence as much as physicality. Anyway, hypergamy selects the highest possible mate during ovulation. Monogamy doesn't support that strategy, ergo, from a biological imperative, monogamy is not natural for females.
Okay but does it really make sense for them to spend their whole lives hoping they can attract that 1 in a million guy? Just so they can fantasize about him for a few days per month while they spend their life with a guy who is willing to commit to her and raise her children.
It's month to month, not their whole life. Each month at peak ovulation, they're subconsciously looking to secure the best genetics they can. Can that be controlled with conscious thought? Many guys would say no, I say absolutely yes, depending on the woman. If a woman is happy with a guy and has a lot invested, she's not going to sacrifice it all. If she's unhappy though, you can be sure she'll be looking for something better.
Women forget the people they have "sex" with.
The reptilian brain doesn't know she's in a bathroom having sex and doesn't wanna have kids. That layer of the brain is programmed to hump anything that moves and attracts you and everytime you have sex, it thinks you're making a kid LOLI get what you're saying for relationships but I'm afraid you're giving women too much credit around catching warm and fuzzy feelings and wanting to nest after sex. It really depends on the context.
The girl, pushed up against a bathroom wall at 2am in some bar with her pants down around her ankles isn't thinking of bonding or nesting, sorry to disappoint
Now I have this image in my head of a guy f**king a Gecko.
Hahaha you know it's true.
There are still many examples there .
