Should I do this or nah? Needy or straight forward?

TheGambino

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Met this HB8 like a year ago in a club. She's a dime, great body, pretty face, designer clothing, just the girl that I digg. I like to take care of myself too.

Cold approached her, she was attracted to me. Touched my arms, my neck, I slow grinded her for about an hour and I think I kissed her neck but we did not make out. We had fun and I bailed. I added her on snapchat but she did not add me back and blocked me from adding her on snap the next day.

As the DJ I am I didn't give a flying fauck and forgot about her. Months later I run into her on another sick as beach party where she was dancing with a tanned guy like myself all night, she flirted with me with her eyes when I danced next to them with another girl but nothing more happened, I just bailed again.

Yet again I run into her on several parties where we completly ignore eachother. Another time she sits on a terras with her mom and me with my mom lmao. We keep looking at eachother but that's it again.

We see eachother on another party again but ignore like a couple of weeks ago.

Yesterday night
Yesterday night my buddy and I went to a indoor party with great DJ's. I'm the outgoing, dancing guy on parties that talks to all girls that I like. I just have fun. I see her and I became more fit, and lean and I feel great about myself at the moment, everything is going well.

OP girl approaches me herself, tries to dance with me and kisses me three times. I dance back and kiss her cheek flirty but I did not act hungry or over the top agressive because she rejected me earlier on snapchat. I did not forget that.

So I ignored her again to push/pull. She starts to dance in front of me with her friend. She leaves then comes back to dance in front of me again and keeps looking at me every single time, turning around, watching me, eye balling me and trying to get my attention.

After 30 mins or so I approach her and call her by her name, she's really glad that I remember her name and we have a fun short convo about nothing. I tell her that she smells good and kino a lot and she kino's back.

Then I tell her if she is going to a club but she tells me she has to work in the morning downtown. After that fun convo she leaves.

Ok I found her on Facebook and Instagram. ( I dont use instagram though)

Should I reach out to try to talk and set up something like a coffee date or club evening or just wait until I run into her (could be a week or months)????? What's my best bet.

Yes I got loads of options but I don't want to f8ck up this one, she's hot. thanks again boyzzzz
 

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I'd just wait until you run into her again.

She sounds like one of those "in the moment" chicks. The type that lives in the moment and your only chance of closing with her is on one of those nights where she is out partying and clubbing.

By reaching out preemptively, you run the risk of her blowing you out completely. If she's that interested in you, she'll contact you. Otherwise, just escalate more the next time you run into her.
 

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Gambino, from your description, she either is interested and plays games (blocking you on social media), or is looking for attention (am extra orbiter).

Break the deadlock and ask her out, to find out.

Life is short (and your program to improve cannot wait on this girl :) )
 

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I don't want to f8ck up this one, she's hot.
Based on this, its already over bro.

You've been on here since 2013 and your mindset is still the same for the most part. Not being harsh, but you tend to pedestalize these chicks in a bad way.

When you learn to give zero fvcks and be completely outcome indifferent, its then that you will see a major change in how girls stick around, make it super easy and you'll have an abundance of options.

For the record, I know that you are young, but girls in the clubs are there for 2 things:

1.) Some dude to buy them free drinks
2.) Hang out and have fun with their girlfriends.

After the chumps pump them full of free drinks they either go home alone or to their outcome indifferent guy friends who bangs the he!! out of them.

Very few decent women will be found "in the clubs" and bars. Most are already seeing someone or attention/drink wh0ring.
 
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TheGambino

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Based on this, its already over bro.

You've been on here since 2013 and your mindset is still the same for the most part. Not being harsh, but you tend to pedestalize these chicks in a bad way.

When you learn to give zero fvcks and be completely outcome indifferent, its then that you will see a major change in how girls stick around, make it super easy and you'll have an abundance of options.

For the record, I know that you are young, but girls in the clubs are there for 2 things:

1.) Some dude to buy them free drinks
2.) Hang out and have fun with their girlfriends.

After the chumps pump them full of free drinks they either go home alone or to their outcome indifferent guy friends who bangs the he!! out of them.

Very few decent women will be found "in the clubs" and bars. Most are already seeing someone or attention/drink wh0ring.
Reaching out of Facebook got me several dates and plates..
 

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You have a scarcity mindset my man. Lose it.

Treat all bitches the same.
 

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You are too desperate bro. Stop putting any good looking chick on a pedestal. The world is full of them.
 

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She thinks you are a weak toy.

Confident men get the number, make plans, and ask her on dates so they can eventually **** her. You've accomplished none of that. She's not interested.
 

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Based on this, its already over bro.

You've been on here since 2013 and your mindset is still the same for the most part. Not being harsh, but you tend to pedestalize these chicks in a bad way.

When you learn to give zero fvcks and be completely outcome indifferent, its then that you will see a major change in how girls stick around, make it super easy and you'll have an abundance of options.

For the record, I know that you are young, but girls in the clubs are there for 2 things:

1.) Some dude to buy them free drinks
2.) Hang out and have fun with their girlfriends.

After the chumps pump them full of free drinks they either go home alone or to their outcome indifferent guy friends who bangs the he!! out of them.

Very few decent women will be found "in the clubs" and bars. Most are already seeing someone or attention/drink wh0ring.
This is so true.

I quit club game a few years ago cause I was getting blown out by HB 5. Now I can get HB 9 if I want. And yes, club wh0res have boyfriends. They tend to have ****ty personalities too.
 
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