Good work man. Used to think that was douchy behavior but now I totally see the benefit of letting them know what your expectations are up front and the consequences for not complying. Well done sir!
Moved in with GF this week used to be daily but lost interested in sex already!?
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MrWood
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OP: you never GO TO a woman (I thought ive said this before...)
OP, you moved in TO HER home. (HER CASTLE)
get it?
OP, you moved in TO HER home. (HER CASTLE)
get it?
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flowtheory
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So?
Then you should have told her that you’re going to look for a new place together - to start that new chapter of your life. Fresh start for both of you. You gave up everything to go to her. She didn’t give up much except half the bed and maybe a few drawers for your ginch. If she gets fed up and disinterested she can easily just kick you out and lose no sleep. She can tell you what goes where because you’re in her domain. The lines are already drawn and you have to push for equality as opposed to start with it. She tells you how it is because she already knows that reality which she established by herself and you’re learning the ropes from her which puts her in the dominant position.
Based on the small amount of info.. no sex and all that, there is an issue and her attraction is not there in your relationship. Which means you.
Don’t get wimpy and huffy about it. The great thing is your non ideal situation can be changed!
Just change whatever the hell youre doing right now because clearly something is not working for her. Even if that means repacking those uhual boxes and moving in to your own pad. And telling her “we moved to quick” you don’t even have to break it off, just recalibrate. Just don’t wait for things to change! Take full responsibility and pivot out of this foxhole which you’ve dug yourself in to.
And for the love of god don’t ask why you’re not having sex in a overt communicatory way. Just adjust a few things until you get some sort of positive sign, then continue down that road and become better.
But most of all do it for yourself, not for her. However look at her as feedback.
Create value because that’s what people buy in to. Valuable things.
That’s all. Stop focusing on what’s not happening and focus on solutions!
You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
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I never get why most men are like, “she never initiated sex anymore” I want it to be 50 way wah wah.
Like wtf, you’re the man, initiate the sex, get her hot and heavy and she’ll do whatever you want. Women aren’t like guys, they can’t pop wood in 30 secs, gotta work em up
Like wtf, you’re the man, initiate the sex, get her hot and heavy and she’ll do whatever you want. Women aren’t like guys, they can’t pop wood in 30 secs, gotta work em up
flowtheory
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Ain’t nobody got time for that. She better be drenched after a thigh squeeze or I’m withholding sex to increase my sexual value.
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Sound like a girl that uses the hook of great sex to get men into her place, then she can tapers off when the relationship is going. You might want to find a place of your own to make it clear to her that you have a price of sex to be with you. Have a date night each week to get the juices going and if she doesn't make a effort to be the same way as before. You know she's lost all value for you or interest. She got what she wanted from you and your no challenge for her so she got bored.
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OP You did bot mention anything about it - but probably with moving in you turned to be way to nice. Stop being Mr Niceguy. Do not make her the center of your life - which she probably is right now. Have your own life. Do your own things. Make her guess. At the Moment she thinks you are safe. You must be a challenge again.
And like flowtheory said: Do never communicate overtly the sex issue. Very important advice!
