Did she seriously lose interest that quickly?

[TBG]

Matched with this girl on Tinder last week. She asked what do I do for fun to which I replied "Hopefully you". She said good answer so I asked when we having 'fun' then. She sent me her address and told me to come over the next night. Perfect it was my birthday that day, so she said she'd have to make it extra special.

That day she texts me asking If I'm still coming over, and I do. Kid you not 5 minutes in she says "You're gonna hate me but I've got a headache", I laugh it off and continue watching what we were watching. Ten minutes later she says "You're gonna think I'm a ***** but I'm gonna have to ask you to leave. I've got a really bad headache". Seriously?

Get up and leave and on the way out she says maybe we can grab a coffee later that week instead. I text her the next day but haven't heard back from her since.

Can't tell if she just wasnt attracted to me or didn't want to come off as being easy.

 

[Murk]

You did something to put her off.

Now whether that was not being attractive enough, too different from your pics, too short, tall, fat, or smelled funny, we will never know.

Just ghost and keep it moving.

If this happened to me I would demand an explanation, "headache" 5 minutes after I arrive wouldn't be cutting it.

 

[RangerMIke]

@TBG Yep... this happens with chicks, all the time. You didn't do anything wrong, chicks are leaves blowing in the emotional wind.

Just don't let it get to you and move onto the next one. Just tell her to reach out if she wants to reschedule then forget about her until she does that.

 

[QuadDeuces]

So the first date was at her house?
That means she just wanted a guy to fvck her while the boyfriend was out of town, somehow she was put off by something and actually did you a huge favour not wasting either her nor your time and telling you within 10 minutes you have to leave, I could actually respect that.

Also, going on a date on your birthday?
I don't know, it kinda looks like you have no social circle.

 

[TBG]

I'm lear

So the first date was at her house?
That means she just wanted a guy to fvck her while the boyfriend was out of town, somehow she was put off by something and actually did you a huge favour not wasting either her nor your time and telling you within 10 minutes you have to leave, I could actually respect that.

Also, going on a date on your birthday?
I don't know, it kinda looks like you have no social circle.

There was definitely no boyfriend.

And yeah I thought she was down to **** as well, hence inviting me over. I'm starting to think it's something I said that put her off. She seemed very serious, whereas I'm more laid back and will say what's on my mind, even if it's a dumb comment.

 

[The Duke]

These things happen for 3 reasons:

1. You didn't look like the original image she concocted in her head.

2. When a guy doesn't lead properly or display enough confidence, women lose comfort, get cold feet and run.

3. What RangerMike said "chicks are leaves blowing in the emotional wind." They don't even understand why they do what they do.

Try to be the best man you can be and always improve yourself. But never beat yourself up over how a woman treats you. They do a lot of disrespectful and immature things.

When I get into a situation like this, I turn up the heat and put it all on the line. I'd of used her "I have a headache" excuse and said you had the instant cure for her and got on top of her.

Give her a real reason to tell you to go away! She didn't care about you, why should you care about her.

The 3 times I've been in these situations I pushed for sex with them every time and got it. 1 wanted to see me again, 1 ended up hating my guts immediately after, 1 didn't want to see me again. But the latter 2 both came back around a few weeks later.

 

[Spidah]

This is why you never let bitches lead.

The bytch needs to follow your program or she gets dropped.

 

[claudolfgeorgini]

I'm lear


There was definitely no boyfriend.

And yeah I thought she was down to **** as well, hence inviting me over. I'm starting to think it's something I said that put her off. She seemed very serious, whereas I'm more laid back and will say what's on my mind, even if it's a dumb comment.

This is why we always say to talk less. Guys are always talking their way out of *****.

Women will use any little thing as a reason to not sleep with you. Next time just talk about surface level ****. No opinions, beliefs, or inferences until after you smash.

 

[Murk]

She said she had a headache within 5 minutes of him arriving - after they arranged a sex date at her place on OLD.

Why are you guys talking about leading? She wasn't sexually interested in him.

 

[soulforge]

Do NOT follow this advice.. If a chick tells you she has a headache & tells you to leave, then you Leave!!

Do not CLIMB ON TOP of her, unless you want to be accused of RAPE!

In todays climate you cannot even say HELLO to a female, without some hoe accusing you of sexual harrasment.

Tread very carefully with chicks these days!

 

[Billtx49]

OP’s avatar and profile say she’s a female…
Perhaps she could get better advice on a lesbian/bi or bull dyke forum.