Do we put too much pressure on ourselves to come up with the perfect thing to say to a woman?

[bigdave17]

I was in line today at grocery store and there was a younger cashier (wasn't really cute but wasn't ugly) so I just chatted her up for a bit. My opening line was just "how is your day going" and we went from there. Simple common sense conversation and I could tell she liked me instantly

The thing that drew her to me I think was I felt really good...felt very positive, confident, upbeat, etc... That mixed with me not caring made me come across in a genuine way also (because I wasn't trying to hit on her)

I think my point is that 90% of how women judge you is all based on how you feel about yourself. How we feel is extremely contagious so perhaps we should stop worrying about the perfect pickup line and just say whatever the hell we want and trust that the other person will like us?

 

[RichardTheFrog]

90% of this guys posts say "we" when he should be saying "I."

And they also seem like they come from the Andromeda Galaxy.

Lucky for him he's the most beautiful male specimen ever to walk the Earth.

 

[btownbuck2012]

I think my point is that 90% of how women judge you is all based on how you feel about yourself.

very true. The world is a mirror. If you genuinely like yourself, no rejection or embarrassment, socially, can hurt your self esteem.

 

[sosousage]

90% of this guys posts say "we" when he should be saying "I."

And they also seem like they come from the Andromeda Galaxy.

Lucky for him he's the most beautiful male specimen ever to walk the Earth.

he probably wanted to sell her a car

 

[sazc]

I think my point is that 90% of how women judge you is all based on how you feel about yourself. How we feel is extremely contagious so perhaps we should stop worrying about the perfect pickup line and just say whatever the hell we want and trust that the other person will like us?

@bigdave17 is starting to get it.

Keep talking to women like this. Eventually you will feel so good about the interaction you WILL ask for the number. You may get rejected 90% of the time when you ask for the number, but that's okay, you are building your self esteem and your internal belief of your value and self worth.

Small TALK every day to as many women as possible. This is a process. You do this and you will get there naturally

 

[bigdave17]

@bigdave17 is starting to get it.

Keep talking to women like this. Eventually you will feel so good about the interaction you WILL ask for the number. You may get rejected 90% of the time when you ask for the number, but that's okay, you are building your self esteem and your internal belief of your value and self worth.

Small TALK every day to as many women as possible. This is a process. You do this and you will get there naturally

i think im gonna approach dating similar way to making friends

I talk to people, see if we have great chemistry, see if we would be a good fit for friendship and if they're in right stage in life, then I ask for their number

I think the blind spray attack of asking out every woman you encounter is silly and will lead tons of rejection

 

[sazc]

i think im gonna approach dating similar way to making friends

I talk to people, see if we have great chemistry, see if we would be a good fit for friendship and if they're in right stage in life, then I ask for their number

I think the blind spray attack of asking out every woman you encounter is silly and will lead tons of rejection

The only thing flawed about this approach is that 90% of the time a female will friend zone you because you are taking to long to get to know her as a ' friend'.

Definitely keep taking to women, that is your first step. As you are chatting a woman up, try to DELICATELY ask about the things that are important to you in a woman. Only do that if it really fits (is not forced) into the conversation.

In every carc, if the conversation feels good, ask for the number.

Remember, is called DATING because that's all you are doing... You are dating to get to know someone to see if you want something more.

Don't spend too much time making "friends" with a chick. If you do that, their panties go dry for you, and they look for a tingle elsewhere. If the covo feels good, strike and ask for the number.

 

[bigdave17]

The only thing flawed about this approach is that 90% of the time a female will friend zone you because you are taking to long to get to know her as a ' friend'.

Definitely keep taking to women, that is your first step. As you are chatting a woman up, try to DELICATELY ask about the things that are important to you in a woman. Only do that if it really fits (is not forced) into the conversation.

In every carc, if the conversation feels good, ask for the number.

Remember, is called DATING because that's all you are doing... You are dating to get to know someone to see if you want something more.

Don't spend too much time making "friends" with a chick. If you do that, their panties go dry for you, and they look for a tingle elsewhere. If the covo feels good, strike and ask for the number.

You didn't understand what I said correctly

I'm not saying to go after women like im trying to be friends but more approach dating in similar process to how I approach making friends

with making friends, I don't go for kill immediately...i try to see if we are a good fit first

 

[sazc]

You didn't understand what I said correctly

I'm not saying to go after women like im trying to be friends but more approach dating in similar process to how I approach making friends

with making friends, I don't go for kill immediately...i try to see if we are a good fit first

Hmmmm. Different definitions then.

It takes me time to make a friend. Maybe that's a fundamental difference between men and women.

Carry on