My Cousin Is Addicted To Escorts

[Young OG]

I'm kind of worried about my older cousin. He is spending over a $1000 on escorts a week and paying for there Uber to his place. He has some regulars and hes always trying to find new ones. Hes having one over everyday and sometimes its two in one day. Hes not using condoms and there giving him head.

My dad and I have already tried to talk to him but he won't listen and he just gets mad. His response is "you only live once." The other day he said one of his regulars wants him to start choking her during sex. My dad told him not to do that because he could kill her or he could leave marks and she could claim rape.

I'm happy he is getting laid because he is old, overweight, and has trouble getting hot girls. But, I'm concerned about the money he is throwing away and the chance hes taking of getting an STD or HIV. Am I over reacting? I really don't think I am. My dad and I are the only ones that can talk to him because is parents are dead. Any advice is appreciated.

 

[Killakittie]

Intervention time..

He's 100% going to catch herpes, hpv at some point at a minimum, or worse. You got to sit him down and carefully explain the risk he's taking and how it could be disastrous to his health. If he doesn't listen tell him he doesn't have to care about himself but he should care about how it could affect his loved ones if he catches a deadly disease. Which will happen if he's raw dogging escorts.

Escorts who don't make their clients wear condoms are the lowest of the escort world, other escorts openly chastise them. They are highly prone to be diseased and you'd have to be ****ing crazy to stick your c0ck in them raw. This is definitely a symptom of a larger personality disorder your cousin is suffering from he needs to get some help.

How's he finding them? Is he using one of the online forums? If so does he know how to properly screen the safe ones (who would never allow raw dogging) from the ones that don't? It sounds like he has money so he should be focusing on established, five star, gf experience providers.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

This has train wreck written all over it.

Likely some kind of self destructive behavior with complex reasons only a qualified therapist could figure out.

Unfortunately, people in these situations have a hard time listening to reason.

I'd be worried about the girl wanting to get choked, sounds like she's pegged him as a wealthy beta and is setting him up.

Dudes throwing money around and sex workers doesn't usually end well.

Best case is he goes bankrupt.

Worst case is he ends up in prison or paying child support.

Ideally, get him to at least realize the risks. Don't try and get him to stop, maybe talk him into budgeting his money or something and using condoms, avoiding any setups.

How long before he runs out of money? Is he wealthy? Employed? I'd start with pure money, then talking to him about protecting himself from negative blow-back.

Little bit at a time. Cold turkey won't work.

How close are you to him?

Any chance of talking to him and finding why he's purposely driving a train towards a cliff? Recent breakup?

 

[Bible_Belt]

There's a hundred different strains of HPV. The more you rack up over time, the more long-term health problems that you will have. Post-Mortem brain dissections of chronic Alzheimer's and dementia patients have revealed dead brain tissue that is full of HPV and HSV. The viruses are opportunistic and colonize whatever part of your body is weakened.

 

[Spaz]

I don't think you or your dad is in the right position to advice him.

You've been doing it with little to no results.

Perhaps it's time you considered a therapist to look into him.

 

[corrector]

I am sorry to hear about your cousin. This is a dangerous thing. May God have mercy on your cousin's soul. Reach out to a prayer-line and see if you can find a spirit-filled born-again believer over the phone that can cry out to God for him. As for the consequences, perhaps that may be a good thing. Sometimes people have to face the consequences of their actions, and be brought in a low place, before they seek out God. Do not underestimate the power of this curse. It must be something his parents, grandparents, or something down his blood-line occurring now with him and you might need an Exorcist to get rid of his demons that are causing that behaviour. I think the devil may have his soul and he needs to be delivered. These prostitutes have lots of demons themselves.

 

[ohrein]

RichardTheFrog is your cousin?!?!

 

[R.U.G.]

RichardTheFrog is your cousin?!?!

LOL. I was going to type the same.

 

[Macaframalama]

JFC leave the man alone. Are you making his money? Are you paying his bills? Does he want help? No? Leave him TF alone then.

 

[sosousage]

RichardTheFrog is your cousin?!?!

richard is a sosuave meme now. hes mentioned in every situation like this. im sure with time he will become a known meme of whole manosphere/theredpill

 

[ohrein]

richard is a sosuave meme now. hes mentioned in every situation like this. im sure with time he will become a known meme of whole manosphere/theredpill

God bless the guy. I do love him. I hope he finds what he's looking for.

 

[Spaz]

God bless the guy. I do love him. I hope he finds what he's looking for.

I love him too, he's an inspiration to many here.

He's handsome, popular, makes tons of money, etc etc...

Of course it's all the women's fault, can't they see he's such a catch !

 

[Alvafe]

for the op (after the little derail)

serious are he burning more money he can make? he is still making money? how long he is doing this, can you guess the why?

don't matter you ask him to see a therapist or no, he will still need to want one forcing will not do it, best way her would be you undertand, if he is on that line of I don't care anymore best you could do is make him start to the very least spend a little less, and go for safe sex, chances are he is getting the cheapest *****s around to keep hence why the high risk, chances are already he did get something already too, askig for him get tested and confirming this would make him get real.

in the other notes you can do to help,a re him teh kind who goes out or is sheltered? do you and your father go out and invite him to do things? some beer and game? saying you are worried but never really cared enough to invite him out,or never even talked much till he did this looks more like you was hoping he would just kill himself and let all his money to the closest family with would be your father and you no? serious the first thing you did mention is he spending 1k week on *****s, looks more you are worried with teh money he spend and not himself, if that is teh case he are well aware of it hence why he don't listen or care for what you and your father says.

if you are really want to help him and not hoping for his money you will need to work more on teh side lines

 

[Fzatf]

If you've had the conversation about his health and finances, you've done what you can. If he's still supporting himself financially you can't really force the issue. He should use a condom especially with sex workers, but in the end it's his body.

I understand you're trying to help, but sometimes you can only help those who help themselves.

 

[Young OG]

Hey everyone, my cousin doesn't want to hear it. So, he is just going to have to crash and burn. He will have to learn his own way.

Recently, he has been paying some porn star to bang her. I guess she has some glory hole video, where she sucks 15 or more guys off in a row. Most likely he isn't using protection with her either.

 

[Dingo]

I can think of a dozen worse ways to use your money...

 

[Serenity]

Get close to him, ask him what he's running away from. If he doesn't understand the questions, then elaborate that he has to be engaging in escapism because no rational man would behave the way he does. You might get resistance, but don't stop pestering him about it.

I've gotten people to get back down to earth before, but it isn't quick and easy. It was a different scenario, but similar in that it was an unhealthy pattern they were in denial about. I made a sport out of finding new angles to attack it from and was completely unapologetic about what was really a benefit for them. Just refuse to let them off the hook easy, push him until he breaks.

 

[Reykhel]

JFC leave the man alone. Are you making his money? Are you paying his bills? Does he want help? No? Leave him TF alone then.

Well said my man, it's exactly the thoughts I was having while reading this thread.

the man is not looking for "help", perhaps this is what he wants to do with his time, money and finances and life.

Interfering and codependent bitches.

Ask the guy is this what he wants. I remember bill hicks saying something about weed smokers like "people say that smoking week kills ambition......but what if your ambition is to smoke weed and watch cartoons in your boxer shorts at 11 in the morning" (note: I'm not a weed smoker but I totally appreciate his point).

It's completely different a man who is trying to battle his demons and wants to embrace another life, than a man who wants to embrace his demons and live (exactly) that life.

You cannot "help" a man who doesn't want to be "helped".

Be there for the guy. love the guy. show him you love him. but don't try to fvcking control his life.

 

[Reykhel]

Hey everyone, my cousin doesn't want to hear it. So, he is just going to have to crash and burn. He will have to learn his own way.

Recently, he has been paying some porn star to bang her. I guess she has some glory hole video, where she sucks 15 or more guys off in a row. Most likely he isn't using protection with her either.

Love the guy. Nothing more. You see few people are capable of this for a couple of reasons: they hold resentments/or believe people have resentments against them. uncapable of forgiveness.

Look at the conflicts you have in your life, look at the relatives you no longer speak to. it's mainly because of resentment and forgiveness