Dont take OLD rejection seriously

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As everyone knows, the state of OLD today is basically millions of guys begging women for attention. Getting abruptly ignored is a pretty regular thing, and even a single response from a hot girl is pretty rare. As a result I very aggressively filter girls to not waste time, and have a really low hit rate.

This conversation happened on Bumble about a month ago.

HB: What are your thoughts on brunch?
Me: Depends; where are you taking me?

No reply.

Well yesterday I was at a bar with some female friends and a girl who looked strangely familiar walks up to me.

HB: “Hey! Don’t I know you?”
Me: “Maybe?”
HB: “Oh yeah! We matched on Bumble!”
Me: “Oh right, you ghosted me!”
HB: “No way!” *laughs*

From there she immediately put her arm around me and looked very highly interested. A few times her bored friend tried to pull her off and failed. Finally she says “OK I have to go back to my friend, but here’s my number.” I tell her “you have a way to contact me already, go respond to my message.” She laughed.

My female friends kept telling me “go after her! You’re gonna lose her!” I told them “if she likes me she’ll be back.” Surely enough, she came back about an hour later and told me she ditched her friend. (Friend: “you were right!” I’m thinking “go read the DJ bible”) We went to a couple more venues and made out, then got food at a diner before I dropped her off at her place.

This girl is very hot and I was surprised she messaged me at all on OLD...but in real life it’s a totally different game. In fact I think she was probably surprised herself at how artificially high her standards are on OLD. If she’s like most girls, you’d have to work to entertain her like a circus monkey to avoid getting ghosted if the IL isn’t high already. So if you don’t know this already, don’t take an OLD rejection personally. That same girl could have a much higher IL in person.
 

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In OLD they get swarmed with messages so it's possible she just got overwhelmed.

Girls who know how to look good in a pic get 50 messages a day, 45 of those guys are weirdos or losers (because it's OLD, the men aren't higher quality than the women)

99% of the time it's just no interest, but as you can clearly see she had interest, a girl without high interest wouldn't have bothered to do more than glance at you if you didn't walk up to her first
 

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Online dating is a losing proposition for men - for the reasons you described - furthermore it's where all the broken and mentally wrecked women find a safe haven.

I know there are "exceptions", but you know what have I have to say? Be smart - if you are going to pursue women then do it mostly at social events in which they have to engage you face to face. Online dating should get a fraction of your energy and effort - it should really be nothing more than an amusement/distraction.
 

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furthermore it's where all the broken and mentally wrecked women find a safe haven.
This has been my experience. It becomes difficult when you get older and have moved around a bit for work. You don't have a big group of friends anymore who want to go out, and you yourself don't go out to the bars etc. OLD seems great for situations like these, but yeah, I've yet to meet a woman who was both attractive, and not crazy in OLD. I've met plenty of crazy attractive women, and unattractive non-crazy women in OLD.
 

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Solid moves right there, OP. Handled like a boss. :up:

Isn't it funny how your female friends expected you to be the one to chase her? But you let her chase you. That's being a DJ right there in plain black and white if anyone ever wondered if there was such a thing. Perfect example.
 

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Attractive women dont need online dating. They dont go online until after they've poisoned the local well.
 
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Talking to women in your everyday life and showing them that you aren't chicken sh1t is 10X more effective than OLD.
 

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Just go on the relationship advice reddit and just think if we could inject some red pill/DJ for some of those guys.

Literally you guys saying, “help my girlfriend still loves me, but isn’t attracted to me and won’t have sex with me anymore, what should I do?”
 

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Literally you guys saying, “help my girlfriend still loves me, but isn’t attracted to me and won’t have sex with me anymore, what should I do?”
Fortunately even the most beta of guys only have to go through something like that once to realize what it means
 

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Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Only go online if you’re jacked and either white or black. If you are, you will get so much puss your d*ck will be sore. OLD is a goldmin for those guys.

Blue pill guys in this site say I’m being “whiny” instead of blaming the women for their racial preferences.
 

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Attractive women dont need online dating. They dont go online until after they've poisoned the local well.

Or until they leave "College" I live 15 minutes from three major colleges in my city. Now and than I go to college bars and MOST college girls laugh when you bring up Tinder. Why would they need it when they

-Meet guys in their social circles
-Frat/soroirty parties
-Social events
-Bars/clubs

etc

I really found that the chicks that use OLD that are hot, are women who are either ran through, are bat shyt crazy, single moms etc.
It's just doesn't add up

In regards to the OP, I totally agree,
 

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Maybe I'm just a grouchy b*stard but I wouldn't give her the time of day if she was nice to me like that in RL after ghosting me on an app. Hot or not.

She wants to treat me like s**t online and ignore me after matching but fancies me in RL? Yeah, no thanks, you can reap what you sow and maybe next time you'll treat the guy online with some respect.

People who treat you like a worthless commodity when they want and value you other times are worthy of the same lack of respect they give you.
 

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Saying don't take OLD rejection seriously is idiotic OP.Everything you do in life you should give it your best shot,I don't care what it is.Learn to love rejection and being comfortable with being uncomfortable.
 

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Your value takes as high as 50% reduction online, it's nonsensical for most guys to use it. No way in hell any of my exes would have swiped right on me online.
lol yup.

Women cannot see status online.

I got 0 matches on tinder and I used it for a year. But women IRL show interest in me if they know my work background. I’ve been winning awards etc, once they find out about me they become mega interested. I guess I have status. However online I’m not appealing at all. I’m like a 3 in looks.
 
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Only go online if you’re jacked and either white or black. If you are, you will get so much puss your d*ck will be sore. OLD is a goldmin for those guys.

Blue pill guys in this site say I’m being “whiny” instead of blaming the women for their racial preferences.
I'm a somewhat handsome white guy and I have a shirtless pic on OLD (POF, I don't have a facebook, so I can't get on Tinder) that shows how ripped I am. I honestly think it hurts my chances, if anything.

Because of it, chicks know that I just want to fvck and they're mostly ran through hoes (with kids) that suddenly want the beta bucks. "I'm looking for a nice guy." Lol Lord help the sucker that takes that bait..
 
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user43770

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Saying don't take OLD rejection seriously is idiotic OP.Everything you do in life you should give it your best shot,I don't care what it is.Learn to love rejection and being comfortable with being uncomfortable.
OLD isn't real rejection, it's a soft form of it. If you've ever been rejected to your face, you know what I mean.

This is why so many guys and low SMV women flock to it. It's easy. Way less painful than in-your-face rejection.

The thing guys don't realize is, if you grab your nuts, make sure you have a pair, and then confront a woman face to face, you increase your odds ten fold.

You can showcase your personality and your physical dominance. I get rejected a lot in person, but the women are always nice about it, as opposed to online, where they just won't respond sometimes. Or they'll say they hate conservatives etc.
 
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Maybe I'm just a grouchy b*stard but I wouldn't give her the time of day if she was nice to me like that in RL after ghosting me on an app. Hot or not.

She wants to treat me like s**t online and ignore me after matching but fancies me in RL? Yeah, no thanks, you can reap what you sow and maybe next time you'll treat the guy online with some respect.

People who treat you like a worthless commodity when they want and value you other times are worthy of the same lack of respect they give you.
That's your ego talking. Don't take this sh1t personally, man.

And definitely don't let your ego ruin potential sexual escapades.
 

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OLD isn't real rejection, it's a soft form of it. If you've ever been rejected to your face, you know what I mean.

This is why so many guys and low SMV women flock to it. It's easy. Way less painful than in-your-face rejection.

The thing guys don't realize is, if you grab your nuts, make sure you have a pair, and then confront a woman face to face, you increase your odds ten fold.

You can showcase your personality and your physical dominance. I get rejected a lot in person, but the women are always nice about it, as opposed to online, where they just won't respond sometimes. Or they'll say they hate conservatives etc.
No...your wrong if a woman rejects you on OLD it is real rejection...rejection is rejection.You are right about showing dominance in cold approaching.One trick I learned is to stand in the way of a woman when approaching and not letting her leave or get away it shows dominance and you should see their fvckin face when you do that.
 
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No...your wrong if a woman rejects you on OLD it is real rejection...rejection is rejection.You are right about showing dominance in cold approaching.One trick I learned is to stand in the way of a woman when approaching and not letting her leave or get away it shows dominance and you should see their fvckin face when you do that.
Stand in their way? Baller move.

Online rejection ain't sh1t compared to face-to-face.
 

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If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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