I don't know what to do about my hair situation

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hit the gym, women will care more about a nice body than your hair
I'm in good shape

I actually have all the things you need to pull off a shaved head look - solid muscles, dark features, great jawline/chin, excellent beard genetics....I just don't want that look because as I said, I look both older and way more ethnic. With a clean cut look, I appear to be about 28 to 30
 

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I actually have all the things you need to pull off a shaved head look...
You’re forgetting confidence, self-efficacy, accepting your ethnicity, and an attitude of indifference towards what women think of the number of hairs on your head.

Attitude > Hair

Women who are not attracted to men with thinning or receding hair are allowed to prefer whatever they want... But any woman who rejects you solely based on your hair (or lack of) is probably not a woman whose company you want in the first place.

When a woman rejects you based on your hair, she’s doing YOU a favor, as she is effectively disqualifying herself from deserving your time and attention.
 

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Hair aside, all sorts of things can kill a boner, stress being #1 which I would predict you have a lot of. You're always stressing about yourself, women, what people think of you, etc., etc. Stress also makes your hair fall out. Try popping 10-20 mgs of Sildenafil next time you have sex or masturbate. See what happens. A week ago, I took 10 mg about 2 hours before sex and another 10 mg about 15 min before sex and HOLY S*HIT. 30 minutes of sex, no c*um, called a halftime, another 35 minutes finally forcing myself to c*um. First time I was with this girl. Had a delayed backache about 3 days later but it cleared up. It was worth it. Needless to say, her interest is at about 99.9% right now, lol.

So, Dave: Just quit stressing about everything. Damn, man. Man up! WWBFD (What Would Brett Favre Do)? He'd throw a laser TD pass between 3 defenders. Do the same!

Good luck.
 

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Hair aside, all sorts of things can kill a boner, stress being #1 which I would predict you have a lot of. You're always stressing about yourself, women, what people think of you, etc., etc. Stress also makes your hair fall out. Try popping 10-20 mgs of Sildenafil next time you have sex or masturbate. See what happens. A week ago, I took 10 mg about 2 hours before sex and another 10 mg about 15 min before sex and HOLY S*HIT. 30 minutes of sex, no c*um, called a halftime, another 35 minutes finally forcing myself to c*um. First time I was with this girl. Had a delayed backache about 3 days later but it cleared up. It was worth it. Needless to say, her interest is at about 99.9% right now, lol.

So, Dave: Just quit stressing about everything. Damn, man. Man up! WWBFD (What Would Brett Favre Do)? He'd throw a laser TD pass between 3 defenders. Do the same!

Good luck.
bro I don't remember ever having this problem - that's what is scaring me. I have a crazy sex drive and I think I had no problems getting very hard in the past. Although I think big part of the problem is I masturbate way too much. I do remember having morning wood almost everyday and I'm not getting much of that anymore

This is not stress related. I don't really stress much. I'm actually very happy with my life...take dating out and I'm 10000% happy with my life

Maybe my body gets used to the finnasteride and side effects go away?
 

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You’re forgetting confidence, self-efficacy, accepting your ethnicity, and an attitude of indifference towards what women think of the number of hairs on your head.

Attitude > Hair
I am accepting my ethnicity. Lots of Armenian people are very beautiful...myself included

What I hate is I look heavily Arab when I do the shaved head and beard look. You can barely see my Armenian facial features because the facial hair comes in so thick and heavy. If I do no facial hair, then I look like a cueball with the shaved head and nothing else to distract from the head.

I still look handsome/rugged/masculine with a shaved head and facial hair but I know my odds of attracting a cute 25 year old go way down in that case. I am going to look every bit of 35-40 in that scenario

Women who are not attracted to men with thinning or receding hair are allowed to prefer whatever they want... But any woman who rejects you solely based on your hair (or lack of) is probably not a woman whose company you want in the first place.

When a woman rejects you based on your hair, she’s doing YOU a favor, as she is effectively disqualifying herself from deserving your time and attention.
the problem is I am kind of being hypocrite in this regard

Lots of women have terrible skin genetics to where they start getting thin skin and heavy signs of aging at like 35-40 and I would probably not date someone like that (especially white women, white women have atrocious skin genetics)... It's the exact same thing. I hate being a hypocrite

I have fantastic skin genetics, I hate that I was not given the same genetics in terms of hair...
 

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bro I don't remember ever having this problem - that's what is scaring me. I have a crazy sex drive and I think I had no problems getting very hard in the past. Although I think big part of the problem is I masturbate way too much. I do remember having morning wood almost everyday and I'm not getting much of that anymore

This is not stress related. I don't really stress much. I'm actually very happy with my life...take dating out and I'm 10000% happy with my life

Maybe my body gets used to the finnasteride and side effects go away?
If you're watching a lot of porn as you masturbate I will predict with 99% certainly that's your problem. Porn induced ED is a real thing. It has been shown to mess with the wiring of your brain to the point of not getting hard or as hard. Some guys go 100% limp when with a real woman. The good news is it can be undone. But the problem is extremely common in the under-30 crowd right now. Google it: "porn-induced ED."
 

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If you're watching a lot of porn as you masturbate I will predict with 99% certainly that's your problem. Porn induced ED is a real thing. It has been shown to mess with the wiring of your brain to the point of not getting hard or as hard. Some guys go 100% limp when with a real woman. The good news is it can be undone. But the problem is extremely common in the under-30 crowd right now. Google it: "porn-induced ED."

in the past, even though I watched a ton of porn, I still got very hard around a real woman. Now I'm afraid it won't be the same

the weird thing is all the research I see says that fin could affect sex drive but should have zero effect on sexual dysfunction. For me, it's the opposite. My sex drive is still ferociously strong
 

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I have fantastic skin genetics, I hate that I was not given the same genetics in terms of hair...
If it is true that higher testosterone causes male pattern baldness, then you could probably say that you have superior genetics if you are balding, yes?
 
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in the past, even though I watched a ton of porn, I still got very hard around a real woman. Now I'm afraid it won't be the same

the weird thing is all the research I see says that fin could affect sex drive but should have zero effect on sexual dysfunction. For me, it's the opposite. My sex drive is still ferociously strong
You have a high sex drive, yet you rarely have sex (you claim to have zero dating life), and you don't visit hookers?
 

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You have a high sex drive, yet you rarely have sex (you claim to have zero dating life), and you don't visit hookers?
I'm a compulsive masturbator

When I was seeing a woman for a month last year (a very attractive 35 year old), we were having sex constantly. I broke it off because of her age and her being a single mom
 

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If it is true that higher testosterone causes male pattern baldness, then you could probably say that you have superior genetics if you are balding, yes?
yea but there are a percentage of men who have both very high testosterone (which I do have thankfully) and are also resistant to balding


I should be in that percentage
 

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Broh so you going bald because of testosteron? I think i have low t levels, thanks god because i look idiotic without hair
 

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Funny how narcissists go crazy when they lose a few hairs, they start calling up doctors and plastic surgeons, take heavy drugs that destroy their liver and boners, or they get penis enlargement surgeries and implants like the other guy on this forum lol.

Men these days are just girls with extremely fragile egos.
No wonder women cross the street when they see them ahead.
 

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Funny how narcissists go crazy when they lose a few hairs, they start calling up doctors and plastic surgeons, take heavy drugs that destroy their liver and boners, or they get penis enlargement surgeries and implants like the other guy on this forum lol.

Men these days are just girls with extremely fragile egos.
No wonder women cross the street when they see them ahead.
lol
 

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I'm a compulsive masturbator

When I was seeing a woman for a month last year (a very attractive 35 year old), we were having sex constantly. I broke it off because of her age and her being a single mom
You should've kept hitting it. I bet you were more attractive to others at the time.
 

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You should've kept hitting it. I bet you were more attractive to others at the time.
some of you guys here are borderline sociopaths I swear

do you not give a fukk If that woman, especially a single mom, keeps falling for you? I'm exactly who she would love to settle down with - a good looking young dude making huge money. She was falling HARD for me

Women are not sex toys
 

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not only do I look older that way but I look heavily middle eastern

thick hair and no facial hair makes me look like a Spanish or Italian 29 year old. beard and shaved head and I look like a 40 year old Arab. My facial hair comes in very very thick
But you are arab or middle eastern. You’re not Spanish or Italian. Own it, Ahmed.
 

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some of you guys here are borderline sociopaths I swear

do you not give a fukk If that woman, especially a single mom, keeps falling for you? I'm exactly who she would love to settle down with - a good looking young dude making huge money. She was falling HARD for me

Women are not sex toys
Dude. You can give a friend great sex without breaking her heart. Just be honest that your enjoying each other's company but your not looking for anything serious.
 

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Dude. You can give a friend great sex without breaking her heart. Just be honest that your enjoying each other's company but your not looking for anything serious.
I had the same situation and broke it off trying to wait for something perfect and went through a long drought in response. Some of us are too hung up on looks and superficial factors when there are people who will treat you great and be a great addition to your life.
 
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