Girl walked out... Of my fvcking house

[Korrupt]

I had a date planned ALL WEEK with a girl I've already met (once, and had sex with). She comes over tonight at 8, when I said to be to my place, I invite her in, give her a kiss, and tell her I need 10-15 minutes to shower cause I just got outta the gym and am running a little late. Asked her if she wanted a drink, needed to use the bathroom, and told her to make herself at home.

I get out of the bathroom right around 20 minutes later, go to my room, and SHE'S GONE. Turns out she went home, WITHOUT TELLING OR TEXTING ME, and her response was: "that was extremely disrespectful and a waste of my time. You should have been ready."

How can someone be such an entitled, stuck up CVNT that you WALK OUT because I need a few extra minutes to get ready AFTER SHE'S ALREADY THERE, and WHEN I'M ABOUT TO TAKE HER OUT AND PAY FOR EVERYTHING?

The sh!t never ends. I'm cursed.

 

[Spaz]

To her, u r just a tool.

As such, to you, she is now just a gadget.

Be happy, life just got easier.

 

[wifehunter]

"Be late, and never wait" Sounds like a 'rules girl' to me.

People need to remember, we're all human. Slack is a necessity. 5 minutes isn't too long.

Most chicks are 'spiders and lizards'.

Snakes and snails and puppy dog tails...contrary to popular belief, that's what girls are made of.

"Don't let the door hit you in the ass, on the way out."

Avoid stuck up snobs.

 

[logicallefty]

Wow. What a cvnt. If you didn’t go to the gym, she probably wouldn’t be attracted to you. If you didn’t shower after the gym and gave it to her nice and salty, she probably wouldn’t be attracted to that either. Bottom line, there was nothing you could do to win. Fvck her.

 

[Masculinity]

Ghost her. She'll crawl back.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Bro, if a chick did that to you, you would be walking the hell out too so stfu already. It’s not entitlement. Honor your damn arrangements. A few extra minutes is not a half hour later. And yeah, it is a half hour. How do I know? You said ‘10-15 minute’. Then say how you got out ‘20’ later. Then brush it off and say how it’s just a few? You’re bull****ting yurself here dude. This one is on you. I mean hey, it’s not like you had a week to ****ing prepare or anything, right? Oh wait....

 

[Chev.Chelios]

k well fvck dating.. that's dead.

OPs girl peaces out to catch the pipe from one of her fvck boyz instead.

 

[Murk]

Low interest anyway and that was the last straw for her

 

[Roober]

Seems like a bit much on her part. I feel like there is details missing. Going strictly on what was presented, it sounds like you were cordial and accomodating, and she is an impatient bish. That is just very poor communication on her part. She should have said something like "ok hurry up. I want to get going"

I feel like your leaving out some important details. Was it really only 20 minutes? What was her body language when you told her your running late?

Either way, that's a goner. Throw an apology of you hadn't already, but leave it at that. I would say low interest..

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

How can someone be such an entitled, stuck up CVNT that you WALK OUT because I need a few extra minutes to get ready AFTER SHE'S ALREADY THERE, and WHEN I'M ABOUT TO TAKE HER OUT AND PAY FOR EVERYTHING?

First things first, what she did was d*ckish and very disrespectful. HOWEVER...you set yourself up for it.

If you're taking chicks out and paying for everything (especially with regularity), that right there is the beginning of the end. At least, in my 20's that's how it's been.

Every girl I've paid for on a first date has treated me like s*** after the date and/or ghosted me. That's because paying on a first date shows weakness, makes you seem "nice guy" in a bad way (I.E. low-willpower pushover) and displays that you consider her above you by paying for her to hang out with you.

First date now I always say "Halfsies?" and every single girl has been fine with saying yes. I've seen girls online "joking" that they're just "looking for a free dinner" - except they're not joking! These girls literally will turn you into a free meal and then f*ck off if you're too limp to tell them you're not their personal charity.

You're not some b*tch's meal ticket, you're good company that SHE should be happy to have around. Equality.

When you're dating someone long term you can start paying for them and doing nice things for them. Before that, nothing that happens on a first date means anything and you really just want to keep that in mind before you fork out cash.

The only exception is if she genuinely has no money because she legit forgot her purse on a date and is really embarrassed, of course you pay for her then. Saves her embarrassment, is a kind thing to do and she then owes you next time.

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TLDR: Paying for this chick and treating her like royalty made her feel like she's a Princess and you're her little butler dude who should be waiting on her hand and foot.

Don't treat her like Princess Perfect and pay for her all the time, and maybe next time she won't have her head up her a** and treat you like a servant.

 

[sazc]

Lol, what a diva.

I'm wondering if you did something, or a few something's in the past that left her feeling like you already didn't really respect her, and this was the final straw for her. Mind you, ppl suck at communication, so you could have done something that made her feel disrespected, but she never told you.

Regardless, waking out on you like that demonstrates her over arching sh1tty personality. This is who she is. Don't put her pvssy on a pedestal and go texting her to see WTF.

WALK AWAY. If you don't walk away you are begging for more drama and bullchit.

 

[djthiago1]

20 minutes late? I probably would have left too. It shows lack of respect, consideration, and that you're probably disorganized.
James Bond and Cary Grant are never late. You need to tighten your ship.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Most men would be ok showing up at a woman's house and her saying she has to shower, and catering to your happiness while you wait.

There was no ‘catering’. OP was just dumbfounded that she left when he was finally ready.

It MIGHT have been okay had the two been seeing each other for several months and really known each other well by now. But they’ve only really seen each other one time.

In order to improve, you have to look at your own faults as well.

 

[soulforge]

I have to disagree here.

Most men would be ok showing up at a woman's house and her saying she has to shower, and catering to your happiness while you wait.

That isn't even comparable to being 30 minutes late meeting at a neutral place.

I agree with this.. If op had left her waiting for 20 minutes on a cold winter night, or just simply at a meeting place outdoors, then yes for a FIRST date that would being the pizz

However this was not first date, they have had sex before, OP tried to make her as comfortable as possible till he got ready..

Yes it took 20 minutes.. So fuking what.. Chit happens somethimes.. People get late, or held up or delayed..

OP put this down as a TEST and this entitled kunt failed miserably..

Imagine the kinda chit you would have had to put up with if you continued seeing her... Go NC from here on

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Actually having re-read this I would say that 20 minutes kind of takes the p*ss. 5-10 mins is a reasonable time for a quick shower, taking nearly half an hour of her time to shower is a bit of a diss to her if you're not in an relationship.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Provided a drink and told her to make herself at home.

That is catering.

Most guys would be ok with that. If making herself at home in the place where her date lives is "wasting her time", then she is worthless as a potential mate or a date.

It’s still rude nonetheless. You wouldn’t do that to one of your bros unless there were multiple people.

 

[Korrupt]

To the people asking... There's nothing else to the story. it was our second time meeting. She said it was perfectly fine when I told her I was running late and needed to shower--didn't act weird or give me any sh!t. She wasn't left out in the cold--she was invited into my house and chilling on my bed. I've waited for women like this before, AND have done the same thing to other women and never had an issue. She could have easily come to the bathroom and asked if I'd be ready soon. She didn't. She just left. The more I think about it, the more I realize how right I am about the women in Maryland--wildly stuck up, entitled, princess syndrome, easy mode life cvnts.

 

[derby1]

total piss take to her ......saying your just popping to grab your shoes,clean your teeth been rushed of your ass all day is one thing

also women have so many options these days!! plus chuck in the fact there neurotic as FCK!!!! they just next you over breathing in the wrong direction

She nexted you over gross misconduct of her time ...Girl has been reading this forum shes smart

 

[derby1]

She said it was perfectly fine when I told her I was running late and needed to shower--didn't act weird or give me any sh!t

all female species are unconfrontational within reason unless you harm there offspring or make her jealous, youve most likely done other things where attractions has dropped and this is the final nail...ie refer back to my previous post on how fickle they are

Now picture this shes turned up to your house cool calm collective and shes vanished cool calm collective

this has sent you into a bit of a spin on the forum

She is the real DJ here

 

[guru1000]

She obviously felt disrespected in some way and then employed Silence & Distance (S&D) to prompt OP to give chase.

Absent other details, I don't find OP committed an act that warranted her S&D, though having her wait for you on your bed (as opposed to the couch) can be offputting. Perhaps she felt like a cheap wh0re waiting on your bed, given it was only your second date.

Either way, to the outside observer (as you can see by the conflicting opinions in this thread), your act was not clearly disrespectful so her S&D was unwarranted. She instead should have overtly communicated that disrespect to you, instead of assuming that you should already know.

As to your next action: Do nothing and walk away. If she reaches out and states she felt disrespected, tell her you didn't look at it that way, and next time to communicate that instead of walking out.