Train yourself to be an a$$hole

[Visionist]

I used to like this broad who wasn't in to me, and seeing as how we couldn't avoid seeing each other, I defended myself the only way I knew how; I started treating her like sh!t.

When we were discussing mutual business concerns, I didn't look at her, I didn't make eye contact, I didn't touch her. I kept a straight face and a detached, dispassionate voice, never smiling even when she would. All in a còcky, IDGAF way. It's important to display no weakness at all; only strength. She was beneath me, not worthy of acknowledgment beyond pure, cold business talk.

Beneath contempt.

I'd order her around, telling her to fetch me things, not saying please or thank you. I'd put the radio on before our meetings, and let it play obnoxiously. I'd insult her subtly, and not in a còcky funny way, just an arrogant, I'm-Superior way. She would sometimes flash me dirty, offended looks, also wondering why I was suddenly acting so rude and cùnty, but never calling me out on it.

Long story short, I could actually feel my attraction for her going down the drain, the longer I kept it up. I began to enjoy treating her this way.

I was training myself to be an a$$hole, and being an a$$hole felt good.

 

[sosousage]

1. stop drugs OP
2. so in the end her attraction went up or not?

 

[Visionist]

1. Clean & Serene since day one
2. Her (lack of) attraction was irrelevant. What was important was my attraction level plummeted, till I just saw her as another opportunity to make bank.

 

[marmel75]

This is where people just don't get it. Being an @sshole is better than being a nice guy but the guy who is a "good guy" will get much farthee than the @sshole.

Being nice isnt about your actions as much as it is about your reasoning for it and your unwillingness to challenge or disagree with a woman because you are afraid it will not allow you to get laid. In fact its a form of manipulation...agreeing with everything someone says in hopes they have sex with you.

Saying you have to learn to be an @sshole simply shows your lack of understanding of how things work. If a woman has a choice between a good guy and an @sshole the good guy wins every time

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

First impressions count. Now you’re only overdoing the assh0le bit just to compensate for previously being weak. That shows butthurt usually. You should have been a little more in between to begin with. That way you wouldn’t have to do any of this. Attraction towards her is going down though so at least there’s that.

 

[ohrein]

Being an ******* is weak. You're using it as a coping tool. It's a lack of emotional strength. I think most guys go from nice guy to ******* then to somewhere in the middle. It's not a good life being an ******* and leaving a trail of destruction behind you. You know deep down it is wrong. You want to be someone who doesn't back down when they need to stand up but who doesn't put their foot down unless it's required. It's a balancing act but once you get it, it becomes natural.

 

[wifehunter]

Smooth...real smooth

 

[Serenity]

That's the typical behavioral pattern of "nice guys", when you can't get her you seek some form of revenge. Go read the stories on r/niceguys, analyze it and try to understand why stories about behaviors such as your own are posted there and ridiculed.

 

[niceguytoalphamale]

That doesn't work I just lost a ****ing awesome girl because I done that BS!!! You can be nice just be a MAN and escalate etc:

 

[Spaz]

Wannabes

 

[Visionist]

That doesn't work I just lost a ****ing awesome girl because I done that BS!!! You can be nice just be a MAN and escalate etc:

If she was awesome, why were you treating her like an a$$hole?

As for the broad in question, she obsessed over me for a while afterwards (for "business" reasons ostensibly) before I got bored of her manipulative cries for attention and blocked her.

 

[guru1000]

When men learn how to properly handle/navigate rejection, they no longer need to change their character to appease.

 

[niceguytoalphamale]

If she was awesome, why were you treating her like an a$$hole?

As for the broad in question, she obsessed over me for a while afterwards (for "business" reasons ostensibly) before I got bored of her manipulative cries for attention and blocked her.

I was being nice originally and she text me so I decided to challenge her by saying her text was pointless.. all I'm saying is this is a low quality thread and far from the truth.

 

[Red Legg]

This is where people just don't get it. Being an @sshole is better than being a nice guy but the guy who is a "good guy" will get much farthee than the @sshole.

Being nice isnt about your actions as much as it is about your reasoning for it and your unwillingness to challenge or disagree with a woman because you are afraid it will not allow you to get laid. In fact its a form of manipulation...agreeing with everything someone says in hopes they have sex with you.

Saying you have to learn to be an @sshole simply shows your lack of understanding of how things work. If a woman has a choice between a good guy and an @sshole the good guy wins every time

Good guys rule...

 

[sph21]

I didn't look at her, I didn't make eye contact, I didn't touch her. I kept a straight face and a detached, dispassionate voice, never smiling even when she would.

Learn more about non verbal communications. You're making yourself at a disadvantage here.

 

[Stallionstud]

Yeah, I’m assuming you’re her boss. Don’t worry she’ll be working for your competitor soon. Probably blow him regularly because of how vastly improved her daily life is around him. Meanwhile you’ll hire a fat replacement.

I’m so glad I don’t know or work with you.

 

[Visionist]

Haha, way to ASSume. I wasn't her boss, but I did make money off of her whilst I cared to. If I hadn't had a problem with attraction, I could have continued to do so, until she left the country anyway. Hell knows where she is now. Was glad to see the end of her.

Likewise kiddo.