What could her intentions be, weird behaviour

[mrmuscles2]

Heres the thing girls find me really attractive and many have a made it more than clear, i also met lots of girls in past who made me question how faithful most women are.

this girl been giving me attention for months so a couple months ago i added her, chatted her up, talked for few days then out of no where a block on messenger i played it cool and moved on, she saw me a week later, unblocked and sent me a "hi we should meet face to face" kind of message ,i was like "sure why not" and twice she kinda flaked on me, she would tell me shes on campus if i wanna meet her and when i say yeah where are you she answers with "iam on the bus on my way home sorry " ... after she done this twice i stopped talking to her, and simply started looking the other way when she walks by .

one night while hanging out at a bar at around 2 in the morning she was walking with this guy on what looked like a date, he didnt seem like a player or anything but the kind of guy you seriously date, ... now heres the issue i saw her, she saw me and we never spoke about it or anything, then a few days ago (about 3 weeks after i seen her with the dude) while walking as usual around campus i spot her coming my way so i looked the other way and pretended to be busy, she tapped on my shoulder, said hi and started talking to me then asked me if i wanna join her and we had a cup of coffee and talked for at least 3 hours, even after i said okay time to go and went my way she found an excuse to walk with me even though she mentioned 10 mins ago that she needed to head to another building, then gave me this very warm handshake and told me its been amazing that she could meet and talk to me and she hopes to see me again .

now look iam no clueless dude and i dont easily trust others, she is introverted, doesnt smoke or drink not a party girl and spends most of her time either at work or sleeping and the occasional hanging out with friends, what really confuses me a bit and kinda makes me not being able to fully trust her is that guy, why was she with a guy 2 AM in the morning and then suddenly after being cold for a month shes super warm again even far more than before and even was the one to initiate things .

 

[dude99]

Heres the thing girls find me really attractive and many have a made it more than clear, i also met lots of girls in past who made me question how faithful most women are.

this girl been giving me attention for months so a couple months ago i added her, chatted her up, talked for few days then out of no where a block on messenger i played it cool and moved on, she saw me a week later, unblocked and sent me a "hi we should meet face to face" kind of message ,i was like "sure why not" and twice she kinda flaked on me, she would tell me shes on campus if i wanna meet her and when i say yeah where are you she answers with "iam on the bus on my way home sorry " ... after she done this twice i stopped talking to her, and simply started looking the other way when she walks by .

one night while hanging out at a bar at around 2 in the morning she was walking with this guy on what looked like a date, he didnt seem like a player or anything but the kind of guy you seriously date, ... now heres the issue i saw her, she saw me and we never spoke about it or anything, then a few days ago (about 3 weeks after i seen her with the dude) while walking as usual around campus i spot her coming my way so i looked the other way and pretended to be busy, she tapped on my shoulder, said hi and started talking to me then asked me if i wanna join her and we had a cup of coffee and talked for at least 3 hours, even after i said okay time to go and went my way she found an excuse to walk with me even though she mentioned 10 mins ago that she needed to head to another building, then gave me this very warm handshake and told me its been amazing that she could meet and talk to me and she hopes to see me again .

now look iam no clueless dude and i dont easily trust others, she is introverted, doesnt smoke or drink not a party girl and spends most of her time either at work or sleeping and the occasional hanging out with friends, what really confuses me a bit and kinda makes me not being able to fully trust her is that guy, why was she with a guy 2 AM in the morning and then suddenly after being cold for a month shes super warm again even far more than before and even was the one to initiate things .

Blocks you. Unblocks you. Asks you to meet, flakes on the meeting. Sees you when she is out with other guys, then wants to meet up with you again. Shakes your hand.

Sounds like your typical girl who isnt interested but wants to throw you bread crumbs because she wants attention.

It isnt the other guy you shouldnt trust. Its her you shouldnt trust.

 

[mrmuscles2]

Blocks you. Unblocks you. Asks you to meet, flakes on the meeting. Sees you when she is out with other guys, then wants to meet up with you again. Shakes your hand.

Sounds like your typical girl who isnt interested but wants to throw you bread crumbs because she wants attention.

It isnt the other guy you shouldnt trust. Its her you shouldnt trust.

well yeah, the other dude is irrelevenat hes a guy whos out to get a girl so its all fair there nothing can be said about that, now she on the other hand acted really weird, right now iam just being friendly to see where it will lead me, not planning on being serious with her anytime soon

 

[soulforge]

Easy.. This other dude peaked her interest, she blocked you, as she had no use for you any longer.

She dated other dude instead, rode his Dik hard.. Things didn't work out!

No she's roping you back in again.. Your the 2nd choice, the back up guy.

Tell her to get fuked

 

[Roober]

Women have two types of friends, girlfriends and boyfriends. If your not fvcking her, you are her girlfriend.

 

[derby1]

ive got a few like this absolute weird as **** they are add me and unfriend me blocked me from whatsapp the morning after a perfectly fine convo, absolute fruit bats

 

[dude99]

well yeah, the other dude is irrelevenat hes a guy whos out to get a girl so its all fair there nothing can be said about that, now she on the other hand acted really weird, right now iam just being friendly to see where it will lead me, not planning on being serious with her anytime soon

Just be 100% indifferent with her. Go date other women and pay this one no mind at all.

 

[mrmuscles2]

You raise some good points guys i did think of all that indeed, she could have me as her back up plan (even though she has been showing interest for a year) but the way she acted is simply weird and confusing to many and right now i lack money and have to take care of some things and this chick works at a good place and there is a chance she can help me get a job to help pay for college, so iam just planning on being friendly, going with the flow and finding a job and not really considiring anything serious .

 

[soulforge]

You raise some good points guys i did think of all that indeed, she could have me as her back up plan (even though she has been showing interest for a year) but the way she acted is simply weird and confusing to many and right now i lack money and have to take care of some things and this chick works at a good place and there is a chance she can help me get a job to help pay for college, so iam just planning on being friendly, going with the flow and finding a job and not really considiring anything serious .

If a girl was interested for a YEAR she would have FUKED you by now... Forget this waister.. Have some self respect..

Show her how much you respect yourself by giving her ZERO attention.. move on!

 

[mrmuscles2]

If a girl was interested for a YEAR she would have FUKED you by now... Forget this waister.. Have some self respect..

Show her how much you respect yourself by giving her ZERO attention.. move on!

I know what i sound like but in reality iam a very laid back person and if a girl doesnt put in as much effort as me or i see some serious red flags i move on, i have a vey low tolerance of bs tbh and my friends sometimes criticize me for this saying i should be purusing girls harder, but hey if she doesnt show as much interest as i show then its useless and i wont humilate myself for a girl, after all shes as human as me and its takes two to tango .

with that being said this girl i suspect has issues, she always blocks me on messenger and then is dying to talk to me face to face, i saw her with a guy and iam 100% sure he's her bf, my friend told me " she has a bf but wants you more than him, she wants to talk to you and be with you without him knowing" ... well all i can say is if she initiates and something happens cool but i aint chasing her... right now she could prove useful in helping me find a job , as a student with a busy schedule its not easy finding a place with good pay that is nice enough to let you arrive late and leave early, but she works at such a place and i heard they're hiring and i really need the money ... so thats why iam just being friendly atm (if she talks to me of course i am not gonna pursue her)

 

[Glassguy]

3 hrs over coffee dude? What??????

 

[RangerMIke]

She thinks she should like you, but you don't cause vagina tingles. No chemistry...move along.

 

[RedScorpion]

but she works at such a place and i heard they're hiring and i really need the money

Okay. This sounds like a weak excuse. Workplaces aren't stupid. They're going to deal with students having jobs there and also needing to prioritize attending classes.

You find a place that's hiring. You mention immediately that you are a student and will need time to attend classes and such. Will this be an issue? Yes/no. Most places will be understanding - or if not, they'll say they're looking for someone more full-time or need someone that can cover those hours. If that place is hiring, apply for that job on your own without her - if you think you can stand possibly working with her.

I'll also add that she sounds off enough that you should just write her off. Be friendly still, etc. but she shows too much up and down interest to be considered anything.

 

[mrmuscles2]

She thinks she should like you, but you don't cause vagina tingles. No chemistry...move along.

I think its something beyond vagina tingles my friend, she has something and wants another thing but i ain't playing that game .

 

[mrmuscles2]

Okay. This sounds like a weak excuse. Workplaces aren't stupid. They're going to deal with students having jobs there and also needing to prioritize attending classes.

You find a place that's hiring. You mention immediately that you are a student and will need time to attend classes and such. Will this be an issue? Yes/no. Most places will be understanding - or if not, they'll say they're looking for someone more full-time or need someone that can cover those hours. If that place is hiring, apply for that job on your own without her - if you think you can stand possibly working with her.

I'll also add that she sounds off enough that you should just write her off. Be friendly still, etc. but she shows too much up and down interest to be considered anything.

Sadly a lot of places dont want students i have been to plenty of places and a lot of them either had crazy hours or straight up told me they dont hire students, so finding a place with good pay that understands your situation is not easy ... and i have to add i have no car i have no place of my own and lack money, i reached such a point i dont go out with friends anymore cause i just cant afford it i come from a very poor background and my our house (Rented one at that) is on the outskirts of a small town so even the bus stop isnt close by and the buses stop coming at 10 pm, which means i have to find a job that :
1- understands iam a student and wont mind giving me the shifts i want
2- is okay with me working 3 days a week
3- has no problem with me taking a few weeks off for exams
4- lets me leave before 10 so i can catch the last bus


iam not planning on dating her even though we same to share a lot of traits and shes as intorverted as me but she has a lot of red flags and i dont need that , but i dont think being friendly should be an issue especially if i do actually manage to get the job i want .

 

[RangerMIke]

I think its something beyond vagina tingles my friend, she has something and wants another thing but i ain't playing that game .

You are letting your ego think for you. Do not kid yourself, chicks that want you are going to make sh!t easy. She is not making things easy, she does not want you. Go find a chick that does, your life will get easier and more fun spending time with chicks that really want you.

 

[mrmuscles2]

You are letting your ego think for you. Do not kid yourself, chicks that want you are going to make sh!t easy. She is not making things easy, she does not want you. Go find a chick that does, your life will get easier and more fun spending time with chicks that really want you.

but iam not pursuing her, in fact i actively try avoiding her, when i see her on campus i turn around and go the other way, i actively try to not speak to her or be invoveld in anything shes doing, and in all fairness shes always the one staring at me and looking for an opportunity to talk to me, whether she says hi or not is really irrelevant as i am not chasing her at all .

 

[RangerMIke]

but iam not pursuing her, in fact i actively try avoiding her, when i see her on campus i turn around and go the other way, i actively try to not speak to her or be invoveld in anything shes doing, and in all fairness shes always the one staring at me and looking for an opportunity to talk to me, whether she says hi or not is really irrelevant as i am not chasing her at all .

None of that matters. The only thing that matters is if she is willing to met you alone on a date. If she is not willing to do than you are wasting emotional energy on a chick that either does not like you or is so hung up on bullsh!t that she isn't going to be any fun. Staring .... flirting, are the ways chicks signal you to do something. That's when you try to make a date. If she meets you out, then the game starts. But you should not be wasting any time thinking about a chick that has not met you on a real date.