"You never initiate"

[lizardking82]

Some women complain that I almost never initiate, yet they don't let more than 12 hours to a day without initiating themselves. How do you handle this, if it happens?

 

[Spaz]

Some women complain that I almost never initiate, yet they don't let more than 12 hours to a day without initiating themselves. How do you handle this, if it happens?

You r supposed to be in this situation.

Continue and ignore.

 

[Fireballs]

In my experience they will complain about you not initiating when their interest level has dropped.

 

[wifehunter]

Whining and complaining, are always bad signs.

 

[Glassguy]

It means that she is the one pursuing. Good work and keep it up.

My response to that has always been "Hey babe. You know how busy I am with everything that I have going on in my busy life. Lets grab a drink _____ and I will make it up to you".

 

[lizardking82]

Well, up to now it seems like you guys are divided. Some think it's a bad sign and low IL, some think it is a good thing. Seems interesting

 

[wifehunter]

Well, up to now it seems like you guys are divided. Some think it's a bad sign and low IL, some think it is a good thing. Seems interesting

she may be trying to wear you down. ..odds are, she's insecure. If you're initiating with her, you're likely not intiating with other plates.

She sounds like a headache to me. I mean, 12 hours? A man needs breathing room!

Also, the equal rights/feminism thing, comes to mind. She may be trying make things fair.

 

[Glassguy]

Well, up to now it seems like you guys are divided. Some think it's a bad sign and low IL, some think it is a good thing. Seems interesting

Send her a random text every now and then to appease her if she had terrible insecurity.

It's easier to increase communication later on than it is to back off after youve blown her phone up....trust me....you're doing fine.

 

[Dash Riprock]

In my experience they will complain about you not initiating when their interest level has dropped.

Wrong.

She wouldn't care or give a s*hit if she had low IL. Quite the opposite.

 

[djthiago1]

Who cares, let her be frustrated. NOW..... if she continues to *nag* about this, you know you have a girl with telephonitis or even worse; someone with low self-esteem who can't stand being alone for an hour.

Great way to weed out the lonelly girls.

 

[wifehunter]

Who cares, let her be frustrated. NOW..... if she continues to *nag* about this, you know you have a girl with telephonitis or even worse; someone with low self-esteem who can't stand being alone for an hour.

Great way to weed out the lonelly girls.

Nagging should be a crime nessitating the death penalty.

Good call.

 

[Roober]

I agree with the side that a highly interested woman will want to feel your presence. You are doing good. Don't conform to what she wants, but maybe up the communication a bit.

I translate those kind of texts as "I wish you were thinking about me a bit more", and this usually happens after things have gone on for a while. She is beginning to feel a deeper connection and wants to know that you care. Remember, a man's gift is his time. If she deserves more of it, there is nothing wrong with increasing the communication a little bit, or being a bit more responsive.

If this is a girl you want to keep around, you don't follow what she says, but maybe increase just a hair. Or throw her a random text. My lady still complains I don't respond enough as did my exwife.
If you don't care about this one, then just ignore and keep doing what your doing.

It is a tricky balancing act, no doubt...

Consider what she said, but make your OWN decision!

 

[mrgoodstuff]

In my experience they will complain about you not initiating when their interest level has dropped.

Why would they be mad your ini

In my experience they will complain about you not initiating when their interest level has dropped.

No they won't say a thing if you stopped initiating and their interest dropped.

 

[Macaframalama]

 

[wifehunter]

BTW...

I tend to disregard/discount comments starting with 'you never'.

Her: You never chase me!

Him: Ok, I'll never do that, ever!

Her: That's not what I meant.

Him: Oh, a mystery now, could you ever be more cryptic?

Her: hmmmfff

Him: Steaks sound good right now, be ready @5pm.

 

[derby1]

"you hardly initiate" means she has really high interest in you, and shes frustrated as **** that shes having to "WONDER" about you !!! and its turning her on more

Keep it up @lizardking82 reply with glassguys text ....RINSE AND REPEAT

 

[Macaframalama]

Agree with Glass and Derby. You can over play it though and easily lose out to a lesser, that is willing to give her attention. What do you want out of it? Throw her a bone from time to time, preferably face time and strike a balance.

 

[lizardking82]

"you hardly initiate" means she has really high interest in you, and shes frustrated as **** that shes having to "WONDER" about you !!! and its turning her on more

Keep it up @lizardking82 reply with glassguys text ....RINSE AND REPEAT

My gut feeling tells me to just watch her actions, as @MidnightCity said. A lot of these girls say they want me to contact them more, but never lose touch anyways and I can have sex or phone sexy and sexting with them almost on demand.

A lot of times, when they come up with this, I tell them "yeah yeah, don't worry, honey, you will soon find a nice, little guy who will call you all the time and you will leave him and come back to me" LOL it has gone to the point where I can make fun of them and they still stick around

 

[Macaframalama]

DONT ever say anything like "well, you have my number too, it wouldnt kill you to hit me up first now and then"

Funny you mention this, as I just replied this to a chic last week, who claimed I ghosted her and it worked out beautifully. I was a little more "frank" or "blunt", borderline rude, but her response afterwards was a complete 180 and kept her in my frame. To a woman that is used to being blown up and has moderate interest, it can ramp it up.

 

[Macaframalama]

A lot of times, when they come up with this, I tell them "yeah yeah, don't worry, honey, you will soon find a nice, little guy who will call you all the time and you will leave him and come back to me" LOL it has gone to the point where I can make fun of them and they still stick around

This is good stuff. Just be sure that you are pulling some and not always pushing. I've overdone it quite a bit in the past myself and while it's amusing to me it also sucks missing out due to poor calibration, if you wanted to bust your nvtt off in her anyways.