Doesn’t she like me or is she using me? Or both?

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Been gaming this chick at the gym. After a conversation about An hour she was pretty quick to give her number when I asked her to workout with me, she was willing to drive 35 minutes to meet me at another gym. Unfortunately the weather ****ed up our plans.

We talk for a while again Saturday.

Last night she hits me up at 11 at night asking me “wyd this weekend?”

I text her I’m free Saturday and we should hit the Spanish club I was telling her about. She responds
“Can you take me to places where you think I can ask for a job to do bottle service? I want to get a job there. I’m down to do the Spanish club too though haha”
I said “yeah I can take you to some spots where they have bottle service. Just wear some tight jeans and heels lol”

She’s like “ok yayyy thankyou”

I had mentioned to her she should get into bottle service to make some money but did not imply getting her a job or ever getting bottle service I have no connection with that anyways

I thought she liked me And texting me at 11 at night was a good sign but at this point I can’t tell if Shes interested or if she’s just using me to network. Maybe it’s both. Should I pursue or no? she’s a dancer trying to “make it” in Hollywood, but at the same time me i really have no connections or made it sound like I did I just flirted with her and told her she should come out with me to some of the spots I frequent.
 

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Probably both, I don’t see the problem here. Sounds like you made a good impression your practically making her life choices for her. Masculine. I generally wouldn’t worry about being used until it’s one sided or obvious.
 

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Try to sleep with her and find out.
Problem is she works with me. So I don't want to make a move on her unless I'm really sure because it will make things awkward. If it was a chick I didn't work with I wouldn't give a ****.
 

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Problem is she works with me. So I don't want to make a move on her unless I'm really sure because it will make things awkward. If it was a chick I didn't work with I wouldn't give a ****.
Don't sh*t where you eat.

Are your options that limited? MONEY is always more important than women. Always.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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Don't sh*t where you eat.

Are your options that limited? MONEY is always more important than women. Always.
I’m my own boss so she can’t hurt my income. It would just make things akward and she could open up her mouth.
 

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If you are your own boss and she works "with" you, doesn't that make her your employee?
 

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If you are your own boss and she works "with" you, doesn't that make her your employee?
She doesn’t work for me. I’m a private personal trainer, she works the front desk at the gym I train my private clients out of.
 

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She doesn’t work for me. I’m a private personal trainer, she works the front desk at the gym I train my private clients out of.
High potential for a cluster fvck up

If you enjoy the drama go for it !
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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She doesn’t work for me. I’m a private personal trainer, she works the front desk at the gym I train my private clients out of.
Oh, okay.
 

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She willingly gave you her number......she texted you at 11pm......you asked her out and she accepted........

Its obvious that she is at least interested. Take her out, have a good time and escalate.

IMO she only mentioned "take me to a place where they have bottle service so I can get a job" for one of 2 reasons:

1.) To get you to take her to a nice place
2.) To throw out a consolation motive as an anti-sloot defense mechanism.

Go have fun with her and enjoy. Dont overthink this.
 
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