Holy moly is it hard to find a woman who is compatible all around

[bigdave17]

I met a real cute bartender who works at my bar last week, 22, no kids, cute, decent body, great personality...come to find out she's a big time pothead who had her license suspended


I met a real cute blonde today who is in school to be a lawyer and I come to find out she's a super insecure trainwreck. She's talking about getting botox and her lips done at 22


Why is it so goddamn difficult to meet a normal, sane mid 20s woman who is attractive, who is not obsessed with social media, who has a decent job and a good head on her shoulders, who didn't have kids young, who doesn't have monster debt, who is not a super insecure trainwreck? In positive news, I'm getting more and more confident around women. I am starting to feel like any woman I talk to would be very lucky to date me.

 

[zekko]

I met a real cute bartender who works at my bar last week, 22, no kids, cute, decent body, great personality...come to find out she's a big time pothead who had her license suspended

The girl makes a living off of peddling alcohol and you're concerned because she's smoked some weed?

 

[ZaCool]

Welcome to the club my friend, i have been looking for a decent gf for the past 2-3 years, and honestly its hard, like really really hard, the number of decent- relationship material girls is declining fast, and usually the good ones are already in a relationship since highschool.

You need high standards to find a good gf, it wont be easy but thats the only way to do it, clubs, bars or any such places are a no go for gfs, sex ? yeah sure, anything more serious than that i dont suggest it ... if she cheats dont date her, if she slept around dont date her, if she's crazy dont date her as well ... sound like common sense but in reality the sentence i just typed disqualified easily 60-70% of chicks ... sad just sad, decency isnt a thing anymore .

I have met so many girls in the past couple of years, some hot some not so hot ... half the chicks i approached after showing interest in me were taken so i stopped purusing them (not about dat life), the other half is either unattractive or very slutty, sometimes even both lol, if i had to estimate i would say out of every 40-50 girls maybe 1 is actually an all over good gf material , but chances are she is in love with her highschool bf ... such girls seem to understand that the world is ****ed up long time before anyone else matures and choose their target and stick to it, if you see a single hot girl whose over 20 years old, be cautions my friend, shes single for a reason, and its up to you to find out that reason and if its as important as other guys think it is .

 

[MatureDJ]

The girl makes a living off of peddling alcohol and you're concerned because she's smoked some weed?

Very logical, Jim.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Probably for the same reason that when you're hiring employees it's very hard to find a 20 year old man who is hard-working, intelligent, precise, attentive, socially competent, humble and ethical.

The more traits you're picky about the less likely you're going to find what you want. You have to compromise. At the moment you are looking for 0.001% of the female population in dive bars where they're not even going to be hanging out. Everyone keeps telling this and you continue moaning and ignoring it.

Anyway this is thread number #2040, you never responded to all the stuff in the last thread so let's not even start.

Send the cute pothead girl my way, I'll give her so many orgasms she'll go off of drugs and get addicted to my manly presence instead. Cheers.

 

[ZaCool]

Dating with a strictly monogamy as goal mindset sucks in general. It's simply an awful way to approach the scene.

When you think it's everyone else with the problem, it's actually you. And you need to adapt slightly to what you are really dealing with, rather than some imagined ideal.

Or else complain, rage-quit incessantly, and relive the same exact things over in a loop.

Unfortunately youre right, i hate to agree with you but these days being decent and wanting just one partner to love and be with is looked down upon ... well not looked down upon exactly but the people who want that are usually considered weird, have issues and "backwards" the word backwards seems to be used often to describe people who want that kind of life, who arent interested in having multiple partners or having lots of sex, and men who even dare to want a woman with that mindset are viciously attacked .

 

[JohnChops]

Dating with a strictly monogamy as goal mindset sucks in general. It's simply an awful way to approach the scene.

When you think it's everyone else with the problem, it's actually you. And you need to adapt slightly to what you are really dealing with, rather than some imagined ideal.

Or else complain, rage-quit incessantly, and relive the same exact things over in a loop.

True that, if you approach women as “this is my future girlfriend” it just takes all the fun right out of it. Date plenty, end up with a few, and then maybe choose one.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Why are you expecting 20 year old women to be making wise life choices? A lot of people continue to make terrible decisions well in to their thirties and forties.

Don't go waiting around for the unicorn forever, because you're going to be waiting a while. Just look out for those that are the right level and genre of crazy. And pro tip, 22 year old females are generally doing whatever the fck they want, whenever the fck they want.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Women are really not that big of a deal once you start to stop pedalizing them. I don't even want to be around women most of the time, a lot of them are Disney movie clingy robots with no unique way of understanding love on their own.

I'm in monk mode pregame right now, I just don't need the baggage right now.

 

[devilkingx2]

I met a real cute bartender who works at my bar last week, 22, no kids, cute, decent body, great personality...come to find out she's a big time pothead who had her license suspended


I met a real cute blonde today who is in school to be a lawyer and I come to find out she's a super insecure trainwreck. She's talking about getting botox and her lips done at 22


Why is it so goddamn difficult to meet a normal, sane mid 20s woman who is attractive, who is not obsessed with social media, who has a decent job and a good head on her shoulders, who didn't have kids young, who doesn't have monster debt, who is not a super insecure trainwreck? In positive news, I'm getting more and more confident around women. I am starting to feel like any woman I talk to would be very lucky to date me.

Why would a woman who has no flaws be single?

There are plenty of perfect girls, they got locked down 5 years before you met them

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

I'm in monk mode pregame right now, I just don't need the baggage right now.

This. I’m literally happier and more chilled when I’m not dating at the moment, my life is BS free.

 

[Von]

This. I’m literally happier and more chilled when I’m not dating at the moment, my life is BS free.

There is a famous saying:

"Guys in a relationship wish they be Single and free"
"Guys who are Single wish they be in a relationship"

It's true ...Relationships are a full-time job
It's true ... Dating is a full time job too

Hence to go for someone who is drama-free, relatively low maintenance (in terms of emotional needs and even financial).

When you are in LTR that works and is fun/efficient.... What a stress relief
Otherwise better be single

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Sounds like @bigdave17 is FINALLY making some progress! This is ground breaking man. Congratulations you are finally waking up and seeing reality. Keep progressing and talking to younger chicks.

Why are you judging the lawyer chick about insecurities? Were you not talking about getting hair plugs or some shït? I'm pretty sure that was you! Sounds like the lawyer chick might be right up your alley. Ask her out man, comon man.

A lot of woman self medicate with pot for anxiety. If its not weed, it's probably booze.
Better you find out now than later, get use to it man.