B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
telling this girl I used to date that my anxiety ruined our relationship. I can't stand the thought of her thinking I'm weak. How do I deal with this?
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Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
By doing nothing. Move on. It's over. Learn and get better. The more you try to "fix" things, the bigger hole you'll dig. By anxiety, do you mean PA or general anxiety? And if she left you because of it (either issue) she's the one with the problem not you. No one's perfect.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I can't deal with it being over. She tried so hard to make it work but I put this emotional wall up. I wasn't dealing with my issues and that's my problem, not hers. I'm a man and I'm supposed to be a protector and provider. And I wanna be alpha too but I'm aspergers. I feel like im an alpha soul trapped in an aspergers mind. The anxiety was general.
You decide on the best course of action to best repair your personal issues for the next girl. It may even go as far as requiring psych therapy and/or professionally prescribed drugs in that process.
Your admission of your anxiety issue was taken as a sign of personal weakness with this girl…
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I don't want another girl...
You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
and I can't deal with her thinking I'm weak...
Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
Ok, your best bet then is to go NC for a least a few months to try and get her to miss you. This does work sometimes. Then, reach out, and ask her to do something non-romantic like lunch to "catch up." See where it goes, but DON'T PUSH or get NEEDY. You'll kill it. Remember, full NC for now. Good luck.
That’s an anxiety driven response. Deal with that issue.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
and?
Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
You're not "Weak." We all have issues. She'll think you're weak if you PUSH, keep contacting her, or acting all NEEDY. Date other women to practice and get your mojo back. I know Asperger's is tough and can make relationships challenging, but we all have our s*hit to deal with.
Peace and Quiet
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Cant do that sorry...
Then continue to stress and worry, just don’t harm yourself.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I want her back
Regret is Always about the past. Recognize the past for what it was and was not, and live in the present while continuing to improve yourself for your future…
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Vantagepoint34
Master Don Juan
OP you are fine the way you are. No need to waste money on anything. You are who you are and you don't need to change for anyone. Strength in our society is just non existant. Most decisions are made passively because you gave no importance to begin with. Live on brother!
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I'm not fine the way I am. What do you mean gave no importance? The regret I feel for the decision I made is very important to me...