interested why women attention *****?

[derby1]

Im always interested in the psychology behind this

but i actually know of women, who instead of going out and having a good evening "enjoying life"
theyll sit there messaging 10 different men.... idle chit chat

taking a family pic and the kids kind of squeezed in the corner to make sure the AW takes centre stage etc

activating deactiving fb

Ive had AW's before actually initiate chat with me first, ie put there number in my phone and message me first after ive given my number from OLD ....i mean WTF, most relationship coaches would say great!! high IL if shes intiated........nah.....means nothing in 2018

do they not realise they are wasting there life aswell

I can understand women like to feel desired,
I like it when a few women message me but ffs when my phone goes off to much it absolutely gets on my d4ck......

 

[Roober]

It is actually very simple...

All human beings want validation; men and women alike. The amount of validation they seek is dependent on their level of insecurity. Since women tend to focus more on their exterior, they will do whatever they can to get validation on their appearance. The amount they do it is directly proportional to their insecurity.

 

[fanatic22]

Women are acutely aware of how much their value is based on their physical beauty. Instagram seems to have exacerbated the situation, where there is an actual count for how many men/women view them as an object of desire. Thus, they deal with their gigantic insecurities using orbiters.

 

[fanatic22]

It is actually very simple...

All human beings want validation; men and women alike. The amount of validation they seek is dependent on their level of insecurity. Since women tend to focus more on their exterior, they will do whatever they can to get validation on their appearance. The amount they do it is directly proportional to their insecurity.

We wrote the exact same comment independently, lol.

 

[derby1]

some of these women are perfectly attractive women though or atleast not ugly....shouldnt they be enjoying life instead of worrying what dave in another city miles away is texting them?

PS thanks for the clear explanation....understood

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

I had this girl match with me on an OLD site last night. Checked out her profile and I kid you not, this is exactly what it said:

"Let me tell you how this is going to go. If you capture my interest enough, we will have a conversation for a while but as soon as you mention meeting up I will probably just stop replying. And if I do for some reason agree to a date with you, I'll probably just ignore you afterwards because I seem unable of doing this whole online dating thing!"

It's like everything I hate about dating condensed into a single f***ing paragraph.

Immature? Check.
Attention wh*ring? Check.
Time wasting? Check.
Arrogant? Check.

I mean, it's wasting her time as well to be like that. And I was looking at my message history, I've had literally 20 girls who have this attitude. And I've messaged something like 60 just to see if I can get a good conversation (nope).

Absolutely mad. It seems like some women (particularly younger ones) don't have the ladyballs to actually go on dates but just use OLD and texting as a way to validate their egos.

It's basically ego m*sturbation for them, they like moaning about being single and how unfair it is but they have no intention or even desire to be in a relationship.

 

[derby1]

It's basically ego m*sturbation for them, they like moaning about being single and how unfair it is but they have no intention of actually going on dates.

thats what we discussed as you know......I mean for christs sake theyll even text you first!! if you give them your number!! with no intention of dating you i find that weird as fck!!

this is why newbies should not waste more than 4-5 texts a time on a bird

 

[derby1]

they like moaning about being single and how unfair it is

any woman on social media who is slightly attractive, that puts memes about how and why there still single, what it basically means is my inbox has gone a little dry ive got no intention of dating anyone, but if a few guys could hit me up , (which they do like clockwork)

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

thats what we discussed as you know......I mean for christs sake theyll even text you first!! if you give them your number!! with no intention of dating you i find that weird as fck!!

this is why newbies should not waste more than 4-5 texts a time on a bird

I posted that thread a few weeks back, had this chick add me. Texted me first, chatted, arranged a date, sent me a bunch of selfies and told me "Chat soon xx" and then blocked and deleted me the next day.

I'm not going to lie, the constant irrationality has made me really quite jaded. I don't give a f*** what a woman tells me now, I don't buy it unless she's making serious effort to see me.

It's good in a way because I cut out all the BS, but at the same time it depresses me because I'm turning into a real cynic who doubts everything he hears.

 

[derby1]

It's good in a way because I cut out all the BS, but at the same time it depresses me

if i hadnt have found this forum and corey wayne id have been like a headless chicken, id have messaged the woman thinking im gonna meet her like what "NORMAL" people "USED" to do.......only for her to vanish

 

[JayAce]

I posted that thread a few weeks back, had this chick add me. Texted me first, chatted, arranged a date, sent me a bunch of selfies and told me "Chat soon xx" and then blocked and deleted me the next day.

I'm not going to lie, the constant irrationality has made me really quite jaded. I don't give a f*** what a woman tells me now, I don't buy it unless she's making serious effort to see me.

It's good in a way because I cut out all the BS, but at the same time it depresses me because I'm turning into a real cynic who doubts everything he hears.

i feel you guys.

i would say 80% of my OLD inbox is like the type of woman you're describing

i've had luck on OLD in the past, but i will say the times I've used it in the last year... it's been straight up laughable almost.

i've had so many promising "leads" die as well. we'd be having decent convos, she would text me first, etc and the sec I bring up meeting up... crickets and that's a ballgame

it's almost like clockwork now

 

[derby1]

we'd be having decent convos, she would text me first, etc and the sec I bring up meeting up...

absolute weirdos, i agree fully with you aswell, to this new breed where they initiate!!!!!!! how strange

this is why you keep your texts exactly the same as you would with a genuine High IL woman, 4-5 texts max leave the convo ...rinse and repeat, sorting a date within 48 hours if not YOUR GONE ASWELL...

Any faffing!! Cease attention, for a week and try once more! We only ever ask a woman twice to meet up

 

[JayAce]

absolute weirdos, i agree fully with you aswell, to this new breed where they initiate!!!!!!! how strange

this is why you keep your texts exactly the same as you would with a genuine High IL woman, 4-5 texts max leave the convo ...rinse and repeat, sorting a date within 48 hours if not YOUR GONE ASWELL...

Any faffing!! Cease attention, for a week and try once more! We only ever ask a woman twice to meet up

I had one woman last year that I matched with. We sent a few msgs back and forth before exchanging numbers and I brought up hanging out. Instead of doing the disapearing act, she made an excuse of not having any money for two weeks till she got paid. (for **** I know I was like maybe she's telling the truth) so I just replied "hit me up if times change" and moved on.

This same woman messaged me like 2 months in a row, but only in the middle of the night on weekends. Sometimes I would be up and other times I'd be sleeping. She said the same gist every weekend "I'm drunk. I'm sorry for keeping on texting you". And then the couple times I did reply out like 8 weeks she would go on about how she was having panic attacks, etc

Some of these women...

They use OLD as ego masturbation like you said. This woman had no intention to meet up with me or she wouldn't have told me all of the things she said via text about having panic attacks, issues, etc

Most of these women on OLD have more baggage than a airport baggage claim

i always remind myself of that when these same women pull a vanishing act

 

[derby1]

from now on if a woman who serves you no purpose messages you at anytime after 7pm!

Reply at midday the next day with "sorry was out with friends, How are you? etc"

this sub conciously tells her your time is valuable and you are not here to fck about...however its beautiful because you have remained polite

also the word "friends" to a woman = OTHER WOMEN

 

[Roober]

I had this girl match with me on an OLD site last night. Checked out her profile and I kid you not, this is exactly what it said:

"Let me tell you how this is going to go. If you capture my interest enough, we will have a conversation for a while but as soon as you mention meeting up I will probably just stop replying. And if I do for some reason agree to a date with you, I'll probably just ignore you afterwards because I seem unable of doing this whole online dating thing!"

It's like everything I hate about dating condensed into a single f***ing paragraph.

Immature? Check.
Attention wh*ring? Check.
Time wasting? Check.
Arrogant? Check.

I mean, it's wasting her time as well to be like that. And I was looking at my message history, I've had literally 20 girls who have this attitude. And I've messaged something like 60 just to see if I can get a good conversation (nope).

Absolutely mad. It seems like some women (particularly younger ones) don't have the ladyballs to actually go on dates but just use OLD and texting as a way to validate their egos.

It's basically ego m*sturbation for them, they like moaning about being single and how unfair it is but they have no intention or even desire to be in a relationship.

And this is why most guys here stress the importance of setting up a date quickly.

What is our most valuable asset? Our time. Lets not waste it on women's egos or insecurity.

If you limit your conversations, you essentially spend a couple minutes of your time, not much more than taking a dump.

I think the best way to OLD is to just "like" everyone, then you get to pick and choose those that like you back. Very minimal time investment and it puts you in the driver's seat because you know they at least find you attractive

 

[sosousage]

because most of them only purpose in life is to socialise, shine, and shine even more to the point where she interests possible rich, and hopefully fit and handsome man, so she doesnt have to work anymore

usually women dont invent new things, dont create companies, dont set new paths, its all what men do

if you dont complement them or you say they are ugly then they fail at their only desired purpose.

 

[Stallionstud]

I had this girl match with me on an OLD site last night. Checked out her profile and I kid you not, this is exactly what it said:

"Let me tell you how this is going to go. If you capture my interest enough, we will have a conversation for a while but as soon as you mention meeting up I will probably just stop replying. And if I do for some reason agree to a date with you, I'll probably just ignore you afterwards because I seem unable of doing this whole online dating thing!"

It's like everything I hate about dating condensed into a single f***ing paragraph.

Immature? Check.
Attention wh*ring? Check.
Time wasting? Check.
Arrogant? Check.

I mean, it's wasting her time as well to be like that. And I was looking at my message history, I've had literally 20 girls who have this attitude. And I've messaged something like 60 just to see if I can get a good conversation (nope).

Absolutely mad. It seems like some women (particularly younger ones) don't have the ladyballs to actually go on dates but just use OLD and texting as a way to validate their egos.

It's basically ego m*sturbation for them, they like moaning about being single and how unfair it is but they have no intention or even desire to be in a relationship.

Glad it’s not just me than. I’ve seriously wondered wtf is going on. Constantly change my tactics, nothing works

 

[Serenity]

Filtering is really the most powerful tool at our disposal here. I've spent a great deal of time contemplating behavioral patterns after various interactions. After a little while I could spot them pretty early and save my time for better things.

They're insecure, not just a little bit, it's a whole lot. Especially on OLD, that's a fvcking pool of pure desperation. Not just the women, the men too. The only difference is that insecure men seek physical attention while insecure women seek emotional attention, it's rooted in the same desperation though. It's easy for us men on this male dominated forum to think this is a womens problem, but that's only half of it. Many men are also pathetically attention seeking.

I don't think we have to look much farther than to ourselves to understand what drives such behavior. We are all capable of it, but some are driven by it while others are not. I get where their AW behavior is coming from, knowing that I also know they can only help themselves. They'll have to find their way alone out of their pit of desperation, just like I found my way out of my pit, no amount of female attention could truly have cured me. No amount of male attention will cure them.

 

[derby1]

Glad it’s not just me than. I’ve seriously wondered wtf is going on. Constantly change my tactics, nothing works

refer to post 12 thats the only mindset you need its not up to you to figure out if they have BPD or are infact an attention *****

4-5 texts max .... a woman should actually be a hindress to you in a playful manner

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

The latest thing for me seems to be chicks asking for a date pretty much straight away the minute we get talking.

For some reason I find these girls pretty much always ghost me after the date or drop me before we even get to that point. The easier it is to arrange the date, the less reliable and more nuts they seem to be.