So she rejected me.. but now is going to give me valentines card? Do I give her another chance?

[newtothis92]

WTF.

Follow up to previous thread. There's a girl from work I liked, I tried kissing her on nights out only to get the dreaded cheek. Eventually I asked her on date, she agreed then ended up bailing. She then asked me on date. We made a definite date, again she bailed (saying she's not looking for anything right now - rejected basically). I went NC on her since then which has been about a month, just saying Hi, hello, in passing in person.. nothing deeper, would never allow it. Here's the funny/strange thing.. apparently she's upset I don't talk to her anymore and is going to give me a valentines card! (her friend from work told me this). She keeps messaging me/sending snapchat pictures which I ignore unless she leaves a question. She ended up apologising to me and said she does like me and 'should have given me a chance', but was scared of getting close to someone she works with.

Do I give her a 3rd chance? Or leave it be. I'm never chasing her again as her actions never match her words. She seems like a shy/awkward girl but it's like drawing blood from stone. In person she's never flirty/all over me like I'm used to from girls and she plays these childish games. I kinda suspect she likes me and finds me decently attractive (I'm above average), but doesn't desire me. She used to have a **** buddy from work (he left), sent pics to another guy and was casually sleeping with some other dude not long ago... so she's not an innocent little prude.

 

[Murk]

That f*ck buddy ruined it, sharing pics with another guy. My ex would never let me record (to her knowledge) any sex due to a previous ex threatening her with the footage when she left him. Just keep doing what your doing and ignore her.

 

[newtothis92]

You think I should just leave it now?

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

She's already bailed on you like three times, you should be ignoring this woman because she's treating you like s***. Going back over and over just means she'll keep treating you like crud.

 

[newtothis92]

Ok. Cut her out and leave it is what my friend suggested too

 

[nismo-4]

Ditch this bytch and move on! She just wants you as an orbiter.

If you're not first, you're last. She wouldn't be scared to get next to someone from work if he looked like Channing Tatum.

Alpha gets laid, beta gets played. You're a f**kin' android Match-3 game. She's upset you're ignoring her because you went from beta to useless.

Case closed.

 

[MisterMike]

See what the card says, perhaps? Maybe she's just trying to spark something for her ego on Valentines Day. I don't see any advantage to changing anything you're doing at this moment.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She's already bailed on you like three times, you should be ignoring this woman because she's treating you like s***. Going back over and over just means she'll keep treating you like crud.

This.

 

[newtothis92]

It's gonna be hard to resist. But I think I'll have to.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

It's gonna be hard to resist. But I think I'll have to.

Mate, she's a piece of s*** and is playing you. She's got no genuine interest because she doesn't value you.

Thus it shouldn't be hard for you or "difficult to resist", it should be easy. Look at this with the same contempt she treats you with - go out and nail some decent cuties that treat you well. She will probably be green with envy and regret treating you like this.

 

[newtothis92]

Thing is, her friend keeps saying she really likes me and knows she ****ed up so is trying to win me back..
She knows I am seeing another girl now which is making her act this way I think, from jealousy... trying to see if she can still have me.

It sucks but it is what it is what it is.

 

[newtothis92]

Also, I watch Corey Wayne and he probably wouldn't suggest burning this bridge completely.

 

[Billtx49]

trying to see if she can still have me.

Do you understand now ?
That’s all it is, it’s probably only an ego pump for her own personal benefit, which more than likely does not include you…
btw - her friend is probably playing you also if she’s one of her close female friends.

 

[soulforge]

See what the card says, perhaps? Maybe she's just trying to spark something for her ego on Valentines Day. I don't see any advantage to changing anything you're doing at this moment.

Nah fuk the card.. What new Revelation is a fuking card going to bring.

Just look at the character she already is... She has banged other dudes, yet she is playing the innocent with you.

If she valued him, OP wouldn't be on here, posting dumb chit like this right now.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Do you understand now ?
That’s all it is, it’s probably only an ego pump for her own personal benefit, which more than likely does not include you…
btw - her friend is probably playing you also if she’s one of her close female friends.

So pump her ego up and go use it to please another guy?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Mate, she's a piece of s*** and is playing you. She's got no genuine interest because she doesn't value you.

Thus it shouldn't be hard for you or "difficult to resist", it should be easy. Look at this with the same contempt she treats you with - go out and nail some decent cuties that treat you well. She will probably be green with envy and regret treating you like this.

Doing this will be considered taking care of yourself.

 

[MisterMike]

Nah fuk the card.. What new Revelation is a fuking card going to bring.

Just look at the character she already is... She has banged other dudes, yet she is playing the innocent with you.

If she valued him, OP wouldn't be on here, posting dumb chit like this right now.

Probably none, I just don't see the point of jumping the gun or doing anything about a situation that hasn't happened yet.