I want to bang my exes friend

[captain55]

So i just broke up with my hb 8/10 ex three months ago and her roommate (who is one of my exes good friends) moved in towards the end of our relationship is also hot as ****.

My exes friend contacted me two months ago once randomly asking me something about a stock I mentioned to her which I found weird...

And then just contacted me yesterday through Facebook asking me if I ended up getting my security deposit back when I moved out because she was trying to figure out her situation for when she left. Which I also found slightly odd...almost like an excuse to talk to me.

After the conversation ended I said

Me “by the way I made some new friends that I think you’d click with. We are going for drinks Friday and then hitting this Spanish club after if your down”

Her “hell yeah I’m so down! (Then she Gives me her number ) Hit me up! I’ve been trying to make friends out here but everyone is old. I need to make some new friends out here.”
“Maybe that’s why I feel like I need to go back home because I can’t find anyone to just kick it with out here”

Me “ Sounds good”


So anyways fellas

1. do you think this chick know I want to bang her or thinks I genuinely just want to introduce her to new friends? I mean she’s hot she can’t be that naive.

What I do have going for me is she heard me giving my hot ass ex orgasms all the time in the other room and she knows my ex is hot as **** so I have some status. Plus I don’t think she really likes my ex and may be a bit jealous of her. She may bang me for validation or to one up my ex.

I mean ....She can’t REALLY think that it’s cool to give her number out to her Friends ex boyfriend? My ex would probably attack her if she found out

 

[dustmuffin]

I think she is open to bang if you play your cards right. I would have invited her out for drinks just the two of us. It's easier to get a lay that way.

 

[captain55]

I think she is open to bang if you play your cards right. I would have invited her out for drinks just the two of us. It's easier to get a lay that way.

Well that’s the plan I’m just gonna show up with one friend probably....but I needed to cover my ass. Can you imagine if they get in a fight (which they may since my ex is bpd and fights with everyone) and she rubs in my exes face “guess what your ex tried to **** me” and shows her a screenshot of me asking her out for drinks? I’m trying to keep this hush hush. Right now if my ex finds out I can always say i was just trying to introduce her to new friends. Don’t need my ex slashing my tires

 

[Billtx49]

If her friend is using weird excuses to contact you she may be a spy for your Ex. The number one choice for an Ex to use post split is one of her best friends to accomplish this. Number two and three are your friends and your family.
BPD’s do spy, mine did.

Or the friend really wants you, but it would be highly unusual for a girl to hit on her roommates Ex. Find out, but a nasty future situation could develop if your violent BPD Ex finds out and loses it…
I personally think it’s a crazy idea.

 

[El Payaso]

If it were me, I would f*ck her just to spite my ex. F*ck that b*tch.

 

[captain55]

If her friend is using weird excuses to contact you she may be a spy for your Ex. The number one choice for an Ex to use post split is one of her best friends to accomplish this. Number two and three are your friends and your family.
BPD’s do spy, mine did.

Or the friend really wants you, but it would be highly unusual for a girl to hit on her roommates Ex. Find out, but a nasty future situation could develop if your violent BPD Ex finds out and loses it…
I personally think it’s a crazy idea.

Spying on social media is one thing ....but I doubt this chick would go out of her way to spy on me in person even if my ex asked her to. And giving me her number? No way my ex would ever let that happen. She knows she’s hot and that if I got her roommate out I would make a move. Unless she wants her roommate to **** me lol.

 

[captain55]

If it were me, I would f*ck her just to spite my ex. F*ck that b*tch.

If she’s down I will.

 

[marmel75]

That should be every dudes goal is to bang his ex's best friend

 

[Glassguy]

If she was spying she would have disappeared once you invited her out.
Kudos for you for asking her out and going for the kill. Get her out, have fun, be confident and make your intentions know. In no way way mention your ex.

Bang the fvck out of her and keep hitting it. Not for spite of your ex, but because she is hot and wants to fvck.

 

[Glassguy]

If I was in the OP's shoes, I would meet her out and ditch the friend. If he is a true friend he will understand.

If she starts bringing up the ex, I would just smile and say "You didnt really meet up with me to talk about her...did you?". Ditch any convo's about the ex asap. Put the focus only on the 2 of you. I would pay extreme attention to her body language and HOW she says certain things. Chances are she is wanting to find out what the fvck was going on in the next room during the relationship with the ex.....and if the sex was really good they have talked about it either before or after the break up.

The do's and donts:

1.) Avoid convo about the ex. If she is brought up, speak nicely about her but show indifference. "Yeah I am glad she and I are both doing well. It was a good relationship while it lasted, but I am enjoying myself now to" and move on.
2.) Drink just enough that you both have your juices flowing. Dont get smashed. You dont want to smash this chick and then later have her questioning either one of your motives due to the alcohol.
3.) Have your place straightened up before you meet her. Have a plan ready to get her back to your place. If she is into a certain type of music, tell her after a few drinks "Hey I dont want to cut this convo short because I am having a really good time, but I dont want to drink too much and have to get back home either. You still like _____ music, right? Lets swing over by my place and listen to some and hang out for a bit. But you cant keep me up too late because I have to work in the morning"
4.) Whether or not you bang her, keep your mouth shut about it. You will only ruin your chances of hitting it again if you go telling the wrong people and it gets back to your ex. However, if she makes it intentionally known that she is ****ing you then she obviously likes you and doesnt give a shyte how the ex feels about it.

I am going to assume that you have thought this chick was hot when you dated the ex but dont mention THAT while out with her. Just show her through kino (hand on the small of her back while leaning in to talk to her, lightly touching her hand/arm, etc). She will get the drift. If you outright tell her that you have wanted to fvck her for a while, she will see you as someone who will also be looking around for more if you would end up liking her and dating.

Leave the past in the past and have a good time with her. Its a blank slate and she is waiting for you to cover it with your paint bro.

Keep us posted.

 

[captain55]

If I was in the OP's shoes, I would meet her out and ditch the friend. If he is a true friend he will understand.

If she starts bringing up the ex, I would just smile and say "You didnt really meet up with me to talk about her...did you?". Ditch any convo's about the ex asap. Put the focus only on the 2 of you. I would pay extreme attention to her body language and HOW she says certain things. Chances are she is wanting to find out what the fvck was going on in the next room during the relationship with the ex.....and if the sex was really good they have talked about it either before or after the break up.

The do's and donts:

1.) Avoid convo about the ex. If she is brought up, speak nicely about her but show indifference. "Yeah I am glad she and I are both doing well. It was a good relationship while it lasted, but I am enjoying myself now to" and move on.
2.) Drink just enough that you both have your juices flowing. Dont get smashed. You dont want to smash this chick and then later have her questioning either one of your motives due to the alcohol.
3.) Have your place straightened up before you meet her. Have a plan ready to get her back to your place. If she is into a certain type of music, tell her after a few drinks "Hey I dont want to cut this convo short because I am having a really good time, but I dont want to drink too much and have to get back home either. You still like _____ music, right? Lets swing over by my place and listen to some and hang out for a bit. But you cant keep me up too late because I have to work in the morning"
4.) Whether or not you bang her, keep your mouth shut about it. You will only ruin your chances of hitting it again if you go telling the wrong people and it gets back to your ex. However, if she makes it intentionally known that she is ****ing you then she obviously likes you and doesnt give a shyte how the ex feels about it.

I am going to assume that you have thought this chick was hot when you dated the ex but dont mention THAT while out with her. Just show her through kino (hand on the small of her back while leaning in to talk to her, lightly touching her hand/arm, etc). She will get the drift. If you outright tell her that you have wanted to fvck her for a while, she will see you as someone who will also be looking around for more if you would end up liking her and dating.

Leave the past in the past and have a good time with her. Its a blank slate and she is waiting for you to cover it with your paint bro.

Keep us posted.

My plan was to have her meet me at my house and then have my buddy drive us so we can drink. We were gonna hit this upscale lounge first and have a few drinks.. ..then hit the club for salsa dancing which she’s totally into (she’s Spanish). If she’s into me at the lounge I’ll game her at the club. If she acts weird or I get a strange vibe, I’ll still be at a club full of hot Spanish chicks and my Friday night won’t be ruined.

But your saying I should hang out 1 on 1 with her? Not sure if she’s expecting that...I was just gonna tell my friend before hand if she’s feeling me at the lounge to do his own thing

 

[Glassguy]

My plan was to have her meet me at my house and then have my buddy drive us so we can drink. We were gonna hit this upscale lounge first and have a few drinks.. ..then hit the club for salsa dancing which she’s totally into (she’s Spanish). If she’s into me at the lounge I’ll game her at the club. If she acts weird or I get a strange vibe, I’ll still be at a club full of hot Spanish chicks and my Friday night won’t be ruined.

But your saying I should hang out 1 on 1 with her? Not sure if she’s expecting that...I was just gonna tell my friend before hand if she’s feeling me at the lounge to do his own thing

Having her meet at your place is perfect. Beginning there makes it easy to end things there.

Great plan and good luck

 

[captain55]

Well I texted her tonight telling her to meet me at my house and we were gonna go from there and she responded
“Damn tomorrow tonight is a no go for me. I had plans with a coworker but if anything changes I’ll let you know. Thanks for the invite though I definitely want to meet your friends and see some cool spots lmk next time ”

Also saw her commenting on my exes posts on social media today being friendly lol so they aren’t beefing. My guess is she just got cold feet. Took her a while to respond to the text and I doubt she really has plans with a coworker lol.

 

[captain55]

I think what Killed it was when I texted her I didn’t realize I already had her number...there was an old convo months ago when my ex borrowed her phone saying “hey it’s me I’m ok Ashley’s phone come meet us”

My guess is the chick saw that brief conversation between my ex and her on her phone and it gave her cold feet or something. Who knows tho...maybe she has plans with my ex tomorrow lol

I responded “ok let me know. We might be going out somewhere tomorrow night too”

She responded “ok thanks”


Damn I was really hoping to bang her she gave me her number so easily. Would of been the ultimate revenge, and she’s hot. Oh well

 

[captain55]

update

When she flaked I confronted her with “do you feel weird because of Ashley (my ex)”

And she responded “no I don’t but if I do come out I’ll probably meet you there because I don’t want her thinking anything funny. I know your just trying to show me the Latin community and I’m so down for that because I don’t know any spots here. Maybe I’ll bring my coworker she’s Cuban and mad chill where are you guys gonna be?”

What’s strange is how she said “I don’t want her thinking anything funny” referring to my ex. How would my ex know if you don’t open your mouth!!!

All I know is if she comes out im making a move. Love Dominicans chicks

 

[devilkingx2]

update

When she flaked I confronted her with “do you feel weird because of Ashley (my ex)”

And she responded “no I don’t but if I do come out I’ll probably meet you there because I don’t want her thinking anything funny. I know your just trying to show me the Latin community and I’m so down for that because I don’t know any spots here. Maybe I’ll bring my coworker she’s Cuban and mad chill where are you guys gonna be?”

What’s strange is how she said “I don’t want her thinking anything funny” referring to my ex. How would my ex know if you don’t open your mouth!!!

All I know is if she comes out im making a move. Love Dominicans chicks

don't get your hopes up, she wants to bring a friend and said "if" she goes, but that's still more of a positive response than I would've expected after a flake

 

[Glassguy]

@captain55 Dont put too much stock on what she says, rather what she does.

Just invite her out the next time. I wouldnt show too much interest though. Maybe say "Hey we are going to such and such place tomorrow. Bring your friend and we can all hang out and have a good time"

I would certainly not initiate anymore contact with her if she declined again or came up with an excuse. Simply "No problem. You have my number if you want to get together and hang out" and leave it.

There is an ENORMOUS amount of power in walking away. Obviously it will only help if she is interested.

Throw it out there, if she bites then reel her in. If she doesnt, dont worry too much about it because if her interest is high she will come back around. Make her invest a little also and make her wonder why you arent blowing her phone up and must have other options.

 

[captain55]

don't get your hopes up, she wants to bring a friend and said "if" she goes, but that's still more of a positive response than I would've expected after a flake

Can her IL overcome her morals though? Remember I said she oddly contacted me twice through social media. I found it strange so I invited her out with my friends and sure enough she gives me the number (wasn’t expecting it)

I feel like she gave me her number because she likes me and it was out of impulse. Obviously she knows on a moral level it would be wrong to hang out with me and is backing out now. When I asked her if she’s feeling weird because of my ex she responded with

“No I don’t but if I come out I’ll probably just meet you there because I don’t want her thinking anything funny. I know your just trying to introduce me the Latin community. I’m so down with that because I don’t know any places out here. Let me know where you guys are gonna be tomorrow and I’ll try to come out with my coworker”

I mean she can’t be that naive. Does she really think I give a **** about showing her the Latin community? I feel like she’s just trying to cover her ass in case my ex finds out. It would look worse if she’s met me one on one but with a coworker she can just tell my ex she’s didn’t come alone and didn’t meet me at my house..... in case she finds out

 

[captain55]

@captain55 Dont put too much stock on what she says, rather what she does.

Just invite her out the next time. I wouldnt show too much interest though. Maybe say "Hey we are going to such and such place tomorrow. Bring your friend and we can all hang out and have a good time"

I would certainly not initiate anymore contact with her if she declined again or came up with an excuse. Simply "No problem. You have my number if you want to get together and hang out" and leave it.

There is an ENORMOUS amount of power in walking away. Obviously it will only help if she is interested.

Throw it out there, if she bites then reel her in. If she doesnt, dont worry too much about it because if her interest is high she will come back around. Make her invest a little also and make her wonder why you arent blowing her phone up and must have other options.

Well after I told her where we are gonna be she said “ok sounds good I’ll try to make it if not another time” I didn’t respond.

I will say one thing, I don’t think this girl is getting ****ed because when I lived with her she wasn’t getting ****ed. I think she would like the idea of a man pursuing her. The only thing I have going against me is I’m her friends/roommates ex

 

[marmel75]

Just relax and dont make a big deal out of it...just tell her "Cool, no worries, maybe some other time" and then go from there...ive gotten several chicks out that way and banged about half...you just keep doing your thing with other women, one time or another they will be bored and you'll invite them out and they will come and then you make things happen...

The key to this is to genuinely have multiple other women to spend time with so you arent constantly hitting her up...maybe once a month or every 3 weeks or something check back with her...