No show then apologises an hour after

[derby1]

Basically had a date planned but actually know her socially as well this isn't an online stranger,

I text her an aloof message, about what to wear an hour before the date aswell but my gut was already telling me,
She didn't read at first BUT then messaged me 2 hours after date saying

As "she hadn't heard from me on the day" she presumed it was OFF, then basically still hadn't heard from me, OH Fck she feels guilty"


I god dam spoke to her the night before!!! she want me to camp on her lawn day of the date or something??

I had kept low contact all week and she has shown nothing but HIGH IL

She's thrown me a bit of a curveball. With her "sorry aloof oops didn't realise we were still on men usually message me on the daytime(I spoke the night before so this is bs unless she has dementia)"

How is best to handle seeing as I know her and we generally get on

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

School boy error.

Always tell women to text you before they leave. If she ghosts or goes N/C next her.

 

[derby1]

I spoke to her on the phone the night before and told her to phone me as she leaves work the following day....

I then worked nights so would have been in bed most of the day she knows this we've also kept low contact all week about the night she's not thick is she


Annoying women are can see now why my mate goes to Thailand 2 months of the year and doesn't even speak to western women

 

[Glassguy]

Her: Men generally contact me the day of the date so I know its still on
Me: No worries. We can certainly try again later when I get free

If she says "OK" you say nothing and stay silent until she either reaches back out or doesnt.

If she asks "When are you free again" you make the time and tell her that you will see her there. Text her the day of to make sure there are no excuses.
If she has high interest she will ask you when you are free again and make it easy to set the date up again. If you just get an "ok" or some other mundane response back, DO NOT CONTACT. If she is high interest she will reach back out to you after she sees that you're not going to bend over backwards to try AGAIN to get her on a date (showing her indifference and making it seem you have other options, both of which are good). If you never hear from her again, you figured out why she flaked on you and dont even have to ask her any more questions about it to know why.

Don't burn the bridge but you need to spin more plates. Too much invested too early in this chick means you have no other option. Find more options.

 

[derby1]

i am spinning plates, i care for my mom 3 nights a week and have my daughter another 3 i dont crawl bars and that everyday , when i have one night off and ive looked forward to going out this is just off putting....it repulses me to my chore however, with her messaging that she feels bad (BS) i wondered what my best line of reply would be

 

[dustmuffin]

I would text her and say let me know when you are free for a date and drop it. Ball is in her court now. Move on find other girls.

 

[marmel75]

Instead of getting upset about it...relax, wait it out and then dish out punishment in the bedroom like she has never seen before...

The only place I want to teach women a lesson is in the bedroom.

 

[derby1]

im more interested to learn and yes its annoying, dont forget the old me before this forum would have gone into a rage at being messed about

she has now read and replied to my reply and she has offered a new date, i presume i have been tested with the flake to see if i get all abusive, she has then left my message unread all day, (she always replies instantly) perhaps seeing if i start pursue texts like i would have 6 months ago which i havent

anyway shes offered a new date, i have replied "busy this weekend ll be intouch etc"

 

[CMNILS87]

Basically had a date planned but actually know her socially as well this isn't an online stranger,

I text her an aloof message, about what to wear an hour before the date aswell but my gut was already telling me,
She didn't read at first BUT then messaged me 2 hours after date saying

As "she hadn't heard from me on the day" she presumed it was OFF, then basically still hadn't heard from me, OH Fck she feels guilty"


I god dam spoke to her the night before!!! she want me to camp on her lawn day of the date or something??

I had kept low contact all week and she has shown nothing but HIGH IL

She's thrown me a bit of a curveball. With her "sorry aloof oops didn't realise we were still on men usually message me on the daytime(I spoke the night before so this is bs unless she has dementia)"

How is best to handle seeing as I know her and we generally get on

Excuses excuses. Most women who are super interested will text you the day of to confirm. I’d give her one more try or just drop her, up to you.

 

[derby1]

she can cement another date
i wont be
ill also go seriously low text contact now, if she cements