Gonna read the DJ bible for the first time, but I think I'm gonna get coaching too

[superstorm250]

Sorry this ran a little bit long, didn't intend it to but I had a lot to say about my situation. So I'm gonna read the DJ bible for the first time and stick to the daily reading schedule, but I think I'm gonna need more help than what it can teach me. I'm 24 and gonna be turning 25 later on this year and I've never had a girlfriend, I've only been on one date and had sex once about 2 1/2 years ago. I got in this situation because from elementary school and through high school, I saw friends get rejected by girls a ton of times and they were never successful with getting girls, and I always assumed that the same would happen to me if I ever tried, so I figured that I shouldn't even try in order to save myself from the embarrassment of being rejected and the effect it could have on my reputation at school if I got rejected that often because it did affect theirs. I just told myself that its never gonna happen for me (and I still tell myself that) and to not even bother.

Then ever since I graduated high school in 2012, I haven't been around girls on a regular basis this whole time except for a summer job that I've been doing for the past 4 years, but it only lasts for a month and a half. So basically my only real option is dating sites/apps, but I have reservations that have kept me from using them this whole time. Mostly with uploading pics of myself, what to say in the bio, and what my occupation is because it made me feel like I should have a better job for my age and is a giveaway that I have no degree. Also, I have reservations about entering the dating world right now because I have no social circle. I only have 1 friend who I've known all my life and I lost the other friends I had because of political disagreements, so I'm concerned that any girl I start dating will see me as a big social reject for having no dating experience and only 1 friend and then lose interest.

Because of this situation, I'm probably going to sign up with this dating coach named Frank Kermit. He doesn't have that much notoriety in the coaching business, but he's described the problems that I face more clearly than even I could have and he's helped a lot of guys overcome those same problems. And guys who are adult aged and inexperienced are about 25% of his client base, he's based out of Montreal, Canada but has helped people all over the world because his coaching sessions are done via Skype or phone call. The pic below are his certifications/credentials.

 

[marmel75]

The only coaching you need is to get your self out on dates and finding out what works for you and what doesn't. Keep what works, get rid of what doesn't. Eventually it will be like riding a bicycle and will get boring because you'll already know the outcome of the date within the first 10 minutes.

If you arent getting dates no amount of coaching will matter.

 

[sph21]

Your problem is that you are too passive. You need to interact with more people (men & women). If you've read Pook's "fifteen lessons", you'll understand that "rejection is better than regret". I once asked a girl out and her reaction was to laugh at it. Did it hurt my feelings? Yes, a little bit. Do I ever regret it? No, because it was a precious experience. She just saved my time.

Girls want to be desired & loved. Even a nice guy can have a date if he ask girls out. It's numbers game. By acting on his desire to be more than a friend, he could score a date eventually. Of course, if you're not a nice guy, your success rate will be higher.

As a man, you must take the responsibility that comes with every action you take. The bigger the risk, the bigger the reward. You'll never know whether she's into you or not until you ask her out.

Don't worry about making mistakes. We're learning through making ones or from someone else's mistakes.

Dating is (mostly) about having fun. Improvise, be unpredictable and you won't bore her.

There are lots of things you need to improve/ master if you want to be an attractive man. You need to master the smile, the gaze, the voice tonality, how you walk, how you touch, how you lead, your attitude towards her and everyone around you, and so on. Learning from DJ Bible alone is not enough. You might want to search on YouTube about how to talk and walk like a man. Just avoid those PUA BS.

You might also want to Google:
site:sosuave.net DJ movies
or
site:sosuave.net DJ books

 

[Reykhel]

I saw friends get rejected by girls a ton of times and they were never successful with getting girls, and I always assumed that the same would happen to me if I ever tried, so I figured that I shouldn't even try in order to save myself from the embarrassment of being rejected and the effect it could have on my reputation at school if I got rejected that often because it did affect theirs.

Here you go fella...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/rejection-proof.229095/
Life's too short.....nobody's going to give you what you want......you've got to take it

I just told myself that its never gonna happen for me (and I still tell myself that) and to not even bother.

Your self limiting beliefs manifest in the physical world. In your case, your self limiting beliefs manifest in INACTION.
External behavior = Internal state
(Check out: Mind lines, Michael Hall) You would need to spend a lot of time analyzing your limiting beliefs and writing them down, then REFRAMING them into new beliefs that would work for you...

Also, I have reservations about entering the dating world right now because I have no social circle.

Online dating is full of social rejects in any case. That being said, your "intuition" is probably correct and perhaps a little period in monk mode specifically to upgrade/work on your SMV would be no harm, no harm at all.

I'm probably going to sign up with this dating coach named Frank Kermit.

This guy sounds like a fvcking muppet.

Now, how do we settle this bill........

 

[ubercat]

Welcome to the forum. Sounds like social skills should be your first priority. A team sport would be a good start. Patrick King and Leil loundes have good short books that would help. I'd skim a couple of books and then hit the meetup groups. And then if you're getting on well with a cute girl ask her out for a drink. Sure there are plenty of girls who love to play annoying games but some girls are surprisingly straightforward you might get lucky.

 

[RangerMIke]

@marmel75 is correct. Experience is the best coach. Go get some experience and learn from your mistakes. The DJ Bible and Book of Pook are great reads to get started because it helps flush your mind of garbage about society and the nature of chicks. I would also read "The System" by Doc Love, it's an easy read and will really help you in how to behave like a man interacting with chicks. Another good read is "No More Mr. Nice Guy", by Robert Glover. If you have been a pvssy worshiping pleaser your whole life, this book can give you tools to get over this affliction. Other good reads is "The Like Switch" by Philip Houston, and "What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed Reading People.", by Navarro. Don't waste time and money on PUA bvllsh!t, all they teach is is what is in these four books.

(1) Understand the nature of women and what they respond to... (DJ Bible and Book of Pook)
(2) Be the very best MAN you can, eat, dress well, get in shape, and take care of your financial life...(all on you brother)
(3) Act like a man, not a pvssy worshiping butler...(The System and No More Mr. Nice Guy)
(4) Learn how to get people to like you (works with chicks too)...(The Like Switch)
(5) Learn to read body language so you can practically read minds...(What every Body is Saying)