how should i go about this? help please

[Ryan Adams]

me and this girl have been seeing each other for about 3 months now. great sex cool chick etc. we are currently not dating. she works 7 days a week at the moment and it just wouldnt make sense to pursue a relationship as we would have no time. but we do enjoy each other's company. recently she randomly went cold on me. didn't respond to my last text. in a few days. I know there is a possibility she could be with another guy. i haven't texted her back since either. should I shoot another text or just wait for her to initiate ?

 

[Desdinova]

Wait and go meet some new women. If you're not committed, you need to keep your options open and keep some women in your circle.

 

[Ryan Adams]

yeah this is very true

 

[Ryan Adams]

bump

 

[Andrewdiceclay]

Working 7 days a week can take a toll
on a person. Especially a female since they get all worked up and stressed out easily most of the time. Shoot her a text and say something like " what's up? You drowning in papers at work?". See if she responds then. Get some other girls in your circle either way.

 

[sosousage]

how do you know shes not lying about 7 days a week?

plus most chicks have a lot of time to use their phones in job and text with who they want

+ if she works 8h then she could be seeing someone afterjob easily

 

[Ryan Adams]

I know for a fact that she isn't lying she works her main job mon-fri and her side job sat-sun. I know because I've seen her at her job on weekends and she snaps me at it almost every day. there is a possibility that she is lying of course but if she has then I have no idea where she gets the time to. plus we've been out in public in her area literally everywhere and her everyone she knows has seen us together so it's not like a secret...

I understand spinning plates but for the first time in awhile I really dig this chick gotta good head on her shoulders has her sh!t together. etc etc just wanna see this one through

 

[Glassguy]

I know for a fact that she isn't lying she works her main job mon-fri and her side job sat-sun. I know because I've seen her at her job on weekends and she snaps me at it almost every day. there is a possibility that she is lying of course but if she has then I have no idea where she gets the time to. plus we've been out in public in her area literally everywhere and her everyone she knows has seen us together so it's not like a secret...

I understand spinning plates but for the first time in awhile I really dig this chick gotta good head on her shoulders has her sh!t together. etc etc just wanna see this one through

She got your message. Women are glued to their phones. She just didnt respond.

Your best bet is to send her something light and fun as suggested. Expect to get something back like "Hey sorry I have been really busy" which is code for "I saw your message but I have been busy texting other guys".

When they dont respond back there is another factor that has been thrown into the mix.

 

[Ryan Adams]

i told we should get some food this week are you free a day.her text back was literally. "honestly i dont know. i have pt mon and thurs. and I'm so stressed because of money my work schedule etc I'm just so exhausted all the time. i have no free time and it's wearing on me"
so I have no idea I truly think she is stressed out I know her situation and she is literally always usually swamped she has these crazy dogs that are a pain in the as s and she works 10-12 he days on top of that and works weekends like I said

 

[Glassguy]

i told we should get some food this week are you free a day.her text back was literally. "honestly i dont know. i have pt mon and thurs. and I'm so stressed because of money my work schedule etc I'm just so exhausted all the time. i have no free time and it's wearing on me"
so I have no idea I truly think she is stressed out I know her situation and she is literally always usually swamped she has these crazy dogs that are a pain in the as s and she works 10-12 he days on top of that and works weekends like I said

I have no free time...
My dogs are.......
I'm so stressed at work......

None of it matters. Her interest has shifted to someone else.

If her interest was sky high you could have sent "You should come over and watch me sit on toilet and take a sh!t tonight at 7pm" and she would have responded positively.

"Honestly I dont know" means "I dont know how to tell you this but I am not interested in seeing you again".

What would Glassguy do?

"You're probably right. Your schedule doesnt really allow for us to get together and I am going to go a different direction dating wise. Take care hun".

At that point, if she IS seeing someone else, she will send you something like "Well thats fine if you want to be like that" and play the victim.

If she is really busy at work and there isnt another guy in the picture, she will counter offer after you sent her that text.

No woman is too busy to meet up just because she works a lot. Her interest level dropped for some reason, more than likely another guy.

Trust me on this.

 

[Ryan Adams]

yeah your probably right sucks but oh well. I sent back a text saying well I also need to go Christmas shopping we can go together. balls in her court if no response I'm probably going to have to write her off

 

[Glassguy]

yeah your probably right sucks but oh well. I sent back a text saying well I also need to go Christmas shopping we can go together. balls in her court if no response I'm probably going to have to write her off

Lets see if I can say this without sounding like a completely harsh d!ckhead.......

Do you realize how desperate and clingy you sound in your texts? Why would she have to put forth ANY effort if you are chasing her like this? In her mind you will be there when SHE decides that she wants you around.

I will also speculate that this needy/clingy demeanor of yours has been going on for a little while with her and that is why she lost interest.

I am just preaching the truth brother. If you want to flip her switch, when she sends back "I will let you know if I get free" (Because she isnt going to commit to meeting after your last text), send her what I told you.

 

[Glassguy]

And after you send her what I told you, DO NOT initiate contact with her again. If she messages you, wait a few hours and only give her one or two word responses.

She will either not contact you again (my guess) or she will start putting forth some effort (which I dont think will happen because her interest has already plummeted).

 

[Ryan Adams]

we shall see

 

[Ryan Adams]

the thing is I've been with her enough to know that she truly isn't glued to her phone like most females. im not just a niave idiot thinking that she truly doesn't get on her phone that much. she is kinda tomboyish and was raised on a farm by a farmer so this isn't your typical girl here. there very well could be a guy in the picture or she literally could be very over whelmed and just isn't on her phone much. she has done this before and at first I i did think it was another guy but it turned out she was just super busy with work and I rushed to conclusions. she's a very hard working person and is just always on the go

 

[Glassguy]

the thing is I've been with her enough to know that she truly isn't glued to her phone like most females. im not just a niave idiot thinking that she truly doesn't get on her phone that much. she is kinda tomboyish and was raised on a farm by a farmer so this isn't your typical girl here. there very well could be a guy in the picture or she literally could be very over whelmed and just isn't on her phone much. she has done this before and at first I i did think it was another guy but it turned out she was just super busy with work and I rushed to conclusions. she's a very hard working person and is just always on the go

You the man Ryan. Seems you have it all figured out and we shouldn't see you asking for more advise on this one

 

[Ryan Adams]

haha sarcastic huh?! I'm just saying

 

[Andrewdiceclay]

This girl may generally just be busy as I suggested. I had this happen once. How old is she? I don't feel like scrolling up if you already said it. if she responds to your last xmas shopping text, let us know what it says. If she doesn't keep on movin' and see if she comes around. Next time don't send an open ended question/statement. You need to send a yes or no.

 

[Trump]

"You're probably right. Your schedule doesnt really allow for us to get together and I am going to go a different direction dating wise. Take care hun".

Why would you say ‘I am going a different direction dating wise?’

Doesn’t that sound angry / defensive?

 

[Ryan Adams]

she is my age. 28

I usually know when there is a guy in the picture. this just doesn't feel like she's putting put that vibe. she is very straight forward and so far in the past 3 months has never lied about anything even things that I was thinking yeah ok she's definitely Lying turned out to be her telling the truth. I feel like she is just unemotionally unavailable basically.