My tinder match a little confused

[noBSgames]

So after about 1 month I finally matched with someone we talked but the only thing is how she responds.. sometimes i wait 2-3 days for a response and it might be something like a "yes" or something one worded..

My thing is trying to get her to talk and to respond in a more timely manner is a little hard she liked when I said I hope to get to see that beautiful smile of yours but trying to get a convo going with her is hard.

 

[xxx111]

Sounds like you're wasting your time. I wouldn't be surprised if in the near future she doesn't respond at all. What I found is if a woman is truly interested in you she will message right back and expand on comments other than "yes." Not asking you questions is also a bad sign. She's not interested in deepening the conversation 9 times out of 10. Every big once in a while in my online dating experience (not on tinder I never wrote to my matches and only used tinder a short time) did a woman I write to write back "sorry for not writing to you earlier, i'm never on here, here's my number."

 

[noBSgames]

Sounds like you're wasting your time. I wouldn't be surprised if in the near future she doesn't respond at all. What I found is if a woman is truly interested in you she will message right back and expand on comments other than "yes." Not asking you questions is also a bad sign. She's not interested in deepening the conversation 9 times out of 10. Every big once in a while in my online dating experience (not on tinder I never wrote to my matches and only used tinder a short time) did a woman I write to write back "sorry for not writing to you earlier, i'm never on here, here's my number."

Yeah same feeling I was getting like I really don't have no motive to send anything else back because shes slow to respond.. but I might send one more kinda calling her out on it how slow she responds curious what she's going to say if she does respond.

 

[xxx111]

Yeah same feeling I was getting like I really don't have no motive to send anything else back because shes slow to respond.. but I might send one more kinda calling her out on it how slow she responds curious what she's going to say if she does respond.

I've never called a girl out before, it would be interesting what she says. Actually I was writing to a very overweight unattractive woman, who did respond to me, but was clear I was't getting anywhere. I told her "you're not interested in me are you?" And she wrote back "No I only like black men." That's when I realized how hard it is for me to find women online. Some attractive women write to me. Actually there are two what I'd call better than average women who wrote back to me on match recently that I haven't responded to, but the whole process really bores me. OLD is such a stupid way to meet women anyways.

 

[noBSgames]

I've never called a girl out before, it would be interesting what she says. Actually I was writing to a very overweight unattractive woman, who did respond to me, but was clear I was't getting anywhere. I told her "you're not interested in me are you?" And she wrote back "No I only like black men." That's when I realized how hard it is for me to find women online. Some attractive women write to me. Actually there are two what I'd call better than average women who wrote back to me on match recently that I haven't responded to, but the whole process really bores me. OLD is such a stupid way to meet women anyways.

My account on POF got deleted somehow I'm not sure if my BPD Ex found me and reported me but it's odd I got no email I just happened to try to log in one day and it said invalid password.. went to try and send a PW reset and I never got a email..

However I hate girls like that some post it in the profile which race they are looking for which is on the fence with me.. I hate others who beat around the bush.

Also in the message to soften the blow (I'm a very blunt person so it's hard) I told her you must be a very busy woman

 

[Billtx49]

I finally matched with someone we talked but the only thing is how she responds.. sometimes i wait 2-3 days
but trying to get a convo going with her is hard.

She’s npt confused. She’s letting you know what her story is by her inaction.

 

[Mazer]

I also had a girl on Tinder that would hit me up with one word answers every three days. I don't like wasting my time messaging back and forth, so I asked her for her number and she gave it to me, I shot her a text two days later and surprise, no response. She is wasting your time. I will never understand women who give out their number have no intention of meeting up. Oh well, its a numbers game. When it comes to online dating, when I match, I ask how are you doing today, any plans for tonight? They usually respond with blah blah blah, I tell them awesome, Im going out to dinner with a few friends in a few. Can I get your number? I dont check this app often. Works 80% of the time in getting their number.

 

[noBSgames]

She’s npt confused. She’s letting you know what her story is by her inaction.

Then in that case why contact me at all? Or unmatch me?

 

[noBSgames]

She responded...

“What makes you say that?”

 

[xxx111]

Dude it's online dating. It is what it is. You're just another picture on the screen to her. I wrote to a girl "hi how are you" and she wrote back "is that the best you can do?" I turned it into a compliment and her response was "thank you." Then she deleted me. This is just a bunch of dudes writing to women all day. That's all online dating is and it's not like every action of hers takes serious thought and consideration For all we know she gets a kick out of you writing to her and trying. Consider it a compliment she even wrote to you at all and move on.

 

[xxx111]

She responded...

“What makes you say that?”

I don't know about that one.... my guess is maybe you're not being exciting enough, funny or witty enough or whatever. I don't claim to have huge online game but I can only see a joke or something that impresses her as a response to get her out of this slump and keep the conversation going or escalate it.

 

[xxx111]

I imagine online dating

She's talking to 10 guys at once. Her poor little girl brain is likely frazzled.

It#s the equivalent of going over, and trying to chat up a woman somewhere who was surrounded by a dozen different guys all hitting on her whilst she soaks in the attention.

You'd quickly consider it a sausage-fest and go someplace better. Not sure why old is given different treatment.

Haha.

I imagine online dating something like this but instead of 2 guys, 15-20 guys. When I realized how many emails women get, I consider it a compliment they respond to me at all.

 

[El Payaso]

She. Is. Not. INTERESTED.

 

[Bayne05]

Matching doesn't matter conclude anything. She just swipes right for guys that are her type. She then screens her matches for the perfect candidate, then keeps the rest as reserves in case it doesn't work with the one she chose. She'll respond now and then to keep you around. If you don't know this that must mean you're still new to OLD

Next

 

[noBSgames]

She. Is. Not. INTERESTED.

lol but then it goes back to the main question why respond? I do more left swipes then right if I had a match and I did not find them too attractive I just would not respond.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Your tinder matched? Count yourself burnt there.

 

[noBSgames]

I changed my settings because I kept getting bot matches.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

I changed my settings because I kept getting bot matches.

Wot? Typo?

 

[noBSgames]

Wot? Typo?

Yes bot matches in which they send you spam

 

[sazc]

Yeah same feeling I was getting like I really don't have no motive to send anything else back because shes slow to respond.. but I might send one more kinda calling her out on it how slow she responds curious what she's going to say if she does respond.

You could always say "hey, it's easier for me to text, let me get your number" and see what she says.

If you get her number, call