GFs who can't stop seeking male attention

[randalljohnson]

Hey all. It's been a few months. So I'm popping my head in and giving you all an update. My girlfriend of a year moved in with me and my kid a couple of months ago (her kid is living with us too.) She's 6 months pregnant with our kid. We have our own little family. Most of you are aware of her tumultuous past.

A couple months ago, she finally put me in her profile pic. I viewed this as important,knowing that she's a daily Facebook user and likes to blurt her excitement out on Facebook. Well that only lasted a few weeks, because she then changed her profile pic to a pic of her and her kid. She's made 0 acknowledgement of me on her Facebook in over a month, which is kind of shady behavior from her. All her posts are either about her kid or herself.

Another tidbit-- I have an Instagram that, to her knowledge, I never use. I happened to be on the other night and noticed in my activity feed that she Liked a few of her ex's pics (an ex from a few years ago.) So I go to the guys page and peek through his pics, and noticed she's been Liking a good amount of his pics over the past couple months. I also found out that she Follows him, but he doesn't Follow her.

Do you all view this as shady behavior, NPD, HPD, BPD, or is this paranoia? I feel like she cant leave me considering I put a roof over her head, am providng for her and her kid, and we have a kid on the way. I just find it disrespectful...and shady.

 

[Von]

Hey all. It's been a few months. So I'm popping my head in and giving you all an update. My girlfriend of a year moved in with me and my kid a couple of months ago (her kid is living with us too.) She's 6 months pregnant with our kid. We have our own little family. Most of you are aware of her tumultuous past.

A couple months ago, she finally put me in her profile pic. I viewed this as important,knowing that she's a daily Facebook user and likes to blurt her excitement out on Facebook. Well that only lasted a few weeks, because she then changed her profile pic to a pic of her and her kid. She's made 0 acknowledgement of me on her Facebook in over a month, which is kind of shady behavior from her. All her posts are either about her kid or herself.

Another tidbit-- I have an Instagram that, to her knowledge, I never use. I happened to be on the other night and noticed in my activity feed that she Liked a few of her ex's pics (an ex from a few years ago.) So I go to the guys page and peek through his pics, and noticed she's been Liking a good amount of his pics over the past couple months. I also found out that she Follows him, but he doesn't Follow her.

Do you all view this as shady behavior, NPD, HPD, BPD, or is this paranoia? I feel like she cant leave me considering I put a roof over her head, am providng for her and her kid, and we have a kid on the way. I just find it disrespectful...and shady.

It would be pointless to tell you: ''We told you so''

The only think you can do is build up your life and ask yourself this: ''Why do you do this to yourself''

and...

''How can I make it alive and have a decent life for my kid'''

 

[randalljohnson]

It would be pointless to tell you: ''We told you so''

The only think you can do is build up your life and ask yourself this: ''Why do you do this to yourself''

and...

''How can I make it alive and have a decent life for my kid'''

You told me what?

 

[cityboy989]

Listen here, I'm going to be blunt. You're a dysfunctional Captain Save a Ho and she's a dysfunctional Damsel in Distress. I remember your posts about her shady behavior and how she used to downright insult you about your looks but she tried to construe it as "ball busting." You said her exes were pretty boys. Meaning you must think you're not as good looking. If that's true, then yes she doesn't find you attractive. She finds what you FEED her attractive. But you don't make her wet, like the studs she used to have sex with. You're there to be her savior, her cushiony landing pad, and also her male girlfriend.

You both are dysfunctional. How can two dysfunctional people have a functional relationship? They can't. What are the odds that this will last forever? Not high. It doesn't matter that you got her pregnant.

You're the guy she feels she's SUPPOSED to be with. Not the guy she WANTS to be with. You're her beta provider. Point blank period. She's either going to leave you or cheat on you. No way she can force herself to stay faithful to you forever. And now she can collect child support from 2 men. Lucky her.

 

[dude99]

Hey all. It's been a few months. So I'm popping my head in and giving you all an update. My girlfriend of a year moved in with me and my kid a couple of months ago (her kid is living with us too.) She's 6 months pregnant with our kid. We have our own little family. Most of you are aware of her tumultuous past.

A couple months ago, she finally put me in her profile pic. I viewed this as important,knowing that she's a daily Facebook user and likes to blurt her excitement out on Facebook. Well that only lasted a few weeks, because she then changed her profile pic to a pic of her and her kid. She's made 0 acknowledgement of me on her Facebook in over a month, which is kind of shady behavior from her. All her posts are either about her kid or herself.

Another tidbit-- I have an Instagram that, to her knowledge, I never use. I happened to be on the other night and noticed in my activity feed that she Liked a few of her ex's pics (an ex from a few years ago.) So I go to the guys page and peek through his pics, and noticed she's been Liking a good amount of his pics over the past couple months. I also found out that she Follows him, but he doesn't Follow her.

Do you all view this as shady behavior, NPD, HPD, BPD, or is this paranoia? I feel like she cant leave me considering I put a roof over her head, am providng for her and her kid, and we have a kid on the way. I just find it disrespectful...and shady.

This is why you dont live with them. Now that you got her pregnant the law is double on her side. You will be paying child support and you are viewed as common law husband and wife.

You see if you two didn't live together, my advise would be to delete her off of all your social media and block her go no contact and then date other women. But how do you do that when she is under your roof pregnant, and eating your food?

Youre in a pickle.

Is the kid yours? If not get her out of your life before she signs documents saying it is. You will be on th hook for the bills of this kid for 18-25 years even if it isnt. Also get her out of your house. Get her to send her mail to a differrent address. This way she can't sue you for spousal support. Next she will want you to take legal guardian ship of her other kid so she can make you financially responsible for her other kid too.

This is why you don't live with them.

 

[randalljohnson]

This is why you dont live with them. Now that you got her pregnant the law is double on her side. You will be paying child support and you are viewed as common law husband and wife.

You see if you two didn't live together, my advise would be to delete her off of all your social media and block her go no contact and then date other women. But how do you do that when she is under your roof pregnant, and eating your food?

Youre in a pickle.

Is the kid yours? If not get her out of your life before she signs documents saying it is. You will be on th hook for the bills of this kid for 18-25 years even if it isnt. Also get her out of your house. Get her to send her mail to a differrent address. This way she can't sue you for spousal support. Next she will want you to take legal guardian ship of her other kid so she can make you financially responsible for her other kid too.

This is why you don't live with them.

Isn't that a bit drastic?

 

[dude99]

Isn't that a bit drastic?

Unless you want to be the atm or cash machine and personal bill payer for a chick and her kids, who is screwing other guys, no. I dont think protecting your future from a gold digger is drastic.

You think she can't leave you because you put a roof over her head, dude you will still be putting one over her head if she leaves. And paying for the roof of her new dude too.

Check the common laws in your state/country you live in.

You can boil a frog when you gradually turn up the heat. It won't notice and won't know its in danger..........don't be that frog.

 

[dustmuffin]

Get the kid checked to make sure it's yours. You are in a big mess. If you are lucky the kid won't be yours and you can kick her to the curb.

 

[JonnyD123]

She is textbook HPD

Holy shít. Not to high jack this thread but I just googled HPD and my ex fits the description exactly. Might as well shown a picture of her.

As for OP, listen to what everybody is saying.

 

[Billtx49]

Do you all view this as shady behavior

I feel like she cant leave me considering I put a roof over her head.

This woman’s behavior is still bothering you as evidenced by this thread. Her behavior obviously hasn't changed yet you are progressing with her, still spying on her online activity, and moved her in…
You were told months ago she wasn’t a good deal for you, and if you think she can’t leave you, then you better realistically rethink that idea.

 

[Roober]

My god, dude... the same issues with the same chick, and you ask the same questions about a different situation?

You know what you need to do. Stop seeking advice for which none of it you are going to use...

 

[sazc]

A-hahahahahahahahahaha

 

[randalljohnson]

Good luck with that.

It's as bad as I'm fearing?

 

[randalljohnson]

A-hahahahahahahahahaha

Real mature

 

[lizardking82]

It is as bad as everyone on this forum told you it would be and you went ahead with it anyways.

 

[Red Legg]

You have a level 5 attention wh0re on your hands,inevitable monkey branch in your future..

 

[randalljohnson]

You have a level 5 attention wh0re on your hands,inevitable monkey branch in your future..

That's what I've been hearing. However that hasn't happened.

 

[cityboy989]

That's what I've been hearing. However that hasn't happened.

Yet.

Sure some people may go a lifetime suppressing their urges. SOME. Your girlfriend there doesn't seem like the type. So she's surpressed her urges for a year (as far as you know,) you think that means she'll suppress it forever? You said you two are still young (late 20s) so I assume she has no problem seducing men. Your girlfriend is most definitely a cluster b and DAMAGED GOODS. You can't expect a long-lasting and fruitful relationship with a damaged (and hoe-ish) person like that. Not to mention-- she doesn't even respect you. You're her beta provider, her doormat.

 

[marmel75]

Sounds like its a situation where it's only going to get worse the longer you are with her and the more you find out about her.

 

[ubercat]

Everyone including myself told you not to put up with disrespect and now you're finding out how big the bill can be. If the child is yours there's plenty of guys here who know how to be a good father to a child who has a sh1tty mother. But if you're going to gain anything by hanging out here you need to be smarter.

This is what always amazes me a guy might think that he s smarter than one guy maybe two guys but if 20 people telling the same thing on his post does he really think he s smarter than all of them