Going To Facebook Event Just To Meet A Specific Girl?

[Dark Horse]

A couple things about me, i'm 22 years old. I have never kissed a girl, never been in a relationship, and i'm still a virgin. In fact, I didn't even go on my first date until 11 months ago. Since then, iv'e only been on dates with two different girls. The first one ghosted me after the date, the second one I wasn't physically attracted to.

I want to find a girlfriend but I struggle with meeting girls. I don't like online dating that much, I struggled with it in the past. I tried talking to some girls in my college classroom. I asked one out but she has a boyfriend and even when I try to talk to her as a friend, she ignores my texts. The second girl just straight up mentioned her boyfriend in our first conversation even though it said on Facebook she's single :'( I go to a dump asss community college and there's no clubs or anything so I can't meet any girls there.

There's this cute girl i'm friends with on Facebook. Iv'e seen her around before when I was younger but we never really talked. I noticed she's going to this event on Facebook and I want to go just to see if I can notice her there and strike up a conversation with her.

Do you think it's a good idea? Would it work?

 

[Bible_Belt]

In your position, approaching is always a good idea. I think it is a low-percentage shot, just like any cold approach. Don't get your hopes up, and don't be crushed if it doesn't go well. But trying and failing is much, much better than never trying at all.

 

[wifehunter]

Failing is awesome! One day you'll learn that interested chicks will approach YOU!

Oh, did I just give it away? oops!

 

[El Payaso]

I wouldn't really advise going to an event just to meet a specific girl. Go to an event because you enjoy it. Go for yourself because it genuinely interests you. Otherwise, you will end up getting your hopes up and it will get crushed when things don't go your way. Be outcome independent.

 

[Von]

Dont go.

Here what you will do instead:
List what you enjoy


Open facebook event section (nearby event)
Open meetup Web site
Open eventbrite Web site

Find the events/activities related to YOUR PASSION and your list of what YOU ENJOY.

Click "attending" to put if your calendar.

Go to the event: strike a conversation / opener with 10 persons.

I recommend 5 guys / 5 girls or 10 persons period. But must have at least 2 guys in there.

You need to learn to break the ice, learn to have normal conversation, learn how guy talk and how women respond.

It will increase your social skills... also by going to stuff you enjoy: it will make conversations, opening, escalation easier... because you relate it to YOU. And the person will feel your interest.

You cant go somewhere for 1 person. It's needy and bad for you. If you go there for 1 person and you dont enjoy the setting... it will be even worse for you... it will dig your grave.

So its important the setup in the initial phase are somethings about you, you enjoy, it makes all the more easy to develop the relation.

PS: the only person you should ever go to an event for them... is your friends, your date, your LTR.... until there is a relation going on... it's all about your settings.

Read DJ bible
Read Double your Dating
Read Law of Attractions
Make à list of what you enjoy (what activities you do when alone, sport, stuff you read, music you listen)
Check out the places where event happens
Go to them
Talk to 10 persons (strangers) - it can include some that works there (but put à 5minutes conversation limit of that worker)
If you want à number / facebook add... do it in the middle of the conversation (remember its not à goal but à step, normal thing like a transition)
Report the progress here
Repeat

PS: your username is DarkHorse so I guess you into superheroes / Fantastic world stuff (DnD)


And remember: You owe me 20$ US dollars for every people you dont talk to at the event (10 persons is 200 US $ for me)

 

[Dark Horse]

Well i'll be going to a video game tournament today. I doubt i'll me seeing much girls there, mostly nerdy dudes but hey at least i'm getting out and doing something.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Well i'll be going to a video game tournament today.

oh good lord... ...I hope you enjoy yourself.

Just as food for thought, I know a guy twice your age who is miserably lonely and constantly complains that women don't like him. That guy has ever nerd hobby there is. He goes to every Comic-com, and a lot of other -con nerd conventions. He's into obscure, weird video games, mostly fantasy role-playing stuff. I barely understand most of it. I've suggested to the guy that if he wants to meet women, he needs to be out doing something that some woman somewhere might actually find interesting. And he completely ignores me.

 

[Dark Horse]

oh good lord... ...I hope you enjoy yourself.

Just as food for thought, I know a guy twice your age who is miserably lonely and constantly complains that women don't like him. That guy has ever nerd hobby there is. He goes to every Comic-com, and a lot of other -con nerd conventions. He's into obscure, weird video games, mostly fantasy role-playing stuff. I barely understand most of it. I've suggested to the guy that if he wants to meet women, he needs to be out doing something that some woman somewhere might actually find interesting. And he completely ignores me.

You're right, you're not going to meet women if your only interests are nerdy stuff and playing video games. And it's interesting because the type of guys who are big into video games and nerdy stuff are the type who look nerdy and not that physically attractive. It's because many people who are big time gamers, tend to not like sports and they don't like being active and their body shows that. Just my observation.

And let's just say you happen to find an attractive girl who's into that stuff, she's going to be highly sought after. Hot girl who plays video games and shows up at a comic con? Every guy will be on that, she'll be swarmed.

 

[Von]

You're right, you're not going to meet women if your only interests are nerdy stuff and playing video games. And it's interesting because the type of guys who are big into video games and nerdy stuff are the type who look nerdy and not that physically attractive. It's because many people who are big time gamers, tend to not like sports and they don't like being active and their body shows that. Just my observation.

And let's just say you happen to find an attractive girl who's into that stuff, she's going to be highly sought after. Hot girl who plays video games and shows up at a comic con? Every guy will be on that, she'll be swarmed.

Just be Hydra from SC2, you'll have a top model.

Just be that guy from Singapore who played alot of War3 and SC2 early 2000... he married MissUniverse Singapore

There are hot girls into vidéo game.. especially the ones who had strong father education.

If you look at pro-Esport players (people who compète for money) you see alot more physical athlète guys. They do 2 hours gym everyday, train and play videogames 6-7 hours à day, relax 1-2hours, and they have a crew (the team).

They might have no social skills.. but they still have a social / physical life.. and they make à living.

I know 2 guys who meet their wife playing WoW.

CosPlay models (girls hired to do modeling at comiccon and other events) are quite hot and often do play 1 videogame. You have game, you can game her.

I know 2 guys who are passionate with vidéo games and only do that

1 has an active dating life but dates anything that move

1 do get laid every 1-2 years threw friends but overall no success.. he landed à GF in my social group but she is BPD.

This guy friend.. with the BPD, as a bigger à social group than I... he always have parties with 20 people... include girls... all into gaming. Most of his friends have GF who play vidéo games and do comicon.

If its à commun passion great but know all his friends have work/school life outside of gaming. Most work at Ubisoft or EA games (where you will see the hottest receptionist ever)

Most people who play videogames however do it because they dont know what to do with their lives. They kinda lost on the goal/dream scale. Or afraid of social life so they hide.
I know i used to play videogames 60 hours à week.

We can talk about the 1%, 10HB level hot girls etc... but that's not the point for your post.

Vidéo Games or not... Girls love à guy who is doing something of his life.

So it also means no League of Legends ever again if you start dating lol.

What you currently need is action, action to solve the issue that brought you here..

Developing social skills... that is the basic to getting anywhere with the girls or the guys (guys to get better tips, friends, get job interviews).... that starts going out there and talking to people.

You can even join toastmaster class. See it has à way to relax and diversify.

You know Dark Horse, you are in the best time to use vidéo games as a discussion Topic. Vidéo games are becoming mainstream, and more and more events émerge around it.. drawing people.

My city as ComicCon... draws around 150 000 people in one weekend.

My city hosted à Esport tournament.. the sport stadium of 45 000 places was pack for 1 whole week.

The vidéo game business guy who is 19 years old.. created à business about being "brokers of CounterStrike skins"... the business has like 5 millions of revenu for 5 employés who are computer geek and no marketing.... He reserved à whole club for 300 people and it was pack of models.

My city just launched an E-Sport Academy to train professional E-Sport players in all the games with prize tournament. Who is the guy financing the project? Georges St-Pierre, UFC MiddleWeight and WelterWieght champion.


Dark Horse, you have many opportunities around you.. the market is expending. Like you said... few of the guys have social skills and there is a few hot girls... who get hot girls? The guy with the most social skills in the market.

So go out there, learn the skills to engagé, converse,kino... people around you will admire you and your social value will increase (and girls will love that).
So.take time of your schedule and go out there to pick-up girls. You will see after a few months an increase in your social success including dating and you'll be better at gaming