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I don't know what the point of this post is. I went to a strip club. Actually felt pretty confident walking in until I got too drunk. I was dressed in steel toe boots covered in concrete. Looking manly, I suppose. I think large arm muscles and a large bank account (maybe just the muscles) would make me more attractive.

After several drinks, I realize that most everyone else there is with people. Maybe a guy by himself looks sinister. Of all the 20 strippers there, only 1 was very attractive. She was obviously just paying attention to who tipped her most. Maybe paying more attention to guys who were there with their girlfriends.

What if I had a large house with a pool? Would that help?

It has nothing to do with beards and all that sh1t because beard guys were leaving by themselves, too.

In fact, I'm 99% sure every guy there was leaving by themself, so it's not like I'm the only one.
 

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I'm glad you went out. You need to start doing that. Let's see where the problems lie:

Actually felt pretty confident walking in until I got too drunk.
Don't get drunk. You cannot effectively run game when your mind is all fvcked up on alcohol. Have 1-2 drinks maximum to help you loosen up if need be, but don't drink to excess.

I was dressed in steel toe boots covered in concrete. Looking manly, I suppose.
You should dress to impress. Dressing in filthy attire isn't going to help you. Women are extremely aware of a man's wardrobe, including his footwear. You can dress in average clothing if you have game working in your favour. Dress nice if you are just getting started with approaching.

I realize that most everyone else there is with people.
That is normal. Approach a group of people and start a conversation. If there are women in the group, approach the men first.

Maybe a guy by himself looks sinister.
Approach him too. If he's lonely, he could use a friend.

Of all the 20 strippers there, only 1 was very attractive. She was obviously just paying attention to who tipped her most.
Strippers seek those who pay attention to them to make money. This is how they pay their bills and buy groceries. Until you can approach the average woman, strippers should be off-limits.

What if I had a large house with a pool? Would that help?
It would not help because you aren't approaching anybody and starting a conversation with them. How would they know if you had a large house with a pool if you don't talk to anybody? You cannot put the cart before the horse.

It has nothing to do with beards and all that sh1t because beard guys were leaving by themselves, too.
Were they actively approaching people? Were they making new friends? Were they talking to the women?

This is exactly where your problem is. YOU ARE NOT APPROACHING ANYBODY. You need to start talking to people, regardless of whether they're men or women. If you make new male friends, you can get into a social circle and meet the women. If you become a spectacle in the bar, you will easily attract the women. You are doing none of this.

This is why I'm urging you to do the bootcamp. Your biggest weakness isn't money or looks, it's your inability to approach and converse with strangers. This is the area you NEED to work on. You can't just walk into a place and expect women to approach you. Women rarely approach men. They expect the man to do all the work.
 
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I'm glad you went out. You need to start doing that. Let's see where the problems lie:



Don't get drunk. You cannot effectively run game when your mind is all fvcked up on alcohol. Have 1-2 drinks maximum to help you loosen up if need be, but don't drink to excess.



You should dress to impress. Dressing in filthy attire isn't going to help you. Women are extremely aware of a man's wardrobe, including his footwear. You can dress in average clothing if you have game working in your favour. Dress nice if you are just getting started with approaching.



That is normal. Approach a group of people and start a conversation. If there are women in the group, approach the men first.



Approach him too. If he's lonely, he could use a friend.



Strippers seek those who pay attention to them to make money. This is how they pay their bills and buy groceries. Until you can approach the average woman, strippers should be off-limits.



It would not help because you aren't approaching anybody and starting a conversation with them. How would they know if you had a large house with a pool if you don't talk to anybody? You cannot put the cart before the horse.



Were they actively approaching people? Were they making new friends? Were they talking to the women?

This is exactly where your problem is. YOU ARE NOT APPROACHING ANYBODY. You need to start talking to people, regardless of whether they're men or women. If you make new male friends, you can get into a social circle and meet the women. If you become a spectacle in the bar, you will easily attract the women. You are doing none of this.

This is why I'm urging you to do the bootcamp. Your biggest weakness isn't money or looks, it's your inability to approach and converse with strangers. This is the area you NEED to work on. You can't just walk into a place and expect women to approach you. Women rarely approach men. They expect the man to do all the work.
It's a strip club. I'm not sure you know how these places work. You don't "approach people," you give tips to dancing girls who possibly might also be prostitutes.

The sinister guy I was referring to was me.

You are telling me to go to a strip club and talk to groups of guys? That is slightly odd behavior.
 

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It's a strip club. I'm not sure you know how these places work. You don't "approach people," you give tips to dancing girls who possibly might also be prostitutes.
We have regular bars here that have strippers at specific times during the day. I never go see strippers. If I can't touch it, I'm not interested in it.

You are telling me to go to a strip club and talk to groups of guys? That is slightly odd behavior.
Well, then go to a regular bar and talk to groups of guys.
 
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We have regular bars here that have strippers at specific times during the day. I never go see strippers. If I can't touch it, I'm not interested in it.



Well, then go to a regular bar and talk to groups of guys.
Why would I want to go to a bar to talk to a group of guys?

Why can't you touch the strippers? Your game's not good enough?
 

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Why would I want to go to a bar to talk to a group of guys?
Because being social leads to getting women.

Why can't you touch the strippers? Your game's not good enough?
It's illegal here to touch the strippers. Why should I risk breaking the law when it's easier to fvck women who aren't strippers?
 
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Because being social leads to getting women.



It's illegal here to touch the strippers. Why should I risk breaking the law when it's easier to fvck women who aren't strippers?
Well the regular bars are boring. I feel like they're PG rated.

Why would I put effort into creating a million fake friends when I can just fvck a hooker a lot easier?
 
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That's your choice, but if that's the case, then why are you hanging out on a site geared toward seduction and self-improvement?
I don't know what to work on, but I sure as hell know the prize isn't some pu$$y.

And again, why would I want to go to bars and talk to other guys? The last 3 male "friends" I had have all ended up with me calling the police on them for theft.

I really don't believe in male friends past a certain age. Some guys seem cool and I don't think would harm me, but I don't see a reason for our lives to be linked in any significant way.
 

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Why would I want to go to a bar to talk to a group of guys?

Why can't you touch the strippers? Your game's not good enough?
Because it helps your social skills and makes you look less like a weirdo. I remember going clubbing with a group of friends, sand talked to a lot of guys as well.. Questions like "where the bltches at" got the steam rolling lol
 

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Because it helps your social skills and makes you look less like a weirdo. I remember going clubbing with a group of friends, sand talked to a lot of guys as well.. Questions like "where the bltches at" got the steam rolling lol
Okay but if saying anything besides "where the b1tches at?" then it's weird and pointless.

Which leaves me still out with the purpose of talking to females, despite my brief pause to ask some stranger "where the b1tches at?"

I'm not interested in making friends with other guys. I don't want to be "cool" with them and I don't care who they are in the first place.
 

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Okay but if saying anything besides "where the b1tches at?" then it's weird and pointless.

Which leaves me still out with the purpose of talking to females, despite my brief pause to ask some stranger "where the b1tches at?"

I'm not interested in making friends with other guys. I don't want to be "cool" with them and I don't care who they are in the first place.
No you can make new friends.. "Hey, how's your day going?" Talk for a few minutes, and make a new friend. Why did you go to a strip club to talk to girls? It's really not that difficult to talk to them. You just walk up and introduce yourself. You're making things so complicated. Before you go to places like these develop some hobbies. I used to think I was an ugly loser and was insecure but it never helped me, just made me depressed. Now I'm doing better than ever.

I don't think you can use help. You complain yet you are defensive. And it's not about being cool. It's about building social skills. You don't need to talk to them afterwards
 

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Women want to have fun, and you sound miserable. You're just projecting your own unhappiness about life onto women and blaming them for it. Until you can find a way to be happy with yourself, and work on your own issues, like everyone here is trying to tell you, then you are not going to be happy with any woman.
 
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Women want to have fun, and you sound miserable. You're just projecting your own unhappiness about life onto women and blaming them for it. Until you can find a way to be happy with yourself, and work on your own issues, like everyone here is trying to tell you, then you are not going to be happy with any woman.
Yea one time recently a hot girl told me I was a 6/10, bit would be an 8/10 if I smiled.

I think I smile about once per year.

Unless you count random delusional laughter.
 

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@Desdinova

I dont know why you waste your breath (or keystrokes in this case) or even have the patience to help this guy out.

This stuff reminds me of a person that is walking into a hospital literally carrying his non responsive heart in his hands and expecting to be fixed up and back out in an hour, not realizing that he is dead on his feet lol.
 
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@Desdinova

I dont know why you waste your breath (or keystrokes in this case) or even have the patience to help this guy out.

This stuff reminds me of a person that is walking into a hospital literally carrying his non responsive heart in his hands and expecting to be fixed up and back out in an hour, not realizing that he is dead on his feet lol.
Except that the girls you fvck are barely even hot.

Your in your 40's and the most impressive thing you've done is be a former athlete?
 

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Former D1 athlete. All my girls are "hot". And I get plenty.

And I own several business. I think I do fine in all areas of life, and that is all that matters.
 
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Former D1 athlete. All my girls are "hot". And I get plenty.

And I own several business. I think I do fine in all areas of life, and that is all that matters.
The ones you posted pictures of a while back weren't that hot. I just said they were compared to Neil. They aren't the type of girls that turn heads.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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