How to go about this?

[captain55]

Well guys she asked me out. We went for coffee and talked for two hours. I played around with her and gave her a massage while we talked as i always try to make some physical contact during the date. gave her a hug goodbye and did not try to make out with her. This chick is very stuck in her routine, she told me she hasn’t been on a date in months and never goes out.

After the date she texted me “hey” i responded “hey I had a good time” she goes
“Me too. Look i hope i didn’t throw you off. But i like you as a person your a funny guy”
Me “no worries i could tell you have walls up by your body language”
Her “i Am very closed off. Tonight just told me im not ready to be open or be back out there”

Normally i would go with lack of physical attraction but remember this chick had already met me in person and seen what i looked like before the date so that isn’t the case. Im thinking either
1. There is an ex who she is still not over
2. My game was Dialed in and i made a strong emotional connection too soon. Usually when this happens girls freak out and always call you back in a few weeks...
3. She’s crazy or has something weird going on. A 26 year old 9/10 that hardly ever leaves the house except for the gym and never goes out? Seemed a bit strange to me.

I told her “no need to force anything. You can’t be afraid to feel anything and I could tell you were feeling me. If you think you can let your walls down let me know.”

So im not gonna hold my breathe. My gut tells me she will be back though

 

[Glassguy]

You were put in the friendszone.

"I like you as a person" and "not ready"......after asking you out?

You should have escalated. And why are you talking to her about feelings, especially after she just gave you the let him down easy speech? Just say "Ok" and find someone else.

 

[captain55]

You were put in the friendszone.

"I like you as a person" and "not ready"......after asking you out?

You should have escalated. And why are you talking to her about feelings, especially after she just gave you the let him down easy speech? Just say "Ok" and find someone else.

I did escalate. Ive been around the block a while. Usually when your put in the friend zone the girl doesn’t text you first.....she hopes you get the message by her not saying anything. I felt like she wanted me by her body language and the fact that she spent two hours talking to me and she was fighting it.

..i told her during the date that i don’t have a lot of female friends because “I’ve never been friendzoned” and im the guy girls always end up ****ing lol...i also told her i like the chase and i don’t like easy women....so who knows maybe she’s doing it to **** with me. Did i set myself up here?

Im gonna ignore for a week and see if she hits me up but if not i won’t contact her

 

[captain55]

I’ve been on an assload of coffee dates and I’ve never experienced this.

- no girl interested in a guy has coffee with him for two hours
- no chick hits a guy up two hours after the date is over when he never even contacted her after the date
- she asked me a lot of questions about myself and her body language was positive

Her entitled attitude is what bothers me. “Look i hope i didn’t throw you off. But i like you as a person and think your a funny guy”

Women don’t friend zone me they **** me...can’t believe this happened to me of all people.

 

[PokerStar]

I’ve been on an assload of coffee dates and I’ve never experienced this.

- no girl interested in a guy has coffee with him for two hours
- no chick hits a guy up two hours after the date is over when he never even contacted her after the date
- she asked me a lot of questions about myself and her body language was positive

Her entitled attitude is what bothers me. “Look i hope i didn’t throw you off. But i like you as a person and think your a funny guy”

Women don’t friend zone me they **** me...can’t believe this happened to me of all people.

a few loses hurt but you have to look at your overall record.

 

[captain55]

Hah reminds me of my first rejection post breakup.

Anyway, if you are going after attractive women, you're going to be rejected.

Well i told her on the date the reason i don’t have a lot of female friends because i never get friendzoned. And women only see me as an ******* or a romantic interest haha. I also said i don’t like women that put out quick at all and i love the chase

How do i know she’s not playing a game now?

The reason i told her these things is because i m at a point in my life where i don’t give a **** and i have no filter with women

 

[captain55]

Sheesh, and you don't know why she's not interested? Lol

Well how can i fix this? If i can at all. Send her a sexual text maybe?

 

[Macaframalama]

Why are you giving massages on the first date? You weirded her out dude.

Well how can i fix this? If i can at all. Send her a sexual text maybe?

Find other women.

 

[captain55]

Well guys she is texting me so im still in the game...

 

[devilkingx2]

“We all know what you want out of this” implying that i just want to bang her.

A woman who likes you doesn't think that you wanting to have sex with her is a bad thing. If her tone was negative then that's a wrap.

but when i asked her out no response.

0 hope of getting the girl if that was her response.

also this chick is a 9. Haven’t wanted a girl this bad in a long time, only reason I’m making a thread. Normally i wouldn’t bother

I think you aimed too high and she was out of your league, usually when i do that it goes something like this, where you don't particularly do anything wrong and still come nowhere close to getting the girl

 

[marmel75]

Seems either you came across as too thirsty, she isn't interested, or she is testing you to see how you respond.

I would have said "Damn...you already figured out all I want to use you for is a free meal and some drinks?? Guess you'll just have to go all out to impress me and buy flowers and a box of chocolates too..."

 

[captain55]

Seems either you came across as too thirsty, she isn't interested, or she is testing you to see how you respond.

I would have said "Damn...you already figured out all I want to use you for is a free meal and some drinks?? Guess you'll just have to go all out to impress me and buy flowers and a box of chocolates too..."

She actually did end up responding to me. She's in the hospital and pretty sick. She texted me bitching and moaning about how much pain she was in. I didn't go visit her in the hospital because I think that would of been weird considering I barely know this chick, I just said call me if you need anything. Normally I would NEVER make myself available to a woman I barely know, but had I not said that it would of made me look like a piece of **** considering she was running a 102 fever and throwing up all day

 

[devilkingx2]

I also said i don’t like women that put out quick at all and i love the chase

why would you tell her that? did you want her to give you an extra hard time getting laid?

 

[CarlosR]

Just send her pics, it is all

 

[captain55]

why would you tell her that? did you want her to give you an extra hard time getting laid?

No I just could tell from a few convos we had and a few things she said that she doesn't like guys that go out to clubs/the party scene much. She kept asking me weird questions like asking me if I would **** a girl in one night who I just met, how often I went out to clubs, etc..... Basically I realized she wants a man that has a similar lifestyle to her one that goes to the gym ...works out.. and doesn't drink and party too much..... so I made myself out to be "that guy" when Im really a pretty big party animal that likes to travel.

I don't think this girl is getting ****ed....I think she has some issues...no way a chick this hot would ask me out to coffee over an online conversation on facebook when I had only met her one time weeks prior and didnt even game her.