o she caught me looking from a large distance and started smiling now what?

[Sdives]

Here's a general question. What do you guys think?

So I have moved on from the other gym chick as she has been MIA. She's also moving for school. so forget that. the LDR BF. I cant bother with it. I don't care about whatever she's got going.

Anyways on to other gym antics. BTW Im in the gym 5 days a week for 2.5 hour sessions so I live there. There's a few nice girls here and there.

So this other girl she caught me looking from a large distance in our gym. I admit I was doing it for a while but when finally caught, she had a massive smile on her face. Like this was the mother of all smiles.

We've made small talk before as of last week. It went fine tonight I ran into her when she arrived and gave me a big smile. sometimes when I pass her in the gym I know she knows I'm there but pretends not to see me. We do this glancey thing sometimes.

I'm not sure what to make of this, like keep making small talk with her. etc but that huge smile when she caught me threw me off and she's kinds cold sometimes. She walks around the gym with RBF or looks depressed, so Im not sure what to think.

any advice? keep talking to her? what about that smile?

I'll talk to her again tonight

 

[resilient]

A big smile is a good IOI. Run with it.

Seeing as you two are gym rats, casually ask her to venue change to a protein smoothy place next door-ish. Kino, escalate, attempt a venue change again.

If you get luck-warm interest in the approach, say "Hey, I've got a lot going on this week, but I think we should get to know each other more. How about __ (activity) on __ (week) night?"

 

[Sdives]

BTW Edit It supposed to say "so" not "o"

 

[Sdives]

A big smile is a good IOI. Run with it.

Seeing as you two are gym rats, casually ask her to venue change to a protein smoothy place next door-ish. Kino, escalate, attempt a venue change again.

If you get luck-warm interest in the approach, say "Hey, I've got a lot going on this week, but I think we should get to know each other more. How about __ (activity) on __ (week) night?"

See the problem is I have dealt with attention wh*res/flirts before and have been faked out before. But this was the mother of all smiles. I just hope she approves of approaching her again. by her smiles she gave. She caught me redhanded.

She's 18 and her voice breaks a but when she speaks. So she's a shy girl. I cant go at her too fierce. Also her father goes to the gym, sometimes they are there at the same time but they rarely interact. So I have to watch myself a bit. I know who he is as the guys that work there have done the recon work for me and gave me the heads up.

But she caught me and gave me one massive smile. it was about 40 ft away. We also do the eye contact thing in the window as sometimes it reflects.

Actually you know what? I want to talk to her every time I see her but I feel like it would be too pushy as she may want space and know that some guy wont pounce on her and interrupt her workout every time she's there. But at the same time I want to show interest by talking to her you know? its such a bind as if I don't talk to her she may think I'm not interested ( assuiming that she is)

 

[resilient]

See the problem is I have dealt with attention wh*res/flirts before and have been faked out before. But this was the mother of all smiles. I just hope she approves of approaching her again. by her smiles she gave. She caught me redhanded.

That's fine. It's the gym, not school. You're not going to get detention for looking. Lol.

Simple thing... if you think you're caught in an AW trap. Small chit chat, ask for the date and get back to your weights/machine/press, etc. Anything other than an enthusiastic yes, is a no. Next.

The more you exchange looks and you don't make a plan, the less confident you'll come off and she'll think you're either shy as well, lack confidence, or fear rejection.

Strike while the iron is hot man.

Give zero fvcks about the dad being there. Be polite if you need to or a simple nod of acknowledgment. Game on, bro!

 

[Sdives]

AW= American Woman?, well I live in Canada but the point is understood. I'll try to talk to her for a few times then ask. Ive only made super tiny small talk with her for like 2 mins.

Other times I walk by in the gym as she is standing around and she pretends not to see me. Not sure how to take that, but must I assume attention from her non-stop? she really doesnt know me. I need to talk to her a few times first to get some comfort not just gym talk

 

[Sdives]

If you can act reactively in those moments, you will have abundance.

What? you mean i should have done something right there? I was actually doing triceps with another dude I see there so I was kinda busy.

 

[resilient]

AW

Attention wh0re.

@LARaiders85 is right. Don't hesitate with this one OP.

When you two lock eyes, approach < 2~3 seconds. Anything > 2~3 seconds, you look like a deer frozen in its tracks, ya know?

 

[dude99]

Here's a general question. What do you guys think?

So I have moved on from the other gym chick as she has been MIA. She's also moving for school. so forget that. the LDR BF. I cant bother with it. I don't care about whatever she's got going.

Anyways on to other gym antics. BTW Im in the gym 5 days a week for 2.5 hour sessions so I live there. There's a few nice girls here and there.

So this other girl she caught me looking from a large distance in our gym. I admit I was doing it for a while but when finally caught, she had a massive smile on her face. Like this was the mother of all smiles.

We've made small talk before as of last week. It went fine tonight I ran into her when she arrived and gave me a big smile. sometimes when I pass her in the gym I know she knows I'm there but pretends not to see me. We do this glancey thing sometimes.

I'm not sure what to make of this, like keep making small talk with her. etc but that huge smile when she caught me threw me off and she's kinds cold sometimes. She walks around the gym with RBF or looks depressed, so Im not sure what to think.

any advice? keep talking to her? what about that smile?

I'll talk to her again tonight

Just. Ask. Her. Out.

Everything you need to know will follow after.

 

[Sdives]

Attention wh0re.

@LARaiders85 is right. Don't hesitate with this one OP.

When you two lock eyes, approach < 2~3 seconds. Anything > 2~3 seconds, you look like a deer frozen in its tracks, ya know?

Yes I know I cant hesitate but when you have a shy girl, and I know she is shy as she as she acts that way with others, how many times do I talk to her before making a real move? I mean if I act too soon on a young shy-ish girl it could backfire. I have the guts too approach her and have but its timing it when asking

 

[Sdives]

So we talked a bit tonight, she opened up she seems super nice she seemed to want to continue talking but I let her get back to her thing.

I wasn't expecting her to be that talkative. One thing I kept asking her to repeat herself when I clearly heard her, I did it three times. I did this as I wasn't expecting her to talk much as she seems shy and I needed to buy an extra 2-3 seconds to think of something to say. Still a work in progress.

 

[marmel75]

I think you should turn and run away as fast as possible...maybe find the nearest car and jump underneath it to try and pretend she doesn't see you.

What kind of idiotic question is this? Go talk to her. Duh.

Also you should never be in the gym for 2.5 hours at a time, you are doing more harm than good. At a point between 45 minutes and 60 minutes after beginning your workout the body's rise in testosterone begins to drop rapidly and is replaced by cortisol.

Workout intensely for 45 minutes not non-intensely for 150 minutes. Its the equivalent of doing sprints versus a marathon with body composition.

 

[wifehunter]

Offer to go shopping with her, and walk her dog.

Housework for bonus points....and handyman stuff is the jackpot!!!

 

[TheGambino]

MAKE A SMALL TALK, FLIRT, HAVE FUN THEN ASK HER OUT TO MEET YOU OUTSIDE THE GYM FOR DRINKS.

 

[jboyd5]

Here's a general question. What do you guys think?

So I have moved on from the other gym chick as she has been MIA. She's also moving for school. so forget that. the LDR BF. I cant bother with it. I don't care about whatever she's got going.

Anyways on to other gym antics. BTW Im in the gym 5 days a week for 2.5 hour sessions so I live there. There's a few nice girls here and there.

So this other girl she caught me looking from a large distance in our gym. I admit I was doing it for a while but when finally caught, she had a massive smile on her face. Like this was the mother of all smiles.

We've made small talk before as of last week. It went fine tonight I ran into her when she arrived and gave me a big smile. sometimes when I pass her in the gym I know she knows I'm there but pretends not to see me. We do this glancey thing sometimes.

I'm not sure what to make of this, like keep making small talk with her. etc but that huge smile when she caught me threw me off and she's kinds cold sometimes. She walks around the gym with RBF or looks depressed, so Im not sure what to think.

any advice? keep talking to her? what about that smile?

I'll talk to her again tonight

Eye contact and a smile is her telling you to come talk to her.

 

[PokerStar]

you need new work out gear and you would like to ask her out to help pick out new shoes and dry fit shirts. done and done!

 

[Sdives]

she digs you. get her number, ask her out

Yes, likely. we just exchanged names so maybe after a apple more talks. She kept talking about this and that, then I said she better get back to her work out and mine as well. I want to talk to her of more than 5 mins before and maybe a couple times before I do anything.

 

[Sdives]

Eye contact and a smile is her telling you to come talk to her.

Yes I know but I have been misled before.

I think you should turn and run away as fast as possible...maybe find the nearest car and jump underneath it to try and pretend she doesn't see you.

What kind of idiotic question is this? Go talk to her. Duh.

Also you should never be in the gym for 2.5 hours at a time, you are doing more harm than good. At a point between 45 minutes and 60 minutes after beginning your workout the body's rise in testosterone begins to drop rapidly and is replaced by cortisol.

Workout intensely for 45 minutes not non-intensely for 150 minutes. Its the equivalent of doing sprints versus a marathon with body composition.

I do long walks as well as my knees aren't that good for running. Also people always talk with me so it slows me down a bit.

 

[Sdives]

MAKE A SMALL TALK, FLIRT, HAVE FUN THEN ASK HER OUT TO MEET YOU OUTSIDE THE GYM FOR DRINKS.

Yes but Its maybe good to talk a bit first. Then gauge it, she kept the conversation going and got off gym topics right away as I once again approached her with a gym topic. She may not be as shy as I thought, but then again maybe she's feeling more comfortable talking to me.

 

[Sdives]

this level of overthinking deserves to fail

No Not so much anymore I'll likely as after a few convos.